Wil Wheaton Has Advice for Kids Being Bullied

By: Erika Watts - March 31, 2014

Were you ever picked on for being a nerd or have a child who is being picked at school for being nerdy? If so, Wil Wheaton has some advice, and who better to listen to than Wesley Crusher from Star Trek: The Next Generation (or plain old Wil Wheaton from The Big Bang Theory, for the younger folks), after all?

Nearly a year after Wheaton answered a question about how to deal with being called a “nerd” at Denver Comicon, his response has gone viral after the video was posted on Reddit.

“When you were a kid, were you called a nerd and how did you deal with it?” the young girl, who has been identified as Mia, asked Wheaton. Check out an excerpt from Wheaton’s response below.

When I was a little boy I was called a nerd all the time because I did not like sports, I loved to read, I liked math and science and I thought school was really cool and it hurt, a lot.

When a person makes fun of you, when a person is cruel to you, it has nothing to do with you. It’s not about what you said. It’s not about what you did. It’s not about what you love. It’s about them feeling bad about themselves. They feel sad.

So, when a person is cruel to you like that, I know that this is hard, but honestly the kind and best reaction is to pity them. And don’t let them make you feel bad because you love a thing.

And I will tell you this —it absolutely gets better as you get older.

Watch Wheaton’s entire heartfelt response to Mia’s question in the video below.

As Wheaton said, things do get better, and Mia’s mom actually chimed in on the Reddit thread and told users that her daughter has had a much better school year so far. “This year has been a good year, but she noticed another little girl in her class kept getting picked on by the other students. She became this girl’s friend and stands up for her when the other kids are being mean,” the mom said.

The news that Mia has had a better school year and is even standing up for other kids being picked on made its way to Wil Wheaton, who posted about the comment on his blog. “I’m so happy to learn that she and the girl who was mean to her have changed that relationship dynamic, but I’m so incredibly proud that she’s standing up against bullying with other kids in her school,” Wheaton wrote.

In a tweet that likely relates to the situation, Wheaton has some advice for his more than two million Twitter followers:

Wheaton isn’t the only celebrity to take a stand against bullying, although his comments on bullying have probably been the most eloquently stated. Nick Cannon, Taye Diggs, and Michelle Trachtenberg are just a few celebrities who have participated in the STOMP Out Bullying campaign.

Image via Twitter

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  • Lord War Bunny

    Beautiful, very eloquent. I think that says it all.

  • bumboo58

    baseball bat to the creeps head. i guarantee they will leave you alone. even the badazzez on the football team will avoid you. especially if you quietly off one of them too.

  • Brad Lagoon

    Will,
    I was bullied by my brother for most of my life. He would find any excuse to give me trouble. He would do anything to me. Over the years he had given me a slice of pie with whipped cream on top. The whipped cream turned out to be shaving cream. He would break things around home then when my parents got home he would tell them that I did it. He would steal things of mine then I would get in trouble for losing them. He would show up at my house drunk and wanting to sleep it off in my driveway. All kinds of different things like this. This went on until the day that he died so don’t be telling these kids that things will get better unless you know the kids and know the family. Things don’t always work out that way.

    • Chad

      Sounds like your brother was just an asshole more than a bully.

    • karrie_Pgh

      Brad, once you become an adult, you are allowed to make and set your own boundaries. It’s hard to not do things for family, no one wants to be thought of as ‘the one that didn’t help’. But there’s helping, and then there’s enabling. You’re allowed to NOT be a superhero, but a regular person with limits. Never forget that. It’s hard to learn that, especially if family dynamics were stressed, and taught family is everything and comes first. I wish you well. It’s not easy. But it does get easier with each little step.

  • David

    Beautiful speech, too bad it won’t work. Bullies , unfortunately, mistake kindness for weakness. The only way to stop a bully is to fight back! Even if you lose the fight, you have to fight back so the bully doesn’t get any satisfaction from picking on you. You have to make picking on you not worth it. The bully will then move on to someone else who won’t fight back.

  • RebaFlorida

    so beautifuly said, can I put his quote of “they just feel bad about themselves” on a T Shirt,

  • poindexter

    poindexter to all you dorks out there. learn to fight and whoop arse.

  • Mee yagi

    excellent advice…add…learn the martial arts just in case

  • Mee yagi

    Brad Lagoon…man up you nerd. He wasn’t just speaking to you. You evidently think your the norm, thats half the problem. Will’s words work effectively especially to youth. Your a grown man and a whiner. There is no hope for people who enjoy remaining victims.

    • Brad

      I’m not remaining a victim I’m just giving an opinion.

  • Richard Canipe

    I’m very proud Wil Wheaton has Advice for Kids being bullied!

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