Neil Patrick Harris spoke candidly recently about being married and what a long relationship can become over a period of time, saying that everyone’s “honeymoon phase” comes to an end eventually. But, he says, if you look for new ways to be inspired by the one you love, you can keep that spark burning.

Harris and his longtime partner, David Burtka, have been together since 2004 and have two children together, which helped the actor see things in a new way.

“Having kids was one of those great moments for me. Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That made me re-fall in love with him,” Harris said.

Harris makes a good point by saying that everyone falls out of love with everything–homes and jobs as well as other people–so the key is to find new things to get excited about.

“Honeymoon phases end. They just do. I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually,” he said.

Harris has been busy with the hit Broadway production of “Hedwig And The Angry Inch” recently, which requires him to call up a very different side of himself. He spoke recently about tapping into his feminine side and how wearing heels really feels for a guy.

“I thought that masculinity equated confidence, and I was struggling to feel confident. Hedwig was a great active departure from that [mentality] because everything that I had known about confidence had to be thrown out the window. Now, all of a sudden, those masculine postures and inflections were tells that I wasn’t doing the job right. I had to be overtly feminine, and it felt totally weird. Initially, walking around in heels is a very challenging thing for a guy to do. But once you’ve done it six or seven times, it’s weirdly empowering. I had to move my hips and legs in a way that guys don’t get to do so boldly – it was fun!”

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