Kate Hudson Heeds Mom’s Advice: ‘Men Come and Go’By: Pam Wright - April 25, 2014
At 35, Kate Hudson seems very comfortable in her own skin and is in no rush to marry long-time fiancé Matthew Bellamy, with whom she shares parenting duties for their 2-year-old son Bing.
The actress talked about life, love, relationships and fitness in an interview recently for a Self cover story.
Hudson has been engaged to Muse-frontman Matthew Bellamy since April 2011. Earlier this year, she told Kelly Ripa on Live With Michael and Kelly that she wouldn’t be getting married “anytime soon” because she and her rocker fiance were just “so busy” right now and had no time to plan a wedding.
However, reports indicate the couple have been in a rough patch of late.
Hudson is taking the rough patch in stride, remembering advice she once received from her mother Goldie Hawn: “Honor your female friendships, because men can come and go, but when we nurture our relationships with women, they can be forever.”
“I really believe that,” she said. “My girlfriends are so important to me. They’ve been my rock-solid foundation. You have a choice: Support the woman standing next to you or compete with her. But if you compete, you’re going to be miserable. Stick with what motivates you and makes you happy.”
After one failed marriage to Black Crowes singer Chris Robinson, with whom she has 10-year-old Ryder, the Something Borrowed actress looked to her parents, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, who have never been married, but have enjoyed a lasting relationship few in Hollywood ever know.
“If I look at my parents, who’ve been together thirtysomething years, I’d say no matter what they’ve been through, they share similar values and really like each other,” said Hudson.
Hudson said she doesn’t believe happiness is based on circumstances, but is a choice.
“I think happiness is a practice,” she said. “But not the sort you find in self-help books, where you smile and have a vision board. You’re fooling yourself to think that’s how you’re going to find it. I love the idea of a gratitude journal, but there are times when mine turns into a venting journal. Not so grateful, just a big ol’ vent!
“It sounds simple, but it’s not,” she adds. “I want to be around for a while for my kids.”
Like most women, Hudson does have some insecurities concerning her looks.
“I can look at a picture of Gisele [Bündchen] all day long and say, ‘I’ll never have legs that long or lips that big.’ You have to honor who you are,” she said.
Hudson says the best way to combat insecurities is to take good care of what you have.
“My workout mantra is ‘break a sweat every day,” she said. “Even if it’s just for 20 minutes.
“I make sure I eat well without depriving myself of the things that I love,” she said.
With a love of foods like “cheeseburger and fries, creamy white-truffle pasta, bowls of ice cream,” what is important to Hudson is enjoying everything with a little bit of restraint thrown in.
“Everything in moderation,” said Hudson, “but I indulge at least three times a week.”
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