Taylor Swift’s love life has been the topic of conversation longer than most of us would like to admit. But because she makes her relationships the center of her songwriting, it’s hard to ignore the digs she takes at her exes as those who know her music try and figure out which guy she’s talking about.

And though there have been several guys in the past couple of years–relationships which have been highly publicized by the media–Swift says she’s not the pursuer, ever.

“I’m sure if I looked up the latest Google Alerts rumor it would say I’m chasing somebody who doesn’t like me as much as I like him — people love that angle on me,” Swift said in an interview with Elle Magazine. “They’re like ‘Oh Taylor, coming on too strong again, chasing boys.’ I never chase boys. They don’t like it!”

Of course, many songwriters take things from their real life–especially the painful things–and turn them into hit songs. The difference here is that Swift is young, she’s female, and she’s prone to dating other celebrities. Those three things often turn into media gold, and though she seems to understand that, she also says she’s just doing what she’s always done.

“To me it’s just writing songs the way I always have,” Swift says. “It’s me sitting on my bed feeling pain I didn’t understand, writing a song, and understanding it better. If people want to dissect the lyrics, that’s their right, but it’s all coming from the exact same place as where I started. It’s just something I do to feel better.”