Jill Duggar: Why Short Engagements Are Important


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Jill Duggar Dillard, of TLC's 19 Kids and Counting, has had a whirlwind romance with her now husband Derick Dillard.

The Duggar's have been very open about their rules for courting; no kissing until marriage, and no holding hands until they are engaged. The couples always have a chaperone on dates, and a side-hug is the only appropriate form of physical contact.

Jill and Derick met through Jill's father Jim Bob Duggar a little over a year ago. After a short courtship, and an even shorter engagement, the couple tied the knot in June, and announced that they were expecting their first child just 60 days later.

During a recent interview with the New York Post, Jill explained why it is important to have a short engagement.

“We prayed a lot, prepared and really didn’t see any reason to have a long courtship and engagement,” Duggar explained. “Once we knew we wanted to get married, we didn’t want to put off the wedding for a long time and provide a stumbling block for ourselves."

"We purposed to save ourselves physically for each other within marriage (even our first kiss for our wedding day!), so we had a short engagement period," she continued. "We knew that we weren’t going to prevent having children, so when we found out we were expecting within our first month of marriage, we were thrilled!”

Jill also explained that it can be hard for a couple to stay pure through a long engagement. “You may not wanna push the wedding date out too far, as those natural God-given desires with too much time between engagement and marriage can make it harder to remain pure,' she said. "If you are financially ready, and things are in place (which should be at the time the question is popped), we believe an engagement should only be long enough to plan a wedding!”