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Online Daters Face Obstacles

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Couples who meet online do not always work out because they select partners who are not compatible and they develop emotional ties before meeting in person, an Australian university researcher has found.

Women were more likely to choose the wrong partner as they become attracted to humorous comments and witty emails, according to psychologist Matthew Bambling from the Queensland University of Technology.

"Just because they can write a clever comment or a witty email, doesn’t mean they will be Mr. Right, that’s for sure," Bambling told Reuters. He says people will highlight their good points while covering up anything negative.

"Few guys for example would say ‘look, I’m a middle aged alcoholic who’s been married five times, pick me’. They’re going to present themselves as a good catch," Bambling said.

Bambling said it’s easy for people to put too much emotionally into an online relationship before they meet in person. "They often become quickly emotionally involved and invest in the other person before meeting. After meeting they move too fast because an emotional relationship actually started when they began interacting online before meeting, in which time they build up a fantasy view of the other person," he said.

Bambling recommends people can avoid the problems of online dating by meeting after the first few emails. This helps to avoid over investing emotionally or creating a fantasy about the other person.

He suggests meeting over coffee instead of dinner in case thing don’t work out because it’s less awkward and less pressure than sitting through a whole dinner.

"The main thing to remember is to make real life contact as soon as possible if you are interested in someone because it is here that you will know if a relationship is a possibility, said Bambling.

 

Online Daters Face Obstacles
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    " Have you ever noticed that most people put "social drinker – maybe one or two". But there’s not a place for "I’m a sloppy drunk – please email me anyway." That’s not me, but it’s just strange that it isn’t an option on here : P "

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    Totally agree with you

    It is so easy to unwittingly create an illusion of yourself that is not an accurate representation of yourself hen communicating by email

    Your suggestion of meeting after the first few emails is very valid

     

    just to add that it is important that you meet in a public place eg a cafe or a busy park. Not at your apartment or his.

    Just be sensible and stay safe

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  • Guest

    i think the initial chatting before you meet the person is really just to ensure you eliminate potential no-no’s – hopefully from the first few comments you can gauge a few things like whether the person’s background, level of education and general views are compatible with yours to avoid a very awkward meeting.. but once you’re happy with the basics i definitely recommend meeting asap – and don’t give the person any details that will allow them to trace you afterward until you’ve met and decided that you’d like to take it further.. even if they sound fantastic :)

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    Of course you don’t meet up and then become wife and husband. Online dating is a way for singles to meet new people – not a way to fall in love in a virtual reality :-)

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    Who would actually “choose a partner” after talking online, and NOT getting to know the real person in real life? Sounds very weird. If you spend the time to actually get to know the person you talked to on the net, you’d find out if you were really a match.

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