R Kelly Blames His Divorce on ‘The Notebook’

    July 3, 2012
    Chris Gabbard
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R Kelly recently missed out on the launch party for his new book “Soulacoaster” because he was having throat problems. After this revelation, we are now guessing that the real reason is that he was too embarrassed by its contents. TMZ was one of the few to actually read the book, and they are reporting that in it, R. Kelly blames his 2009 divorce to his former back-up dancer wife on the movie “The Notebook.”

“As the film credits started to roll, I couldn’t move. I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me. ‘The Notebook’ was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together.

But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine’s Day — when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses — that had come and gone … My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back.”

So without helicopters dropping flowers on your head, your marriage was meaningless. This has got to be the most ignorant, self-absorbed BS I have ever heard. When has real life love ever been like The Notebook? It’s a female masturbatory fantasy written by a mediocre author in an attempt to rob lonely women of their cash. That’s it. No one has a life like this.

Nicholas Sparks has ruined enough lives with this garbage… If you don’t find forbidden love in a melodramatic way (and apparently with helicopter roses bombarding you from above) then you are not in love. Please.

  • http://yahoo Darrell Stephens

    R.Kelly sexual need to be with female under the legal age consent will doom all his relationships with adult women.

  • mia

    It’s sad that R Kelly’s wife was to old for him. sarcastically speaking!!!!!!

  • mia

    It’s sad that R Kelly’s wife was too old for him. Sarcastically speaking!!!!

  • matt

    I like the Notebook. I think I’m the only dude who does. Though I like R Kelly, too. I conceived plenty kids while his music was playing. I wish I was still in love like that. All those moments I truly felt in love with their moms. Oh………… I wish I were still in love.

    • http://RKELLY.COM DDKC

      Awwww!!! That’s so sweet

  • Faye

    Judging from the excerpt from the book, I did not hear Kelly blaming the movie for the demise of his marriage. I heard that the notebook brought some reality into his life…it longed for what was gone. I wish the entire Kelly family well as they separate themselves from the life they have known and enter into the life that now lays before them. Good luck to all and take extra special care of the babies.

    Divorce is difficult enough without every passing judgement, unless you are anyone of these people involved all comments are speculation.

    • carla

      I so agree people are so ready to pass judgment on others without really being aware of the real situation at hand!

  • China

    She’s past the age of puberty…too old for him.

    Why isn’t he in jail???

    • Shawn

      Ummm, yeah…he’s not in jail because his lawyer beat the case……….

  • venus

    Hmmmmm so you don’t think the video of you taking a whiz on an underage girl might have had anything to do with it? What a crock!

    • tash


    • Vicuska

      Well said Venus!

  • Pumpkinlips

    Well..I have never watched the notebook..have only heard that its a great movie..Kels, I wish you a speedy recovery through your surgery so u can come back and do your thing with your music. Your true devoted fans are waiting!!!!

  • nickie crockhon

    I think as fans we judge the artist to hard. He is not perfect and he makes mistakes. We should not judge him . He’s HUMAN!!!!!!!! R.Kelly KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!! Keep doing you my brother .!!!!
    I support you no rumors can sway me!!!!! your true #1 fan. NEKO!!!!!!

    • http://www.ourworld Nia Fraser

      People can’t see what is going on look up now

  • DC Franco Chick

    Ummm, does the writer not understand the connection between a memory and blame? Even reading Chris’ interpretation it is explicitly clear that R. Kelly did not blame his divorce on the Notebook. He simply remembered when his marriage fell apart and remembered a positive memory. I guess the writer doesn’t understand empathy or sympathy based on what he wrote. And wow, what vitriol directed at Nicholas Sparks. As a female, I can tell you that I have never masturbated to the Notebook, but yes, I have been in love. Wishing that you may feel love that deep one day.

    • jimmy

      stop hatin on r.kelly you dum f****


    4 the last 20+ years R Kelly has not only been a pioneer in the world of R&B, but he’s also probably the last living 90’s sex symbol. every song the man has put out has been about love in the agape or making love. (got 2 daughters to prove it) lol… BUT to have the spotlight 24/7 leaves no room for error! like the urinating video! now I’m not condoning pissing on little girls, but the point i want to make behind that is that society has taught our children that celebrity is the ultimate accolade to be obtained “by any means necessary”! So now taking the last three points into consideration…I’ve seen with my own 2 eyes, KELZ (W/WIFE)!!!, get mobbed by some of the sexiest women in the city at the Chicago Water Tower. Now what woman knowing still whom she marring in (R&B’S MR.12PLAY) can stand through all that? so Divorce in that case was like an album not going platinum…bound to happen sooner or later! BUT DAMN CAN’T A BROTHER REFLECT? EVEN HURRICANE IN ALL HER FURRY HAD A MOMENT OF CALM!!! YEAH I KINDA VENTED BUT I DON’T WANT TO WAIT TILL HE DEAD AND GONE TO REALIZE WE ARE ALL HUMAN AND MISTAKES/FAULTS COVERED US FROM BIRTH SO LET’S LEAVE THE JUDGING TO GOD AND KNOW THAT STORIES W/O FACTS ARE LIES AND RUMORS!!! KELZ FAN 4 LIFE CHI-TOWN!!!

    • http://yahoo terri

      That is good that R Kelly has a lot of fans yes he has some good music but he was not the best R&B singer from the 90’s so get it right. He is nasty but god don’t like it when your not true to his word. he was ashamed of being married and that is not good so he is paying for his mistakes and he need to come out of the closet hisself.


    Chris, men have their own masturbatory fantasies in the media. YES, women can have theirs. Women deserve a fantasy life as much as anyone else. Everything else you said is okay.

  • http://yahoo Farrah

    Its a sad day when celebrity and accolades can trump pedophilia!…SMDH!

  • Edmond_joe

    So people really pass judgment without thinking so the writer has no clue between empathy and sympathy and no absolute difference between memories and blame

  • carly featherson

    personally you cant blame a tv show or movie for a damn divorce. just simply say sit wasnt working out not even a famous person is perfect your like ordinary people out cast because everyone is in your personal life or maybe it was from the molestation or the nasty ass pissing shit


    “As the film credits started to roll, I couldn’t move. I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me. ‘The Notebook’ was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together.

    But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine’s Day — when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses — that had come and gone … My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back.”….. SOUNDS LIKE REFLECTION NOT BLAME 2 ME!!!…. HIND SITE IS 20/20, IF I COULD TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME, IF I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW! PICK YOUR PHRASE


  • tcole

    It’s interesting that he blames “The Notebook” for his divorce and doesn’t consider that the sex tape, trial and negative media attention led to his divorce.

  • mrs.cv

    I really don’t care celebrities do this every day they human just like us. I didn’t no he was married period he should stayed single. He didn’t spoke on her so woman to woman he got wat he deserves. Jesus ordained marriages and we take it for granted. Maybe he learn from this one and i hope they can heal over this.

  • Dirk

    So it was not the child rape but the notbook, glad we cleared that up!

    • Terry Goldberg

      Dirk: good point! So a “Chick Flick” breaks up a marriage! R Kelly is the only person who believes that!!

      • Stop Hating

        Please stop judging people. Look in your own backyard first! Give people a chance to change and move forward. Forgive people as the God within has forgiven you. Do you want to be judged for things you have done when you were young and making mistakes that you are now trying to grow up and live a happier and well balanced life. Focus on the good and stop focusing on the bad all of the time. For instance send wishes of “I hope R. Kelly is learning from his mistakes as we all have done in life”. No one is perfect and I am praying for him.”

  • M

    There has to be more to this! Come on! This is just an excerpt from a book! If journalists are going to tell a story, they should tell the COMPLETE story! I couldn’t jump to conclusions based on this! Maybe, R. Kelly didn’t realize his marriage was over until he saw the movie. Maybe this was a sign of things to come. Maybe he felt guilty about himself and his mistakes so he felt there was a point of no return. We don’t know the whole story.

  • Terry Goldberg

    I agree with M! Why did R Kelly get a divorce!? There has to be more to his divorce than a silly “chick flick”! Because if that’s true everybody would be getting a divorce!

    • mia

      i agree he doesnt blame the notebook he just states that the movie reminded him of something he did for his wife and he realized those days were gone. Why cant people allow him to express how he felt without slamming him. the writer of this article is an idiot.

  • James

    Nowhere in that statement does he blame the Notebook for his marriage ending. I don’t see where you guys get that. He said his marriage died, but doesn’t say his marriage died, because of the Notebook.

  • http://n/a O.J

    Besides the fact that he is a womanizer and participates in all unacceptable activities that dishonors his wife, the blame should not be on a movie. What an idiot. Roses from a helicopter or whatever does not represent love. Waste of money if you don’t honor and cherish. Get it together people. Love is to die for! Especially when you found someone willing to lay down their life for you!

  • doug

    he love underage girls he’s a freak n sad as joke

  • Joshua

    Reading this seems like more of a waste of time than R. Kelly’s “blaming”. Do you feel better about yourself now Chris? I don’t really like the idea that you’re white and writing this. Do you do articles on Taylor Swift’s bad decisions too or..? I hope the answer’s yes..

  • jaxx

    Article was on point! Good job Chris!!! R.Kelly is a Pedophile, his ex wife deserves a healthy relationship with a REAL man!

    • Jaxy Callfer

      R. Kelly is an idiot, and the writer is an idiot, and who ever agree with either, is an idiot, because it’s all stupid. This didn’t even deserve our time. He didn’t blame The Note Book, he was bragging about having the money to send a helicopter in the air with an obscene amount of roses.

  • Jaxy Callfer

    Sorry Jaxx, didn’t mean to add my comment as your reply….I’m now a idiot also…lol.

  • cynthynny

    I don’t know anything about “The Notebook” or the gossip. My life does not evolve around gossip. I like R.Kelly as an artist and like his dance moves in the video “Step”. I am a true fan of his. I don’t put him above God. People need to realize that these people need some parts of everyones lives need to be their own crosses to bear and let them be judged like everyone else. He put his pants on one leg at a time like all of us.

  • cynthynny

    I have watched the show “Hollywood Exes”. R Kelly’s wife is not that cute with fat thighs and needs to stop all that crying and show some spunk and take the money from R Kelly and get busy with her dancing. She was dancing for R Kelly as a back up dancer and now she begs “I just wanna dance man”. Quit with the dramatic acting and be for real. I hope this show is not gonna be more women acting the fool. And don’t air all your dirty laundry in public.

  • http://RKELLY.COM DDKC

    Damn if people would look in the mirror, people who live in glass houses, you get the point. I love R. for the musical genius that he is, being sexy and good looking don’t hurt either. I will always support his music. Yes he does have real true loyal fans that ride with him and have since Born In The 90’s. When I see him in concert I am always amazed at the turn out, women from all ages, we walked in with senior citizens at the Love Letter Tour and they were there to see R Kelly. He knows that he’ll get negative energy but that is not what his job is about, it’s to make music for his fans, and that he does very well. #1 Fan Always!

  • http://yahoo debra keaton

    i am his biggest fan no matter how anyone else see him.i have been in love with him and his sexy music since i first heard him.he is the man i man i hope to meet one day.he is very gifted and so talented and i pray he keep making such great music.your one true fan loving you in cleveland,ms.

  • Mrs. Doe

    I love R. Kelly…I think he is a musical genius, but as with all such ones there is a dark side…Everyone knows that back taxes always include interest and penalities…so what starts as 2 million can easily swell to $6 mil, so stop with the drama on his. I also wonder how they determine a persons wealth who is typically paid in cash…the divorce must have contributed to this…anyway…Luv 2 U R…keep singing…