Pat Robertson: Cheating Husband’s Wife Should be Grateful [VIDEO]

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Pat Robertson is well-known for making controversial statements. In addition to failed end of the world and presidential election predictions, the well-known conservative Christian has blamed everything from the 9/11 attacks to hurricane Katrina on gay people and non-Christian society.

This week, Robertson has made headlines again, this time for blaming the victim of marital infidelity.

While addressing questions on his Christian Broadcasting Network, Robertson told a woman who was cheated on and trying hard to forgive her husband that men can be expected to do that sort of thing. He goes on to tell her that she should be grateful for all of the things he provides for her and attempt to “fall in love with him again.”

“Stop. Talking. About. The. Cheating,” said Robertson. “He cheated on you. Well, he’s a man, ok. So, what you do is begin to focus on why you married him in the first place. On what he does good. Does he provide a home for you to live in? Does he provide food for you to eat? Does he provide clothes for you to wear? Is he nice to the children?…”

After that, things get a bit cathartic for Robertson, who gets specific on a scenario the question did not even mention.

“You’re praying ‘oh, God, keep me not to hate him for what he did when he was with that stripper in that hotel room ten years ago and I’ll never forgive him…please help me.'”

Robertson goes on to make his excuse for men even clearer, and implies that the woman who sent the question may, in fact, be at fault.

“Like it or not, males have a tendency to, uh, wander a little bit and what you want to do is to make a home so wonderful that he dosen’t want to wander.”

Pat Robertson: Cheating Husband’s Wife Should be Grateful [VIDEO]
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  • Frank Felix

    I am glad I listened to the whole interview . I think the advice was not as bad
    as the article painted it. I would say that if the cheater was the wife , he would have given the same advice. As christians we are to forgive each other and move on. If couples were to practice forgiveness toward each other more marriages would be saved and our children would be a lot better off.

    • gregory johnson

      Yeah, probably the advice isn’t as bad as it sounds, its probably best to live with people you don’t trust, instead of having a trial seperation to see if you can gain that trust back.

      • 1958Debs

        Soooo, he tells women to be grateful for the VD that he brings home with him? i can see that. and if they die, then they no longer have to put up with the louse.

        • Gwangju

          Come on, the guy used a raincoat.

        • Tom R

          Yeh, Robertson’s view stated a thousand times is that woman is 3rd in “his version” of biblical hierarchy, God, Man, Woman. So, if man treats woman badly, it is God’s role to punish (get even with) man!!! Wow, and we spend so much time these days talking about Moslem radicals!!! Defending Robertson on any basis has got to be a ridiculous clallenge!!

          Robertson for years has been a bloody financial business — anybody that thinks otherwise has been grossly misled.

      • C.L.(Chuck)Troupe

        How in the world does one “gain that trust back” while living apart? How long should such a trial separation last? You don’t see each other for, what, two months? six months? And after that the trust just automatically comes back? Where does this kind of marital counseling come from?

    • John Cady

      Forgiveness is important, but at the same time so is accountability. Robertson’s callous comment, “but he’s a man,” makes one think the husband is off the hook because of his gender and biology. Would my wife let me off the hook if she found another woman in my bed? I seriously doubt it. I would not let my wife off the hook either if I found her with another man.

      This flippant approach to the way men behave, without accountability, has helped fuel the divorce rate in this country. Mr. Robertson sounds like a Christian version of a Muslim extremist who treats women like property. No wonder fewer people go to church or are willing to accept Jesus Christ. It is our fault as believers when we permit this garbage to be promoted.

      • RG

        Right on, brother

      • Jay

        John, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

      • Deloris E.

        Hey, I couldn’t agree more..kudos to you for speaking the truth and nothing but the truth on this matter. It made me want to slap Robertson when he said ” does he provide for you, provide clothes, are nice to the children”. What if the wife works and contributes an equal amount into the household?
        The cheater should be the one reaching to touch and to earn forgiveness and trust.

        • george

          How can the cheater reach out?Touching? out of the question! not the way females behave after such things!Some men do the same thing too.

          • Alva Greene

            There is the human aspect of hard wiring of men vs women. Mr. Robinson was wrong on the scriptural and as George has pointed out the natural aspect of the matter. God wants us to use reason to consider a problem. He even supplied extra wisdom to Solomon to help him make decisions. Tx George plain good old common sense can slove alot you don’t have to pray that you will carry on, hoping you do better so the other party will keep their vow (promise).

          • http://yahoo Eleanor Washburn

            Do you realize how hurt a woman is to find out that her husband has been cheating on her? Some can forgive, some never do. She needs time to heal and not some chauvanistic advice from a person who is willing to excuse the man because that’s the way men are!!!

        • Jami Theresa

          I agree with you completely. It’s a shame when the woman is blamed for her husband’s infidelities. I am shocked he would say such a thing.

        • Tom R

          The truth shall set you free!! Well, Pat is anything but free. There isn’t much he’s ever said that didn’t want to make me slap him. Anybody that continues to try to defend Robertson and his version of so-called religion business, has got to be working some serious overtime these days!!!!!!!!

        • Lindsey

          Delores, with all due respect, you just insulted every wife and mother who decides, of her own accord, to stay home and raise her children. She certainly “works” her tush off and definitely “contributes an equal amount into the household” (if not more I’d say). I’m thankful for my husband who “provides” for me and my children and I know he’s thankful for me, taking on so many other responsibilities. We both have college degrees and yet I chose to follow a “career” that is more important. Investing in the lives of my family full time. That being said, adultery is absolutely unacceptable and my husband and I are disgusted by Robertson’s remarks. They certainly are NOT Biblical. (Other then us being called to forgive of course).

      • Andrea

        Thank you John. Accountability on the individual level. I love that.

      • ubyy

        Here is the thing: He who puts his trust in a man is cursed. Gods word! That is what I think he was pointing out. ALL have sinned and usually when there is cheating going on, noone is innocent completely. When people are taking care of business at home…..one normally does not stray! The bible does say forgive and ye shall be forgiven. It nowhere says that it is ok to sin, NOWHERE>

        • Marie

          ubyy: utter nonsense. Pathetic.

          • Judytrust1

            This is pure bull. Cheating has nothing to do with taking care of business at home. The cheater is insecure,and a liar living a fantasy life. The person that he/she cheats on is living in the real world. It’s the cheater who has the problem who entered the marriage with demons that they couldn’t deal with. You can’t be faithful if you have no faith. Women work bring home probably more money than her cheating husband pays his bill while
            he steals from her. Pat Robertson has stuck his foot in his wife again. Cheating is about trust. The cheater can’t keep their pants zipped or her legs closed. Some people’s diginity for sale for three pieces of silver.

          • Betsy

            What an ass!

        • DALE

          I disagree that if thingsare the way they need to be at home the male won’t go astray. If man concieves sin in his heart it really doesn’t matter how wonderful his wife is he is going to sin.

          • marilyn peyton reinders

            very well spoken!

        • Norman

          Hey ubyy… Where does it teach about in the Bible on God’s view on “taking business at home” and you wouldn’t stray? I think that is a secular rationalization for men or women to commit adultery… And it seems Pat is going into that same unbiblical territory… His opinions don’t matter,only the Bible’s. And so the secular rationalization of how he provides for her… does hint of treating her as possession. That is obvious. But more than that, he has violated his marriage commitment which if he is a Christian was made before and with God…
          Now on the subject of adultery… there is a lot spoken about that in God’s Word… So if you follow the Bible’s teachings… you got throw out of your heart any secular views… The what is not… then allows this to happen… And if this is being done… then you should overlook what happened… Rationalizations like these are what is hurting the Christian faith. Can’t have one foot in one boat and another foot in another boat… You will eventually fall into one or the other… or drown… too Christians live in the grey area…
          For me, I am all over the forgiveness and reconciliation teachings of the Bible… and hopefully they can work this out… But in the end, if you don’t drink only from the cistern God gave you… don’t go drinking from different one!

          • David S.

            You are living in a complete fantasy world. I hope to God you don’t have kids. You are talking about a mythology as if it was real. Not healthy.

        • Mike

          wow brother…”taking care of business” at home??? That would be protection, financial security etc. not sex… Since when is getting yourself off taking care of business? You won’t die..sounds like you have a problem just like someone with alcohol, drugs etc…you can jack in the shower too and not hurt anyone!!! You do not, DO NOT use another person for narcissistic and selfish wants…it is a privilege and not a right to ejaculate and quite frankly you are a fool if you think it is the wife’s job…It is for love making and reproduction…not a man’s ill conceived and selfish wants!!! Do you get her off orally?? well, that is her biological happiness…stop thinking of yourself and put her first…then you will be a man….not all men are pigs! Thank you John…agreed that so many are turning from the bible because of the behavior of men!

        • David S.

          The Bible is an ancient work of fiction so why are you quoting from it in 2013? It is time to let go of these primitive superstitions.

          • C.L.(Chuck)Troupe

            David your opinion of the Bible reveals the fact that not only do you not know what you’re talking about, but everything that you DO know and understand about the Bible could be placed into a capsule and stuffed … no … DROPPED into the rectum of a gnat.

        • Amy

          So we shouldn’t trust anything a man says since “He who puts trust in a man is cursed”. Does that include the marriage vows he made? The promises he made when getting married? If I can’t trust that or the man at all, what is the point of all of this??

      • http://www.webpronews.com/pat-roberson-cheating-husbands jen

        well the bible says any man who looks upon a woman with lust in his heart has committed adultry already. A man is to love his wife as Christ loves the Church… this man is exposing his wife to all kinds of diseases and now has made her distrust him in every way and I would feel that he doesnt love me after this escapade…the man wasnt even thinking…so to say a man is gonna be a man is just junk..

        • trekadam30

          But Christ hated the Church, as well as all forms of organized religion. “My father was not meant to be worshipped in buildings of stone & mortar; he was meant to be worshipped everywhere.”

          • trekadam30

            I mean, WAS NOT MEANT to be worshipped in buildings of stone & mortar. Sorry.

          • jisland

            The Church is not a building of bricks and mortar. The Church is the people.

          • Hector M.

            I disagree and do believe Christ came to this earth and did organize HIS church. All through the bible you read the apostles visiting congregations in different cities and trying to help them understand the teachings Christ taught.

          • Marie

            Where does it say Christ hated the Church?

          • Ed Bearden

            You don’t have a clue. The church is not and never has been a building. The church is the collective body of all born again, the Greek word is “anothen” meaning from above, believers regardless of denomination. There will not be one corner for the Baptist and a different corner for the Presbyterian. We are one body, the bride of Christ. The building we call a church is simply the meeting place of a local assembly of believers. The problem we have today is to many folk who do not rightly divide the word of truth. If we are not 100% certain that what we are saying is true we should keep our mouth shut or in this case our fingers off the keyboard.

        • Alva Greene

          Also, there is the covent aspect of this whole matter. God is all about promises (long before the scribed ones) Vows are to our bond just like God’s promises are His to us. You are right Jen. The Torah even layes out went folks can put off or divorce the party that has broken his word( bond or promise). God’s word never changes. This was bad teaching which can lead to bad, stinking thinking and get others to be deceived into thinking it’s OK … must be it was spoken by a Christian man. Glad the Holy Spirit revealed the truth to you and you spoke up …for it’s not OK…it’s wrong.

        • DALE

          Agreed Jen, It will take years for her to once again trust him. I think that if both are willing they should try and save their marriage. She will have to forgive a man who doesn’t deserve forgivenss just as Jesus does the sinner. If she can do this and he can work at being a man who loves his wife as Christ loves the church and if she can once again place herself into the role of a woman willing to give this man a second chance and willing to take on the role of a loving caring wife they can save their marriage. There are a lot of if’s and only one way to make it work forgiveness and surrendering to a loving savior and to each other. The husband needs to genuinely understand that he is the lucky one here and that he owes her big time. The wife on the other hand needs to be full of grace and only expect his love in return.

          • Gerald

            Well written Dale. These are what we lack in our unions today.

      • http://www.webpronews.com/pat-roberson-cheating-husbands jen

        well the bible says any man who looks upon a woman with lust in his heart has committed adultry already. A man is to love his wife as Christ loves the Church… this man is exposing his wife to all kinds of diseases and now has made her distrust him in every way and I would feel that he doesnt love me after this escapade…the man wasnt even thinking…so to say a man is gonna be a man is just junk..

        • Johnny Utah

          Then I am guilty as sin already…why not just act on my impulses.

          • Alva Greene

            Why, because once you are washed in the blood of Christ (which was to reverse all of man’s wrongs or sins) you become a new man. If the Queen of England goes to a mall, looking like the others there and she states she’s the Queen … it doesn’t change anything if others don’t believe her; for the fact remains “She is the Queen”. The same with you; once you are in the family of God, thru Christ; your name has been engraved in His book of life and no one can chg that. Keep in the Word for the Holy Sprit will guide you into all truth. Sometimes he uses man to convey a message to us. It just happens this man didn’t convey the truth.

          • Mike

            really sorry you make men look narcissistic and selfish…that is what is wrong in society and the root of all discourse in this world…men were not made to think with their penis only…if this were so, he must allow his wife the same eye candy and attention must be made to look like a mighty man and not a pig..fat and sloppy, demanding and needy pig…women must then go for and chose the man who puts more effort into his own body than demanding others to make him feel good…obviously bad, bad advice and more like manipulation making true christians look bad!

          • Trudy

            Your answer can be found right in the Bible…because you WON’T suffer consequences just for your thoughts if you realize they are wrong and ask God for forgiveness. However, if you ACT upon those thoughts you WILL suffer consequences rather it’s here on earth or when you stand before God one day. That is dangerous thinking on your part.

      • Abdul

        why bring Muslim to this conversation. I am Muslim who loves very much his wife and treat her like queen. You called Robert’s comment callous, not sure what to call you. but I forgive you brother.

        • Lisa

          He didn’t say “Muslims” he said “Muslim extremest”. Big difference.

          • James

            There was no need for him to even make that kind of analogy. This man is a big hypocrite! I’ve never had any respect for him and hypocrisy is much of the reason why.

      • Abdul

        why bring Muslim to this conversation. I am Muslim who loves very much his wife and treat her like queen. You called Robert’s comment callous, not sure what to call you. but I forgive you brother.

      • Ralph Malph

        Well put.

      • Donna

        Exactly, John. This is the reason why I have absolutely no time for organized religion. These frauds (teleevangelists, ministers, priests) hide their sexism behind religion, turning off LOTS of people.

        And this country is loaded with Christian extremists. Robertson leads the pack. He needs to join his butt buddy Falwell in the 9th Circle of Hell already.

        • Kate

          Donna, you said:…(This is the reason why I have absolutely no time for organized religion. These frauds (teleevangelists, ministers, priests) hide their sexism behind religion, turning off LOTS of people.

          And this country is loaded with Christian extremists. Robertson leads the pack. He needs to join his butt buddy Falwell in the 9th Circle of Hell already.)

          This country is loaded with people that won’t open their minds to God at all. Speaking of extremism… reread what YOU wrote.

          • Jami Theresa

            Kate I couldn’t agree with you more. People like Pat Robertson turn so many people away from God and the church ..I stopped watching his show years ago because all I ever took away from his preaching is how to hate…

          • POPD

            Kate, kate, kate,

            why would I want to open my mind to a work of pure fiction and accept said work as a guiding principal? Almost every religion out there claims theirs is the one and only true religion and if you do not follow the path they lay before you that you will be damned or not enlightened or whatever the “punishment” is. Prove to me that your religion is the one and true path – prove it to me with data and scientific fact! Don’t tell me I too need to become yet another mindless member of some herd blindly following the preachings, teachings, and rantings of another.

            I have many friends that follow their chosen path to god or enlightenment or whatever. There is not a single one that doesn’t “church shop”, that being through usually a long search finding a church that speaks what they want to hear, what their interpretation of what they believe is being presented. And, when said church’s message no longer matches their beliefs they then go and find a different one that better suits their needs.

            And you want me to open my mind to madness like this? I don’t know a single “christian” that doesn’t have serious issues of one kind or another. Of course they dont see it but hey, they pray and all is well because they speak to god. Like one of my neighbors who told me she was selling her house and moving to CA because her husband left her and god told her to move. Then, just a few weeks later she took the house off the market and when asked told me that her husband came back and “god told her to stay”.

            For starters I don’t believe “god” would change his mind. Second off – these idiots that have conversations with god are in reality doing nothing more than having a conversation with the voice in their head – the same voice we all carry despite what religion if any one might subscribe to.

            In short, Donna had a very good point that you missed completely all because of your short-sighted vision. You refuse to accept that your way of believing might be good for you but it in fact might not be good for everyone. Our country was founded on the precept of religious freedom – THAT INCLUDES NOT BELIEVING IN GOD OR BEING FORCED TO FOLLOW THE PRESCRIBED RELIGIOUS MANDATES OF THOSE THAT DO!

            Not believing in god is not extremism. However, believing that those who make a deliberate choice to not be a mindless follower of yet another form of mythology is in fact the precise definition of an “extremist”.

        • DALE

          Donna you sound pretty extreme yourself! Wow toalk about hard case. Yes some people will sin because they are human other will do stupid things because they are human that is the reason Jesus became a sacrifice for our sins. I am not saying we are free to sin I am saying people are human and thus the need for a Savior.

          • James

            Why on earth are you giving this man a free pass? Dressing and excuse sprinkled with message in my view is displaced thinking. I do not by the sin argument. It’s an explanation and not an answer

        • Ed Bearden

          You’ve seen him there in person? Falwell I mean. I often wondered who the gate keeper was.

      • phil coleman

        John, where I disagree with Robertson. Your comments lack some insight too. “fewer people are going to church” “fewer people accepting Christ” No, Christianity is rapidly growing worldwide… also to campare Robertson to an Muslim extremist, is to say you lack undersanding. Boils down to him taking stupid, thats all.

        • Carrie

          It’s worse than just talking stupid. To make the excuse that this is the way men are going to be and a cheated on wife should accept it is the thinking (or non thinking) of a male chauvinist pig. To shift the blame on the wife (taking care of your man at home blah blah) is garbage. That’s an old one. Robertson’s philosophies, if you want to call them that, sound demonic to me… this is the same guy who was all for Bush’s war in Iraq and quoted the Bible (ad nauseum) to support it. War is an invention of the devil and Robertson was all over it. People follow Robertson and think he can say or do no wrong.. I think he’s done quite a bit of damage and is a nuisance in the world.

      • Marie

        John Cady, you are exactly right. Mr. Robertson’s viewpoint does come perilously close to a Muslim extremist. Mr. Robertson has probably done more damage to the Christian religion(of which I am a member) than many outright critics of our Faith. The fact that right wing Republicans put a blanket condemnation on Democrats for supporting a woman’s right to choose (I do not believe in abortion, but I can’t tell a woman what she can do)gave the imprssion that the leader of the free world should be elected on the abortion issue alone. That is ludicrous.

        • Mike

          abortion is personal though not right but if man doesn’t want it then he must take personal responsibility for his sperm and not impregnate…he is the controller and donator so if he doesn’t want abortion or fatherless families, he needs to not engage, wear a condom or get a vasectomy…men have the final say…it is not the woman’s final option and she should not artificially take pills everyday just so he can avoid responsibility!

      • harvey melcher

        Sorry, John – it is NOT “our fault as believers”……you think we “permit” this garbage to be promoted? there will always be narcissistic freaks like pat robertson who paint their selfish phariseeism with a patina of religiosity. It makes no sense to assume responsibility for that, nor to blame other believers. Pat’s at fault and will give account. End of story.

      • Marie

        John Cady: I nominate you for President in the next election.Mr. Robertson’s philosophy is not typical of Protestant faith, thank God.

        • Dallas in NC

          Yeah Marie. You probably voted for Obummer too.

      • Chris

        Well, the bible itself promotes women as property. You can sell you daughters as slaves. Adulterous women are to be stoned. This is God’s word according to the bible. To be truthful, I think many people don’t go to a church or accept Christianity when they read the entire bible and know exactly what it says. I was a Christian for 20+ years..until I started to critically look at the scriptures.

        • Alva Greene

          Sorry to hear that Chris. I think you’ve thrown the baby out with the bath water. Outside of church folk + not wanting to be apart of that group, any more. Did’t you gleam the personal walk wih God he wants to have with you? You quoted the OT not the new good news, did you not get the revelation that the OT is a mirror to the NT. Take Joseph for an example …he is Jesus being revealed before Christ was born, earthly. Jesus and the HS are thru out both books as they were (all three parts of the Godhead) in the verse first verse. I pray you re-read the entire thing; not to disprove but to gain insight into the heart of God. For He considers you His own …Beloved and Favored. Take care.

        • Becky

          I agree with you Chris. Once I really studied the Bible I found it to be so absurd that I couldnt believe any more. The majority of so called Christians bend vast parts of the Bible to fit their personal way of life. Cultlike in that Pat Robertson leads the weak of mind with his harmful thinking in the name of religion.

      • Debbie Jones

        It is time for Pat Robertson to hang it up. This response was so poor in every way. He is not representing the Jesus that I know. I agree with John. Well said!

      • Dale Leehy

        Matthew 6:14,15
        14 For if you forgive men for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 Bur if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions. (men is used as all mankind, male and female)

        Can we forgive as God forgives, do we understand Gods forgiveness? Most of the time we forgive others as it fits us, not God. We, Male and female, sould be like Christ and at all times be ready to forgive, but we are not. Christ forgave all at the cross. We only forgive people that meet our likeing.

      • Quentin

        What are you talking about? permit what? men in American are the most castrated in the world and it shows in the society…how many times do u hear a man in home depot say “I have to ask my wife” I use it as an excuse not to buy a lot of these numb n*ts really mean it lol and its money they worked hard for please whatever man.

      • Amy Laderer

        He spoke of him being a MNA, meaning that we are flawed and are sinful. Not that it is OK because he is a man. Human being would have been a better choice of words, but then again Robertson is also only human.

        • Carrie

          No Amy, he did mean MAN and not human being. You are grasping at a straw.

      • Mcflyer54

        Robertson earlier stated that it was both acceptable and understandable for a man to divorce his wife if she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or some other form of dementia since she would no longer know him anyway. He did not however, say that divorce would be acceptable for the woman if the husband was diagnosed. This man just keeps getting weirder and weirder.

      • efarenas

        when robertson says “hes a man”, hes referring to the Christian idea that he is of the flesh, meaning he is prone to sin. he is not referring to his gender.

      • Belia

        Besides his callous comments, he assumes that she’s a helpless woman who counts on him to provide a roof over her head and food in her kitchen. Additionally, he reminds her of the “nice things” that she and her children enjoy because of him.
        What the hell does he know? I know almost no body who have a life style this way. She provides too, probably, and the children’s happiness is not based on his lame (and cheating) ass showing up to a ball game. He broke his marital vows and she’s trying to learn how to move past it. What does Robertson say? He says to shut up and sit down and enjoy the nice things you have. Jeez. What a world. What a guy.

      • Belia

        Besides his callous comments, he assumes that she’s a helpless woman who counts on him to provide a roof over her head and food in her kitchen. Additionally, he reminds her of the “nice things” that she and her children enjoy because of him.
        What the hell does he know? I know almost no body who have a life style this way. She provides too, probably, and the children’s happiness is not based on his lame (and cheating) ass showing up to a ball game. He broke his marital vows and she’s trying to learn how to move past it. What does Robertson say? He says to shut up and sit down and enjoy the nice things you have. Jeez. What a world. What a guy.

      • Su Hodgson

        I honestly see where you’re coming from, and I think your post reads well and makes perfect sense, especially where accountability is concerned. I think, though, after watching and listening to Robertson here and there for over 30 years, that he wasn’t so much excusing the man with his “well, he’s a man,” comment, as he was disgusted that, “here’s one more guy who couldn’t keep it in his pants.” Trust me, I am NOT trying to get Robertson off the hook, I am simply offering a turn on the logically inferred position most, like you, have taken. Either way, his statement was unfair to men, faithful men, everywhere. Taking responsibility is, in my book, not a gender issue, but a critical issue, and Robertson missed a chance to hone in on that. But then, the caller was asking for help on ‘how to forgive,’ not ‘if to forgive.’ Food for thought.

      • http://Yahoo bev

        I’m with you John….no excuses….Robertson needs to find a new profession….

      • Jeff

        I totally agree with you, John. Both the woman and the man promise to be true to one another when they stand in front of a minister to repeat the wedding vows. Forgiveness is one thing but if this world considers it OK for a man to cheat simply because he is a man, then someone is very confused on what the Bible teaches on adultery.

      • michelle ward

        people should not look to man or look up to man so much that they forget man is just that. a human being who will make mistakes. i always look to the bible it will tell you everything you need to know.

      • http://700club brandon united states marines

        amen i agree with this comment indeed the accountability is always right if the man di this terrible thing then i do agree indeed
        i also agree with what the lady in the video said fprgiveness is hard for anyone but true forgiveness means loving jesus and always being true to everyone

      • Trisha

        The advice did not start out that badly, on the assumption the woman was looking to save her marriage. It’s always good to weigh the good & bad because nobody is perfect, but he then just gives the man an out by virtue of his gender & comes dangerously close to blaming the victim instead. It’s interesting he references the bible to back up his condemnation for gays, while adultery is in the very same bible… on the same page!!! From a Christian standpoint, a couple IS supposed to try to keep their marriage together through it all, but both parties take marriage vows, thus both are supposed to uphold them – – – forsaking all others, right? I guess I haven’t found the part of the bible that explains when it is okay to commit adultery.

      • Phyllis


        Well said!!! I applaud you and your comment. Why would a man of God condone such behavior?

      • http://webpronews.com Harlene Youngberg

        I want to thank you for speaking truth,it is so encouraging to hear someone speak of accountability and as Christians we do need to forgive but the victim is oftentimes expected to do more than the person who was unfaithful. We can’t judge others, but we can and should hold them accountable for their actions.

      • Mark

        Join the real world, John. It’s human nature…for both males and females. You can live in a romance novel if you like…..but it’s NOT reality.

      • TLA

        I completely disagree with Robertson on “it’s ok if your husband cheats, he’s a man” sentiment, kinda makes me wonder if he hasn’t wandered around a bit himself….BUT to compare him to a muslim extremists who would STONE a woman to DEATH, is just not even remotely in the same ball park! Saying “forgive your husband for cheating” is in no way shape or form even close to the way the muslim extremists treat their wives!

        • Becky

          Stoning to death is rampant in the old testament. Why is it so extreme. The muslims are just living out of the old testament teachings. The bible changes its mind halfway through. If God was so perfect why did everything change.

      • Millie

        Thank you John I agree with you totally. Especially hypocrite
        Christian who sound more of the world then the church.

    • Robert

      it pains me to see people who call themselves christians in our generation who DON”T have the spiritual fortitude to uphold what they’re suppossed to…”the Bible” if a spouse has cheated on the other ,sexually that is, and they can’t reconcile through prayer and conseling to move on , then listen to what the author of christianity said concerning DIVORCE …Matt:5:32 but I say unto you,that whosoever shall put away his wife,”save” or except for the cause of fornication causes her to commit adultry…” in modern terms , if someones cheating ,God understands and allows divorce ,not that HE likes it but sometimes people just won’t change and it’s not right that the other has to keep living with an untrustworthy spouse. and personally i think it’s time they cancel his show , and it is a show not a program there’s a difference between a show and a program.

      • Carrie

        I too wish they would cancel his show; but unfortunately, his son would take over full time… and the nut doesn’t fall far from the tree.

      • Alva

        I wish I could write as well as you have here. Just a super job. Spot on, with Bible truth revealed correctly. TX

    • http://yahoo deany

      Some of this advice is good; however, no woman should be made to feel that she absolutely MUST try again if her man wanders. She certainly can try to make the marriage work if it has been basically good, and she loves the guy. If she looks at all the facts and sees that the same thing will simply happen again first time her husband looks at another woman, she is allowed by God’s law and by man’s to obtain a divorce and continue with life. Also, what is the husband’s take on the situation? Listen to his side of the story before making a decision–after all, we all do things which are wrong, and sin is sin…………

      • Flip

        what is sexual fidelity?

    • kerry

      forgiving others is great..trusting others is another issue..esp when it comes to lying and infidelity..

      • http://www.webpronews.com/pat-robertson-cheating-husbands-wife-should-be-grateful-video-2013-05 Roy

        Wow, you nailed it! It happend to me and I was able to forgive her but I was never able to trust her again…things ultimatly fell apart. I do believe things happen for a reason; looking back and knowing hwat she’s been up to it’s a good thing I got out when I did…starting over is still hard though.

    • Anthony D. Sharp Sr

      Follow Faith, and True Faith like Love are action words. Read the written word of our Heavenly father(He gave it to us for this very reason and more); 1Corinthians chapter 13 describes Love.
      Then read Galatians the 5th chapter(all of it), together husbands and wifes.
      Leave your flesh and it’s feelings on this subject of Forgiveness hid, until you have heard from your Counselor(Holy Spirit-Comforter)remember him. Then start thanking him because he did and still is ready to forgive you of your SIN, should you ask Him.

      • Isa K

        These are NOT God’s words, these are Paul’s words. The books of the New Testament were chosen at the Council of Nicea in 321 AD at the prompting of the Emperor Constantine. They were chosen because these letters contained a certain philosophy that, at the time, was supported by a majority of the members of the Council. Other books were rejected, and some that were accepted at that meeting were later rejected by various Christian sects.

        I get really tired of Christians calling the New Testament(and the Old Testament, for that matter) the Word of God. It isn’t. It is the word of men – men who never met Jesus as most of these book didn’t appear until 70 years or more after the death of Jesus.

        The ignorance of most Christians as to the history of their religion amazes me. Learn your history, learn how Christianity evolved- then decide what is truth and what isn’t.

        • Caleb

          2 Timothy 3:16 “

        • Caleb

          2 Timothy 3:16 “All Scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” The scriptures teach that the Holy Spirit led men to write Gods words. How else can so many books written over thousands of years not contradict each other? Also many of the New Testament books were written by the actual disciples of Jesus. The men who were walking and learning with Jesus, or by Paul who Jesus revealed himself to. Yes the Roman church did collect and only choose some of the written books of the time but it is the Christian belief that the Holy Spirit influenced these choices. If your opinion is that the God of the Bible is not real, I accept that. But Im not sure how you can justify saying that the New Testament was written by people whom never met Jesus.

    • Del

      I have never heard Robertson give the same advice to a female..never! I live 45 min from his campus and planned to attend his seminary and he has never given the same advice to the opposite sex. Instead of blaming her you should be convicting this so-called brother in Christ he who has committed not only adultry to his wife but hypocrisy to the Lord our God for not taking his oath seriously enough. We have a responsibility to uphold not only to ourselves, our wives, but also to an unbelieving world that considers acts and comments such as these totally unbelievable (2 Tim. 4:3).

      • Anthony D. Sharp Sr

        Del, Del he didn’t blame her. He offered her ways that she a caring enough wife(believer in Christ)could better aid her hubby at home. Now here’s what some folks might want to hera from Pat. Men are weak to women, especially when men see a waman dressed-up and looking totally awesome. I would if you are a member of the body in Christ, do not make my nerve racking mistake, of wearing the apinions of what you think others are saying about our Lord, Our bible, our church and etc…please, plese, don’t do it… just in htis instance read for yourself Titus the first chapter and have yourself and warm peaceful moment with Him(Holy Spirit). Our God is God and he is in control of everything..do yourself, no harm.

        • http://yahoo Lisa Felicetty

          She can aid her husband at home…cut off his private part!!!

          • CuriousCursor

            It’s a sad day for browsing when Lorraine Bobbitt trolls the internet looking for approval and gets it in spades.

        • Marie

          Anthony D. Sharp Sr: What?

      • Gary

        I used to live in Virginia and I never watched his show because he has this belief that he is the only christian in the world that has no spot or blemish on him.I have on suggestion for you and that is Liberty University. And as far as his advice goes,he is very wrong. That woman has the right to make her own decisions regarding her life and her husband. Only God can judge,NOT PAT ROBERTSON.

    • Jeff Coulter

      I believe that forgiveness is a gift from God and that this woman does need to forgive, at some point, so that she can get on with her life. Forgiveness does not mean she needs to stay in a relationship in which she no longer feels trust and safety. But for Pat Robertson to suggest that he cheated because “sometimes men wander” and that men sometimes cheat because women don’t provide a “happy home” is stone-age, sexist, advice. People, men and women, cheat when they determine that their personal gain is more important than the vows they made, before God, to another person.

      • marilyn peyton reinders

        Jeff you speak the truth here

        • http://yahoo Eleanor Washburn

          AMEN TO THAT!

    • http://prosper-always.com/aacc.html Mark Thompson

      Well stated, and I agree.

      As a pastor / counselor many tend to think that I’m biased and turn a ‘deaf ear’ to this reply. However, it is important to view the entire video and then take into consideration what the overall message was that Robertson delivered.

      My advise would have been similar to any female client seeking marriage counselling. The point that was expressed by Robertson (in other words) was that the things we focus on always dictates the direction of our thoughts.

      He stressed, perhaps rather awkwardly, that instead of constantly replaying the details of her husband’s affair, the wife should instead be concentrating on all the positive details of their marriage.

      Obviuosly over-looked in the report, is the point of this scenario. The woman was seeking ways to forgive her husband. She was not seeking advice as to whether or not she had grounds for divorce, nor justification for feeling cheated. Had she been asking for validation, Robertson would have likely given other advice that didn’t seem so pro-man.

      Forgiveness is a concept that is often times difficult to fully grasp, much less completely implement. It requires releasing our condemnation, sacrificing our right to justification, and abandoning vengence. The deeper the hurt, and the more severe the offense, the harder it is to process.

      Counseling couples for over thirty years, it is my experience that forgiveness is by far the most complicated concept for clients to properly understand. The reality of harboring unforgiveness is that, in the long run, it does far more damage to the harborer than to the offender.

      Robertson likely knows this, and based his response from that perspective. As long as an individual rehearses the offense, unforgiveness will perpetuate itself. She needed to be told to change her focus, and that’s what the WHOLE video shows Robertson’s answer to be.

      • RobbyRob

        Would you give that EXACT same advice had the wife been the cheater?

        • Gerald

          Why not?

      • http://YAHOOP JERRY


      • Marie

        Mark Thompson: I think you are being overly generous in your view of Mr. Robertson. He is obviously close to following in Oral Roberts’ footsteps in his view of himself. My view of most televangelists is pretty dim. They are for the most part deceived by their own self-importance. On the other hand, I am thankful that Billy Graham for the most part has remained a humble man as has Dr. Charles Stanley. There are others.

        • Dallas in NC

          Be very careful who you condemn, Marie.

          • Aloecious

            … is that a THREAT?

    • http://prosper-always.com/aacc.html Mark Thompson

      Well stated, and I agree.

      As a pastor / counselor many tend to think that I’m biased and turn a ‘deaf ear’ to this reply. However, it is important to view the entire video and then take into consideration what the overall message was that Robertson delivered.

      My advise would have been similar to any female client seeking marriage counselling. The point that was expressed by Robertson (in other words) was that the things we focus on always dictates the direction of our thoughts.

      He stressed, perhaps rather awkwardly, that instead of constantly replaying the details of her husband’s affair, the wife should instead be concentrating on all the positive details of their marriage.

      Obviuosly over-looked in the report, is the point of this scenario. The woman was seeking ways to forgive her husband. She was not seeking advice as to whether or not she had grounds for divorce, nor justification for feeling cheated. Had she been asking for validation, Robertson would have likely given other advice that didn’t seem so pro-man.

      Forgiveness is a concept that is often times difficult to fully grasp, much less completely implement. It requires releasing our condemnation, sacrificing our right to justification, and abandoning vengence. The deeper the hurt, and the more severe the offense, the harder it is to process.

      Counseling couples for over thirty years, it is my experience that forgiveness is by far the most complicated concept for clients to properly understand. The reality of harboring unforgiveness is that, in the long run, it does far more damage to the harborer than to the offender.

      Robertson likely knows this, and based his response from that perspective. As long as an individual rehearses the offense, unforgiveness will perpetuate itself. She needed to be told to change her focus, and that’s what the WHOLE video shows Robertson’s answer to be.

    • Matthew

      Not true. There is a clip on youtube with Robertson promoting killing women if they do not listen.

      Not joking. A man asks what he should do with his wife who treats him mean and puts him down as a man. And robertson said “convert to islam” to then you can beat her. He was half kidding with converting to Islam but his point was that the man need to put her in her place.

      This guy is a joke and you are apologizing.making excuses for him

    • Clint Tores

      LOL!!!! You silly Christians and your nonsensical beliefs. Pat Robertson is a mental midget. Well, so are Christians

    • http://webpronews.com LanaJoIC

      I agree with you. When you read the written text, it sounds really bad. But when you watch the live question – solicitation for advice – and then the answer – it makes sense. He is trying to help this woman (who is asking how to forgive her husband and move on) – figure out a way to do it. He is telling her that basically if you are ever going to be able to move on – you have to re-focus on the good things in your marriage and why you once loved him – and when you do, forgiveness will come.

    • dcj

      The advise was WORSE! LOL! “Give him honor”!!! Whatever! Is this a joke? Without knowing more details he says it’s a “stripper in a hotel room”; suppose it was your best friend or his co-worker, suppose it wasn’t a one time thing but an ongoing relationship?!! I’m not saying give up on the relationship but communication that leads to understanding and trust is the answer. Yes, he’s a man and as humans we are not perfect but it is not her responsibility alone to understand his “wandering” and “temptations”. He needs to prove forgivable and then the betrayal may subside with time. Good luck to Ivy.

    • Karen

      Very true. The media will always criticize him. I know women who have stuck it out for the sake of the children and because he was paying the bills. It’s not easy, but in the long run they were better off. Some women are so quick to leave or kick him out of the house, but then they are struggling in every way. Not bad advice at all. I don’t ever remember Pat Robertson to make end of the world predictions. He doesn’t believe that stuff. He believes in the soon return of Christ like the rest of us.

    • nancy muldoon

      no, if the cheater was the wife he would have demanded death penalty or life in prison. Remember kids, Its Pat Robertson we’re talking about.

    • Carmel

      Oh give me a break. Ever heard of the 10 Commandments. You Christians are sickening. You preach the Bible and then live whatever you want because you can “forgive”.

    • Kim Bakken

      You’ve got to be kidding me! The advice wasn’t that bad? Anyone that blames the spouse for someone else’s cheating is a jackass. Pat Robertson has no idea of what is going on inside that marriage. At the most they are equally at fault (for perhaps a breakdown in communication & giving up on their marriage). But to full out blame the wife. Pat Robertson is nothing but a sexist, racist scumbag. How he has managed to stay on television blows my mind. He disgusts me. He hates everyone who isn’t a white male. Women are second class citizens. And he hates all minorities. This man is disgusting!

    • Fotios Tsimboukakis

      I can see your point,Frank Felix. And Robertson’s. The mobsters used to go to Mass on Sunday morning, extort or kill someone Sunday night, ask and get forgiveness and GO BACK AT IT AGAIN next week. You guys are both CON MEN playing with peoples needs,fears,excuses and whatever will sell easy. I am certain, Frank Felix, you would kiss and love your woman right after someone else has FILLED up her mouth with his liquids. Right? Or your wife would be ok if you mess around once or twice a month. I read it in “some” modern Bible. It’s ok if it suits us. Jokers.

    • Quentin

      Thank you sir! I try to tell women this same thing ok so you leave him now what? u become a ride for unworthy men and there will be a few. Im not condoning cheating and Im not saying all women who leave become sluts but Ive seen enough to know that they become preys because their minds are now fragile. Always looking for a “man” in this world of useless “men” you now raise your sons without a dad and they become one of these useless “men” its a vicious cycle but hey OPRAH tells them they deserve it all so they never stop to think about giving anything ….like forgiveness, patience etc lol

      • James

        You have lost what’s left of your everloving mind! What you said is a complete pile. You sound like a real true blue Woman hater. I am sure that no Woman in her right mind would even give you the time or day. Let alone lay down with you!

    • Mark Vosburgh

      Are you crazy? This guy is ingrate, he should be horse whipped for the statements he has made over the years and the pain and misery he has inspired his followers to visit on others. But then again, he isn’t the stupidest one, those who follow him and his disgusting messages are by far the stupidest . . .

    • Alexander Mccoy

      Wow yes pat speaks the truth but his voice. Seems to me. To. Be off as a voice that should teach wife’s on cheating husband from God’s point of view. I know he means well but not very wise in saying that men wonder like its okay all I can say is we need more harmony in our marriages an more compromise in our walk

    • KiKi

      To forgive does not equal forget. Husband cheats, he’s looking for something else, something new. So yeah, forgive him – but be smart enough to move on. He’s not worth your time nor does he deserve your love and devotion.

    • http://yahoo lisa

      OK. I can understand the part of your comment about forgiveness. But to tell this woman to show her husband honor is ridiculous! Her husband didn’t honor her or their marriage vows.

    • William Millsaps

      I’m positive Pat is wrong. As Christians, would it not be better Not to cheat in the first place…

    • Belia

      I think that if it were a woman he would be telling the victim that he has to get rid of her before she poisons him and the children.
      He’s an old old man who is used to believing that he has the answers to everything. He’s just a sorry old man.
      Give it up.

    • Angrum McCloud

      If you were a real christian, you take you vows seriously and not cheat to begin with! Furthermore as a real christian you would realize that these vows are not only toward each other but also toward GOD !

    • Angrum McCloud

      Were you a real Christian you would not cheat to begin with. Further more were you a real christian you would realize that the vows you took are not only said to each other but also to GOD !

    • David

      Time to write Pat Robertson off as a demented individual who either has lost touch with Christianity or never understood the tenets of his claimed religion. His staff has had to make far too many clarifications re his comments in recent years. Assassinate Hugo Chavez, the Haitians are being punished for being in league with the devil…

    • http://yahoo.com simon

      I agree Frank Felix!

    • Mary Horton

      That is not the bible says,Mr Robertson.It says “thou shalt not commit Adultry.” That was not just for women!Men need to stand up and be men and take resposibility for what they.Where is their
      self control?

    • Figaro


      Wonderfully expressed.

      And yes, if you take into account the broader Biblical context, just as you stated, well, Pat Robertson’s advice to the cheated on wife is refreshing. Altogether uplifting.

      Love isn’t a battlefield. On the contrary, it’s a lasting peace ceremony of which forgiveness is an integral part. We all need to partake more of that process even though it’s hard to do.

      I know…

    • Steve

      Where and when were you born. His specific statement says men tended to stray, not women. And blaming the man’s choices on someone else, not what I would call mature. I think you need to revisit your christian beliefs.

    • Pattysboi

      Robber$on is nuts, and needs to be taken off the air, permanently. He needs to lose his FCC license, as well, as he has completely gone over the edge.

    • Tom

      I honestly did not even need to hear the entire interview. While I usually disagree with most of what Pat Robertson says, from the first quote in the article I got the impression that Pat Robertson was being raked over the coals for this one. That is good advice for ANYTHING, really: Forget about the negatives, and concentrate on the positives, because if those positives are still present, then you CAN get past the negatives – especially if they happened a decade ago.

    • glenda dotson

      Many people including Pat Raobertson have never read the Bible .In the beginning in Eden God ask Adam first before asking Eve why he ate the ap[ple he said ‘ The woman you gave me tempted me .There by blaming the Woman and God for making him weak . Then Eve Said the right thing the serpent tempted her. Been the story of man since the world began .

    • JeffInMpls

      As a Christian … Pat Robertson is an embarrassment! Yes, we forgive, but that does NOT require us to stay in any relationship. The trust factor in the relationship has been destroyed. I don’t care what P.R. has to say, it is NEVER the fault of a victim. Nor is it correct for him to justify immoral behavior of a man by his “boys will be boys” attitude. It’s very clear that we have all been COMMANDED: “Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

    • Tom R

      Sorry, but if you happen to chose to be a Christian, that’s your personal business. However, if that’s what you’re going to chose, I’d be very careful attempting to validate your beliefs against some of the many dysfunctional things Robertson has erupted with over the years!!! Trying to defend him and his mouth defies logic. If he sounds like an idiot, looks like an idiot and talks like an idiot — MAYBE he’s an idiot!!! So, be careful tying your horses to his chariot!!

      This is still the same ole Robertson who preaches the God-Man-Woman hierarchy. Woman makes herself submissive to Man and when Man mistreats Woman, God gets even with Man. Whoa!!!! What an inspirational concept if you happen to be a woman.

      AND, in regards to certain comments below that suggest it tends to be a failure of women in this society to understand a males sexual needs — the word lobotomy come to mind. That’s nothing short of a Dark Ages comment!! Don’t suppose those commentors would like to continue the dissertation on self-awareness and talk about the males well-understood abilities to take emotional sensitivity to such high levels in this society!!! Apologies for the sarcasm!!

    • http://Yahoo Bill Anderson

      What a load of garbage! Your comment suggests that infidelity is acceptable. There are many things within a relationship that warrant forgiveness, but cheating is not one.

      And Robertson is a nut-job who needs to shut his mouth. He’s just a hateful bigot and we’ll all be better off when he’s gone.

    • Izy

      Thanks Felix,I agree with your comments. The article seem to have a tinge of ‘unlikeness’ for Pat. We should emphasize forgiveness and love, although this should not be a licence to continue to hurt those close to us.

  • http://NationalShowTickets.com Debbie

    If you are married, you are off the market… period.. enough said. Having said that “You are not man enough to take my man”

    • JB

      So does that mean your man is looking for a man???? hmmmm

      • Anthony D. Sharp Sr

        You should focus your talent where it is truly needed, our country is in need of better not bitter human beings. I forgive you, but come on!

    • Anthony D. Sharp Sr

      Speak Truth there now….amen

  • Robin Bednarczyk

    THAT is why I don’t go to church anymore! Too many leaders in the Christian religion are going around basically changing whe rules per say by letting things go. Excuse ME, but DOESN’T the Bible say in one of the commandments “Thou shalt NOT commit adultery”? And isn’t cheating COMMITTING ADULTERY? So who is ANY Christian to just blow it off as being alright, just because THATS what men do? You can’t change the rules here, THEY’RE FROM GOD, GOD TRUMPS ANY AND EVERY CHRISTIAN no matter how much money they have OR how often they appear on TV. I’m not saying don’t forgive the cheating spouse – I’m only saying don’t candycoat it with such BS as thats what men do! No A REAL MAN WOULD STAY FAITHFUL WITH THE WOMAN HE MADE VOWS WITH!This whole world is going to hell in a handbasket and the Christians are leading the path with the way they dismiss commandments from the Bible! Whats really messed up is they’ll allow and even condone cheating in their congregation but God forbid someone read their horoscope! Go figure!

    • Doc

      So might as well go live on an island because you can quit being in America where our leaders are cheaters and liars.

    • David

      So according to Robin king David was not a real man? Like many christians you forget that we are real sinners with real sin problems. I hope you find a church that deserves to have someone as holy as you to be one of their members

      • JustMe

        To David: remember that God did not just brush off David’s sin. He remonstrated him for it, and even allowed the first baby of that union to die. And David was forgiven because he repented, not on the basis of “that’s what men do.” Real Christians, with real sin problem, should heed the Bible warning about satan roaming around looking for someone to destroy [by tempting them to sin], and about resisting the devil (obviously by resisting the temptation to sin). The advice of the Bible is to “flee fornication”. In other words, one must avoid situations that will cause one to commit fornication or adultery. One can be forgiven, but they should also repent, like as Jesus said, “go, and sin no more.”

        • Dave Fried

          I think that it is sad that King David’s child had to pay for the sins of the father, just as so many innocent, first born Egyptian children paid the ultimate price for “a crime” in which they played no part.

        • billy

          The point is only God can judge, Pat can’t judge the husband, a wife can’t judge her husband or a husband his wife. Pat does the only responsible thing and points the wife back to her own faults and forgiveness.

          My wife cheated on me 9 years ago and it was hard but I looked at my failures rather than her’s. I looked at where I failed and left open doors in my marriage for her to fail in that way. She and God looked at her faults and me and God worked on mine. Whenever you attempt to hold your spouse accountable you usually fail to look at your own faults and that is what tears the marriage apart more than anything else.

        • http://WebProNews Harry

          “he remonstrated him for it and even allowed the first baby of that union to die” Well, that’s real fair! Pick on the innocent child instead of the malefactor.

    • StackSteel

      Just a note, I wouldn’t base my reasoning for not going to church on imperfect people. Isn’t that what Christianity is all about, admitting your not perfect and you need help. Stop being surprised when people let you down and focus on the one person who won’t.

      • Dale in Oklahoma

        StackSteel that is probably the best advice I have ever heard, and I thank you for that. Just reading that has made my day and pointed me in a better direction. It’s strange that little things along our paths can be very meaningful to us, even if it means little to others. Thanks again.

    • http://Yahoo Felton Woods

      You don’t want to go to church anymore because of YOURSELF. Don’t blame people in the church. Everyone on your job, if you have one, are not righteous but still you go. It doesn’t make much logic to me to leave a place where there are but a few hypocrites (maybe yourself at some point)to go back into a world FULL of hypocrites, God haters, Christ deniers, sinners, non-worshipers, atheist, and more. You go to church of worship God and no hypocrite or lying preacher should prevent you from doing so, that’s if you love the Lord enough. Everyone is not going to be what you want them to be or expect them to be in the church and that includes you. Even Jesus Christ knew that. He Himself had one in His very midst to betray Him with a kiss. Did it stop Him from saving the world. Find you a church of your faith where the preacher is preaching from the book and if not hold him accountable using book, chapter, and verse. You stay away from the church with a flimsy excuse as the one you gave and when you stand before Christ on that great day, He will judge you lost using book, chapter and verse.

      • Bill Kramer

        these are peoples opinions… we all have one… including yourself… how can YOU preach the word of God… and then pass judgement yourself.. ???? thats being a true hypocrit.!!!!

      • lolakitty89

        For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matt 18:20 You don’t have to go to a church to have a relationship with Christ. I too stopped going to “church” but that does not mean that I am far from God. To the contrary! I have never had a closer relationship with The Lord. So to go on your little tirade is ridiculous.

        As for Pat Robertson. This man is and always has been ridiculous. Sad that so many people listen to this ridiculously borderline senile old man. My mom use to watch him all the time when I was growing up and I didn’t like him then either.. “SEND ME MONEY!!!”.. yah right…

        • S

          @ lolakitty89 The Good book also states in Hebrews Chpt 10 vs 25 that we should ‘Not Forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching”. Which simply means that I need you and you need me. We are ALL apart of God’s body. When we quote scripture, we need to apply ALL of it, not just some. Now, as for Mr. Pat Robertson, am I sooo in agreement with you on him! A total mess

    • Brian

      Robin I stopped going to church in collage when a deacon treated me badly. I have learned in the last 5 years that all people are sinful, but we go to church to spend time with God. I have also developed relationships with people in the church that I would not give up. People will fail you but God never will.

      • donnie

        Did you also stop going to Collage when you “stopped going to Church in Collage”.

        Do they teach spelling in Collage.

        • JQNN

          What a “Christian” response. It’s too bad you can’t stone people anymore.

        • T. Farlow


          Did you just have a bad day, or is judging others for something insignificant and accidental a way of life for you? I’m sure it’s the former, or sure hope so.

          Oh, by the way your question to Brian as follows: “Do they teach spelling in Collage”, is missing a question mark at the end, and for whatever reason, you made “collage” into “Collage” or capitalized the misspelled word that shouldn’t have a capital c!

          I hope your day gets better, but if you’re a prowling “typo cop”, make sure your bases are fully covered before tearing down others.

          T. Farlow

    • http://none Gustine Marsh

      Mr. Pat Robertson, is a poor example for a Christian.

      • Caleb

        I agree. Plus the fact that someone calls themselves a “Christian” does not mean that they know God. They may know about him, but that does not guarantee a relationship with Him. As for Pat, 2 Peter 2:1,3 “But there were also false prophets among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you… In their greed these teachers will exploit you with stories they have made up. Their condemnation has long been hanging over them, and their destruction has not been sleeping.” It is sad that people like him slander the name Christians, because they truly aren’t. They are NOT “like Christ”. And their words do not hold truth, only pieces of truth twisted into lies.

    • garry

      What did he smoked to think like that?

    • Jay


      Unfortunately, I agree 100% with you! And this is coming from an ordained Baptist Pastor of over 20 yrs of service in that capacity!! I have seen first hand how the so-called “Christians” leading and attending OUR Churches, and the most ignorant, racist, arrogant, judgmental, unforgiving, ostracizing people on the planet. It has ruined the TRUE MEANING OF WHAT A “CHRISTIAN” ACTUALLY MEANS!

      In this case here, and I actually don’t think Mr. Robertson meant ill, as much as he is INSENSITIVE and RECKLESS IN HIS STATEMENTS in his counseling to REAL PEOPLE, NEEDING REAL HELP!

      The issue needs to have the BLAME SOLELY ON THE SHOULDERS OF THE PERSON AT FAULT! Where I come from, and the way I was raised, A MAN WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS! No, I do not think he should be damned to hell for his error, but to blame the offended party is the most detrimental way to create emotional, mental, and other problems in them!


      Well said, Robin!

    • Jay

      AND BTW:



      • Terrie

        Mr. Robertson runs a cult of people that cannot use their own brains to make a decision for themselves. To place blame anywhere expect on the one responsible is just really ignorant. And it is inconceivable to me why anyone would believe that BS….

    • Jonathan

      I believe the trouble begins when you turn your spouse into an
      object of worship . Partners should help each other but also
      forgive the other’s failings . Moving beyond her spouse’s
      infidelity , she has a choice : stay or leave him ; it’s
      up to her . Her own self worth should not be compromised
      by the decision she makes ; however , if her husband is
      abusive , don’t even think twice about it – grab the children
      and leave !

    • Anthony D. Sharp Sr

      Robin, I feel you! But you have several errors going on at the same time. SIN IS SIN and SO IS GOD’S FORGIVENESS/His propitiatior(CHRIST) who came for our SIN. Read Robin in your bible this text and you’ll come to spiritually see a mystery that the apostle Paul was given and he revealed for the church(True believer)Galatians chapter 3, all of it. Now I’m sharing this with you IN LOVE, do not allow any other thought/emotion/spirit to come nigh you or between us on this or any truth, Why? As you already know(Ephesains 6:12). Now for you to allow any one to separate you from meeting with weaker than you believers or stronger than you believers is a fault of yours. His word reminds us NOT TO FORSAKE/PUT OFF/NEGLECT/DENY/QUIT our Christ Jesus ORDAINED Assemblies, but it is of the enemy who dosn’t want us believers to ever come to know our POWER through obeidence of His Spirit/Word/Faith/Love AND MORE…HEY remember the church is on enemy territory. Ug huh!
      Get Back in There and hunble down as we should like Christ, who, LEARNED MANY THINGS THROUGH THE THINGS HE SUFFERED(hebrews 5:8) are you greater than Him?

    • Alva Greene

      We should remember there were hundreds of yrs before the ten commandments were given where God and man had a covent or promise to one another that covers not just ten but many other commitments between the both. God has not changed He is the same forever! His word is His bond. We follow His example when we married and vow to each other a commitment. Just like the one Robin has expressed; the Bible states that man’s veiw if not in line with His word … it is wrong. The torah even instructs folks accepted ways of putting off or divorcing the party that has not stayed true to this very important promise. I am sorry Robin (you appearently know the word) but of wrong words feel you can’t gather with God’s kids …where different levels of light have been revealed to them. Stay in the Word; Keep a personal relationship going on with Christ; go to church but keep on letting the Holy Spirit guide you in all truth. Take care …The Father Deeply Loves you; rest on His shoulders (like a lamb in His flock); continue to speak against wrong teaching …like this one.

    • Fotios Tsimboukakis

      You are right. If Christ did,and I say did,ever came back, he would spit most on the Religious heads first,then everybody else. Nobody is able to do what that great philosopher taught. Cause it’s too inconvenient for most. Like Robertson,here.

  • Doc

    You journalists must get your degrees from kindergarden….you twisted everything he said to cause controversy and hatred toward Pat and christians. If you listen to what he said, he is basically just saying to focus on the good not the bad and that will help you forget and forgive.

    • lolakitty89

      Completely disagree with you. Speaking as a Christian, Pat Robertson is a loon as are so many televangelist. I am sure most of them start out with good intentions ..He is a complete loon..

    • Fotios Tsimboukakis

      Focus? On the good? The Mob used to focus on the good. Dealing drugs and killings took the back seat to more positive doings. Like giving to the Church and the Catholic Schools. I see your point. A PHD kindergardener.

  • Avis McGee

    I’m not saying the cheater should not be forgiven; but to say that the cheater is ‘just being a man’ is highly irresponsible for a religious leader to say. It’s just wrong to break your marital vows, whether you are a man or woman. Pat Robertson needs a filter!


      A filter! Yes! Anyone have any duct tape?

  • Joe Silvasi

    Pat robertson is an ass. No way is that fool a “man of God”

  • Tallulah Grassfire

    Robertson is a dinosaur. He has no business handing out marital adivce to women or even men for that matter. Had the infidelity shoe been on the other foot I am sure Pat would’ve advised a man differently. He made that clear with his statement, “He’s a man, ok?” Pffffffft. If this woman was cheated on ONCE she’s most likely been cheated on many times. And if this is something that’s intolerable to her then she should keep his cheating butt to the curb.

    • Tallulah Grassfire

      ETA: Kick not keep.

    • Kathi Bledsoe

      I absolutely agree with you Tallulah! He is a dinosaur and shouldn’t be giving advice to anyone for anything! How can he go on calling himself “a man of God”?

    • No Androgyny

      You aren’t Christian. You are a feminist!

      • brutus75

        NO..You are not a Christian. You are a judgmental fool!!!

        • No Androgyny

          Why do you voice such evil?

          • RobbyRob

            Seems to me you NO are the voice of the devil. Who are YOU to judge these people stating their opinions? I bet you have been sitting all day at your computer replying. NO life, no ambition. Why don’t you go out and do something for your community? Go work in a homeless shelter or mission?

  • Cindy

    My sisters husband cheated on her for short period of time. I thought it was over for the both of them because the husband and the other woman who was also cheating on her husband were having a passionate lusty affair. But my sister scolded the other woman and forgave her husband and THEY HAVE the MOST BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE … my sister is BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT, she could have gotten any other man BUT she chose to stay with her husband who IS SO REPENTIVE and seriously if you saw them today YOU COULD SEE THEIR MARRIAGE IS AWESOME and they look so BEAUTIFUL TOGETHER. VERY HAPPY ENDING.

    • Blondeone90000

      Your sister is the exception not the rule and good for her! God bless them both! : )

    • Jay

      I’m definitely glad your sister’s marriage worked out. Forgiveness is key. But was there any forgiveness for the other woman? What was the point of scolding the other woman if she forgave and stayed with her husband? She understood that her husband makes mistakes, but another person who committed the same mistake gets scolded? That doesn’t make much sense.

  • truthseeker

    Ine thing the writer of this article failed to note was whether the adulterer (in this case, the husband) was repentant or not. Because repentance is a misunderstood word these days, it needs to be defined as not just saying one is “sorry” but to turn away from the sin (repent), to pay a penalty for one’s transgression, and to become and remain a faithful partner again. If the husband has done this, then the wife as a Christian is obligated to forgive him and work on staying with him. If he does not fulfill his promise to be faithful, does not repent, than all bets are off and she is well within her privilege to divorce him.

    • Jena

      maybe the wife should cheat, then repent, then they can talk forgiveness.

  • elaine walker

    Senile moron. Time to retire Pat!

    • No Androgyny

      Feminist idolater. Time to repent Elaine!

  • Perry

    1. He blames the woman for not making the home too attractive for him to be tempted to wander.
    2. He justifies the sin of adultery as normal behavior for a man. This flies in the face of the Bible’s admonishment to flee from temptation, to resist the devil, to “leave thy loin cloth and run”, and then asks the woman to overlook the sinful pride of the man.
    3. Yes, Christ instructed to forgive 70×70. Means forever. The woman isn’t perfect. “All unrighteousness is sin”, regardless of the sin and who commits it.
    4. I agree that the woman should focus on the positive aspects of the marriage and not hold a grudge, learn to focus on the husband’s good qualities, and then let the dead issue be buried along with resentment.

    But to say in so many words that because a man is “made that way” justifies his useless behavior is a step too far. A man is responsible before God for either giving in to temptation or walking away (like a real man is capable of). If God knew that man’s emotions were too much for him to resist, God would not have made such stern statements. All of us are capable of resisting evil desire and temptation. Just say no and walk away. No excuses, rationalizations (self-deceit), or outright lies.

    • Jena

      Perry, very well said!

    • moteague

      Why do you guys always refer to the Bible as if God wrote the Bible? Every word in the Bible was written through the perception of men. You guys need to stop this nonsense.

      • babyboomer

        God did write the Bible. He inspired men to write what He wanted us to know. Many Christians believe the Holy Bible is not only the inspired, but also the inerrant and infallible Word of God. That’s why Pat Robertson needs to remember, “Thou shalt not commit adultery” is one of the Ten Commandments when he basically says it’s ok for men to cheat on their wives – that’s just the way men are.

    • http://yahoo deany

      This is a thoughtful/insightful reply………

    • No Androgyny

      You make a better feminist than a Christian.

  • Tinker

    I have to agree with Frank Felix after listening I can see where Pat Robinson was going with what he was trying to say… the article did sound much worse than what was really said. I believe if you and your spouse agree to try and make the marriage work then there needs to be a renewing of mind, heart and attitude …not saying that its easy but you should focus on the positive to move forward

  • Sandra

    I agree with a PP. The advice isn’t as bad as the article makes it seem. This was a question from a woman TRYING to forgive her husband and move on with their marriage. He gave her advice to help her achieve that goal. Stop talking about the infidelity…many marriage counselors advise the same thing. You can’t move on from it if you keep focusing on it.

    And it’s true, men ARE more susceptible to sexual temptation in this world. My husband looking at women in bikini’s on TV is going to be more tempted by that than I will be looking at men in speedos, and that’s the truth for MOST men and MOST women. Men ARE bombarded more by pornographic materials and temptation. Porn has absolutely NO appeal for me…I think it’s gross, disgusting, fake, repugnant. But…for my husband the feeling is not the same. He has to actively TRY to RESIST the temptation to view it.

    Men and Women have different love languages. Men need to do their part to keep their wives happy and wives need to do their part to keep their husbands happy. It’s NOT a woman’s fault if her husband cheats, but she CAN help him resist the temptation to wander…and vice versa. I think that’s essentially what Pat Robertson was trying to say.

    • Dallas in NC

      You hit the nail on the head, Sandra. You made more sense than any of these “holier than thou’s” on this board.

    • Gerald

      Sandra, I cant agree more with you on this. I wonder what they wanted Pat to say to the woman in question-just kick the cheating husband out! While I dont support marital infedelity, I believe forgiveness is key in every union, even Jesus said in the case of the woman caught in adultery ” he who is without sin should cast the first stone”.

  • koala

    Pat Robertson is sooooo wrong – there is no excuse, NADA, for cheating on a spouse – husband or wife – to forgive is one thing – to be able to trust and forget is another!

  • Mack

    I am not a P.R. fan but the actual interview is different than the biased news article. If the woman is serious about forgiving her husband he gave her good advice. I’m also sure he would have a few choice words for the husband if he were to talk to him.

  • http://orderofhumanity2.com Tenton N. Horton

    Well, Pat has been operating a “religion for profit” for many years now…and has been quite successful at getting people to send him “money”….this means that he is, at least, a very clever person.
    Therefore, his advice may well be worth considering.

    Islam has solved this “problem” by providing for more than one wife.

    Nature tells us that people of both sexes are attracted to the opposite sex all of their lives…married or not. It is mostly a matter of whether or not one will consider the effect upon their families…particularly their children…of becoming involved with “the other” man or woman.

    Such an involvement usually hurts the children of a family…as well as the marriage partner.

    It is all about what one believes in as to their way of life…and how much they consider what their actions may do to their loved ones as well.

    Is Pat right or wrong ? Only time will tell… after someone decides take his advice…instead of “thinking for themselves”…..

  • karen

    Pat Robertson should stop being pessimistic for making a bad statements made to women. For my opinion to other people that they need to stand up and tell Pat that enough is enough. He needs to be accounting for the bad statements and judging them for what they do. If I know that God will be asking why he said things to them that is not true. He’s also, he is part of the tea party and he’s accounting for owning money to the IRS tons of millions to them. They are getting fed up with Pat Robertson now. They need to look into the scandalizing the money now.

    • Dallas in NC


  • Bill Kramer

    When you get married…its supposed to be forever… yes ..she should forgive him… if it was unintentional… but come on… its usually very intentional, and premeditated… now with that said… he should know Karmas a bitch…

    • lolakitty89

      Unintentional? lol.. really? “oops.. I’m sorry honey, I tripped and feel inside her, it wasn’t my intention to do it”.

      • Dallas in NC

        Just a little change!

  • Agnes Witherspoon

    Marriage is built on trust, understanding and yes, forgiveness. In the Bible divorce was frowned on even if you were being physically abused. The ONE condition for divorce however was infidelity. I say you can forgive them but for me personally…the marriage is over. The trust and foundation is ruined. To cheat on someone is disrespectful and you would not want it done to you. In order to do something like that and know that you risk someone leaving you means that you did not care in the first place. I honestly think it is insulting to women and men to say, “Well, he’s a man. They cheat. Get over it”. Basically you are saying that men are dogs and to not expect anything from them because well, they are going to screw up anyway. You should expect more out of folks because they are more…

    • No Androgyny

      Too much feminist indoctrination has ruined your Christianity

    • Dallas in NC

      Most of us are like dogs. We don’t get emotional with sex.

  • Terry

    Like most conservative Christians, Mr. Robertson gives the rest of us a bad name. When in doubt go directly to the source, the Bible. Scripture teaches us to forgive, yes, but scripture also teaches us empowerment. We serve the One who created all and everything. Mr. Robertson might do well to re-read the scriptures where God speaks to marriage and infidelity. Infidelity is the one situation where divorce is sanctified. Shame on Mr. Robertson for giving poor if not wrong advice and even more shame to him for making excuses for the male gender. You take a vow before God when you wed…keep your word to your spouse and more importantly to God.

    • Jena

      Yes, Terry completely agree. Cheating is the worst thing you can do to your partner. It’s the ultimate hurt you can inflicted. To say ‘he’s a man’ oh well, boy’s will be boy’s, sounds to me like Pat just gave the ‘green light’ to men to cheat. Unfortunately, all the ‘good’ the husband may have brought to the relationship is gone, over shadowed by cheating. Is it worth it?

      • Dallas in NC

        You’re full of yourself.

    • No Androgyny

      Empowerment is a liberal word. Are you a Christian or Churchian?

  • lbjohnson

    I think his answer to the question was right on, ” how do I forgive an move forward…” He didn’t say it was ok to cheat. Title of article is misleading.

    • Dallas in NC

      Here,here lbjohnson.

  • RObert Vogler

    Pat Robertson in a complete ASSHOLE. He is old and mostly confused. Anyone who listens to Pat Robertson on religion or anything else is an idiot. He opens his mouth and makes statements that are so outlandish that anyone that has a brain and can think for themselves knows he need to be muzzled and taken off his own show. Giving men the right to cheat because they are men and you know how they are has not religious background with the bible.
    Turn him off and do not listed to what he spews and think for yourslef.

    • No Androgyny

      Genesis 3. Men and women are different despite you spewing talking points of your feminist indoctrination.

      • Dallas in NC

        Yes,yes No Androgyny.

  • Gene


    • http://yahoooo olukemi

      uuum why do you go to church? to worhsip God or to see the faults of pastor. As long as we are still in the flesh we tends to fall into sin and comits blun drs. The bible advises us to look unto jesus the author and finishre of our faith and its also syas woe is teh man who puts his trust on man cos he will fial and disappoint you. The church is like an hospital with people with various sickness and needs healing and there are some battle you cant fighr alone you need cooporate anointing for such and you can never study the bible alone you still need people to share with and you alone will stand before the jurdgement throne to answer to God you cant tell God you stop going to church cos someone let you down , remember there is no excuse before God you will answer for yourself. leave Pat BObison alone he will answer to God for any wrong consel he gives.

    • Dallas in NC

      You got that right, Gene.

  • DMkBk

    Concentrate on why you married him or her in the first place. ‘to have and to hold apart from any other’.There’s a million people out there that would provide the food and clothes, be nice to you.and would take care of the kids. If only they could fool around and appear legit. All God wants is your whole self body soul and spirit. The spouse second to God deserves the same “Bone of my bone,flesh of my flesh.”

  • Dennis

    This idiot is a wack job and anyone that follows him is also wacked. He neens to disappear :)Thats whats wrong with these bible bangers..

    • A Man

      Everyone who believes in the God and trust in the Bible should not be group together. Many Christian such as myself do not agree with his “biblical” advice for the woman which is not biblical at all.

    • Dallas in NC

      Hm! You sound like a libtard, Dennis.


    Pat Robertson what you said is a bunch of crock….is that your excuse for cheating ono your wife…that’s such bull…you should be ashamed…

    • No Androgyny

      Feminism is a false idol. Androgyny is not part of Genesis.

      • cmn8

        That’s a very odd statement to make, as if I recall correctly, Eve was created from Adam’s rib. Now maybe she was kinda masculine, or maybe he had an awfully feminine rib; either way, it sounds to me like androgyny is part of Genesis.
        I’m also interested in the fact that apparently no woman can ever be angry at a man without her being an extreme feminist unable to believe in anything else, but that’s another issue.

    • Dallas in NC

      Sally, what you said is a bunch of crock.

  • Zach

    What kind of grown person seeks the advice of this freak?

    I suppose some of you think that when God promised Pat a two-term presidency for Mitt Romney, He was “taken out of context” by the evil liberals…

    • Dallas in NC

      So what are you babbling about, Zach.

  • RG

    Ask an eighty-year-old for advice, and you’ll get advice eight years out of date.

    • RG

      Eighty, that is.

    • Dallas in NC

      I bet you’re 79.

  • John

    Terrible advice Pat. Man or Woman should not cheat. Period!

    Forgiveness is one thing and that’s good. However, if a person strays, they are essentially abandoning the marriage. Don’t blame the victim. Ever.

  • kt


    • No Androgyny

      If you don’t feel clean down there then that is what you should do.

  • A Man

    I am a man who has not cheated on my wife mainly because of the vow I made to her before God and because I abstain from the things that Pat noted a geared towards men. THe advice he gave was good advice because it seems as though the wife wants to forgive her husband and continue their marriage. However he should not have made excuses for the husband. He cheated which was sinful and scared his wife. He can’t take that back, it was not ok simply because he was a man and Pat should not have made excuses for him.

  • dannyoy

    WHY do jews HATE Pat Robertson so much !?!??

  • http://yahoo Louise

    This man is nuts. If you can forgive, fine, but I don’t think infidelity is anyone else’s fault but the one who cheats. He or she is the one who made the committment and should either follow it or move out. It also kills me that a wife or husband blame the other man or women involved, instead of the spouse. If he’s lying to you, honey, he may have lied to her or him as well. They may not even know the fool was married. I say, stay with him, spend all the money you can so he’s too broke to leave. And, if he thought you were cranky before, let him see how you are now. It’s also curious that he talks about a stripper in a hotelroom 10 years ago. Have to believe he’s talking about himself.

    • Dallas in NC

      Yeah, it would probably be best to leave you Louise.

  • C Mack

    Its amazing, but the Christian religion has cause so much heart ache , around the world and wants to blame it on everyone else. I don’t like that the gays force themselves on the America people. But at the same time religion has destroyed lives all over the world. Because if they were so into helping people , we would not have as many poor people as it is today.
    They could go to every city in this country and stop this genocide and racism, but its a part of the American fabric.

    • Dallas in NC

      Hey Mack, Christianity, is not a religion. It’s a way of life, based on faith. Religion is organized practice.

  • Cam

    What a crock of s**t. “he’s a man” whatever as if women don’t have the same desire to cheat when their man isn’t treating them right. Facts are Facts his man is NO man of God if he expects men to cheat and women to be doormats to said cheating POS. If you love your spouse you KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS. Period, no excuse will ever be good enough and NO you do NOT deserve forgiveness without repentance. The church is a total joke and has been for years. Leave it to man to f up what God has made…it seems to be the only thing we are good at as people.

    • No Androgyny

      Men and women are different. Male and Female he created them. Feminism and androgyny are false idols.

  • bill

    their god is a man correct? no christian i know ever refers to god as She rather He. And their god supposedly impregnated another man’s wife correct? And that same all-knowing god sent that son (John 3:16) to earth from his loins? to die on the cross for all his followers sins? AND that same god “told” Abraham to sacrifice his son to show his devotion then when Abraham was ready to kill his son “saya” nevermind i trust you love me now? And this same god of theirs wiped out all but who could fit on a wooden boat holding every creature on this planet so he could eradicate sinners or whomever right? And he gave the rainbow as a sing He would never do that again right? so that didnt quite work out as he wanted so take back the rainbow promise and kill the gays through katrina….this god doesnt seem to know anything maybe? Andin the new testament its all about forgiveness as apposed to the old vengeful god yadda yadda….is there ANY wonder why a free thinker would buy any of this horse@!*t?

    • Dallas in NC

      Free thinker? Sounds more like a babbling idiot.

  • CC

    This is a perfect example of how the mainstream media attacks Christians. While I do NOT agree with Pat’s comment that “males tend to wander”, the point of the interview was a woman who wants to rebuild her marriage. She WANTS to forgive her husband.

  • gw

    I have been a cheating spouse. All sin has consequences…I’ve been dealing with it for seven years…still deal with it everyday. Everyone sins. That’s why we have Jesus to turn to when we screw up our lives. He forgives us, and, helps carry our burdens. Like Pat said, this world is full of temptations and it can be hard to deal with. Of course, not committing adultery is one of the commandments. I believe the commandments are more of a guide to leading a peaceful life. God knows when we break these commandments, we will suffer the consequences. It’s funny, it this world of unparalleled communication, we rarely sit down and talk out problems, like adultery, with the ones we love…what is lacking in the relationship that can be fixed by just talking things through. I wish I would have done more of this before I committed adultery…the consequences of this sin have been terrible. My exwife hasn’t forgiven me, but, I am thankful the Lord has and proved to me to not do it again.

    • Dallas in NC

      Well said, gw. Peace to you.

  • No Androgyny

    Men and women are different. I see that you have succumbed to the liberal feminist view of gender. Please pick up your Bible. Read Genesis 3 20 times. And also stop cursing.

    • lolakitty89

      I see that you are one of those judgmental, holier than thou people. Please pick up your bible and read it..

      • No Androgyny

        Male and female HE created them. Not androgynous HE created them. Do a little less reading and a lot more comprehending as you are missing the basics!

        • Prion

          The God of all the Universe, the framer of worlds is a MALE? WTF? Maybe you should research the cultural context in which the Bible was written. Or maybe you didn’t know that God created FEMALE in “his” image, too.

  • Carm

    Well I thought I heard it all from him, but he keeps putting his foot in his mouth. Such an embarrasment to the Christianity.

  • Maureen Hammond

    I watched the 700 club today and Pat Robertson did not say it. Media, has twisted it around.

  • Robert

    Pat answered the question in the context that it was asked. she asked how to forgive him and that’s what he answered to. She did not ask if it was right or wrong, she already knew that. She was trying to save her marriage and Pat gave her a way to do that. No where in there did he say he was approving of the actions of the husband.

    • Gerald

      Bless you Robert!

  • Margaret Hamilton

    Pat Robertson is a complete and total ass. My husband and I have been together 31 years and neither he nor I have ever cheated. If you really love someone you have no urge to cheat. If you are a shallow person, you will cheat. You don’t care about your spouse or your children, just yourself and your gratification. Shut up Pat. You obviously are just as shallow as the cheater in question. Why don’t you do us all a favor and retire and take your show with you.

    • Dallas in NC

      Margaret Hamilton, have your spouse take a lie detector test.

      • Terrie

        Well said….

  • Marty

    Has Pat lost it or what! Thou shall not commit adultery! Enough said.

  • lynetta daniels

    I think we have become people of little MORAL value, use any excuse or reason to justify what we want to do. The young folk call it KARMA… @ 58 years of age I remain “OLD SCHOOL”…… WE …EVERY OF US!!!!!!!

  • Haleigh

    The sanctity of marriage is being threatened everyday by crackpots like this. I’m not a feminist, however since when is it only the wife’s job to keep a happy household? Providing food, clothing and shelter are not the only responsibilities of a husband. They’re responsibilities for both husband and wife, especially now a days. I want to meet a woman who is satisfied with a life and husband of mid evil traditions, and one who is so forgiving for such harsh transgressions committed against their marriage.

    • No Androgyny

      But you are a feminist!

  • http://yahoo 56hornet

    I would do all that after I shot both of them…………….

  • Frank

    The cheating had allready happen. So this advice is OK. A man or a woman should be faithfull. If not. the one who cheated is wrong. ditching the one who cheated, is also wrong. What your end up doing is marrying someone else, and if your do read the bible. thats wrong also. So try to work it out and find out what happen and make it right.

  • karen

    Wow what an insult to men! It’s as if men don’t have the willpower to resist cheating. Hate to be his wife.

    • No Androgyny

      Is Eve and insult to women? Then shut up feminist.

    • Dallas in NC

      Better check your closets, Karen.

  • Robert Longazo

    The article is totally misleading…I watched the whole video, and he’s saying that if your in a marriage that is trying to move forward you cannot constantly bring up the past. How is bringing up bad memories or situations supposed to enhance a marriage? Trust me I’m no fan of Pat Robertson, but that’s all he was saying here.

    • http://yahoo Lisa Felicetty

      Well then don’t do anything to bring up bad comments…if you can’t stand the heat then get out of kitchen!!!!

      • Liz

        Pat Robertson is no prize. I have met him and he is a mean, nasty little man. A dog has more of the love of Christ than this man.I really feel sorry for his wife. Seriously.

        • Audrey

          Well in my heart, I go by the commandments and I do remember one says, “Thou shalt not commit Adultery… So where is Robertson getting this.. If the good Lord says it is not good, how can he come and tell men it is ok.. I think his senility is showing thru…

          • Dallas in NC

            Audrey is another person that didn’t watch the video. I think you need to go by more than just the Commandments.

          • Terrie

            Agreed. He is an idiot!

        • Dallas in NC

          And I bet Liz has never had a bad day.

    • jun Caling

      Yeah I agree. Pat Robertson’s advice was taken out of context. He was actually referring to a sin of infedelity committed by the husband 10 years ago which the wife should get rid off from her memory. She needs to give her husband a second chance by helping him do what changes she would want him to do. God Himself made a covenant with His people that “He will forgive their iniquity and their sin He will remember no more” (Jeremiah 31:34c. Paul reminds us in Galatian 6:1 that “if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently but watch yourself or you also may be tempted.”

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