Mayim Bialik Is Getting Tired Of Explaining Her Breast-Feeding Choices

    June 24, 2013
    Amanda Crum
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Mayim Bialik opened up recently about “attachment parenting”, which she practices, and says that because she’s an actress and in the public eye, strangers think it’s okay to confront her about her choices.

Bialik, who was a child star on the hit sitcom “Blossom” before moving on to more adult fare like “Big Bang Theory”, has two children and says she educated herself about the process of attachment parenting–which includes holding a baby or carrying him in a sling rather than using a stroller, allowing the child to sleep with the parents, and long-term breast feeding–before making the decision that it was right for her. But with public breast feeding having become such a hot-button issue in recent years, the idea of nursing past a certain age runs the gamut of emotions for many, from disgust to curiosity. And those things lead to awkward questions.

“Obviously the notion of an older child nursing is very strange to some people. In certain cultures it’s not. And I was very careful about when and how I chose to breastfeed my older child. I put a lot of boundaries and limits around it and again took the guidance of women who had sort of walked this path before me,” Bialik, who weaned her son from the breast when he was four, wrote on her blog. “I think the notion of breastfeeding at all is still very controversial in some circles.”

The actress says she’s not looking for a fight, although many people who approach her are.

“If I’m talking to girlfriends, if I’m talking to random people, and we’re talking about parenting, I tell them what works for me and why. But a lot of people want to ask me things so that they can fight with me,” she said. “And just because I’m a public person, who happened to have breastfed and slept with her kids, that doesn’t mean that I want to fight with you on the street or in the supermarket. So, I think you have to be really careful to understand why people want to know what they want to know.”

  • dean

    Well if you werem’t looking for argument or having to explain yourself, then DON’T BLOG about it!

  • Al

    Just because she blogs about it doesn’t mean she’s inviting a fight over it. She’s merely saying “this worked for me and here’s how and why”. If that doesn’t work for you, then fine. Do what you want. My wife, my sister, in fact all my female relatives didn’t breastfeed. Some tried it once…some tried it for a few days, some for a week or so, but in each case they decided it wasn’t for them. So be it. That’s their right and their choice. If they had chosen to blog about it, it wouldn’t have meant they were looking to fight with anyone anymore than Mayim is. She providing people with information. what people choose to do with that information is up to them. Don’t attack her for it.

    • Nan

      It ok for her to blog about attachment parenting and not want to defend her blog face to face? Nursing a child until the age of four is a hot topic.

      • Me

        I’ve had to deal with kids that were raised on attachment parenting and I think it stunts their development. They tended to throw worse tantrums and be outright scary in the stores when I ran across them.

        It’s her deal I think from an independence standpoint you’re holding them back.

        • Trudi

          I had to deal with children of attached parenting or prolonged nursing, too. They were no different from other kids except they were a little more independent and more confident. The kids who were raised by a single parent who worked two jobs sending their kids to assorted day care centers, or in welfare homes, and then the kids raised by alcoholic drug absuive parents were a real challenge, though. A child raised with love wins every time.

  • crista

    Actually reading the article FAIL

    • crista

      That was for Dean

  • Alec

    Good for her. I was breast-fed until I was sixteen and I didn’t turn out weird at all.

    Of course my wife does bear a striking resemblance to someone….

  • Trudi

    When it comes to breast-feeding and attachment parenting, the people who get it are happy and healthy and they understand. Those who don’t get it never will. It’s a parenting style I’ve supported and fought in favor of for 35 years and I’ve never changed anyone’s mind. On the other hand, those families who are committed to such personal parenting benefit greatly from blogs and discussions that share experiences and garner support. The arguments over breast-feeding will not end as long as society holds the breast as a sexual icon. The arguments of family beds and extended nursing will continue forever. Those that get it, get it; the rest never will.

  • John

    I wrote to Mayim and asked her to adopt me. Still haven’t heard back……

  • kat

    Stupid is as stupid does, Jon Alec….and ME you are WRONG….I attachment parented my first two boys, only breastfed for a lil over a year, my third surprise boy, I did not parent this way….he is so very different from the first two.
    Let’s let good parents be just that and attack parents like these:


    want to hook up with this mom, alec and john???!(

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  • Dave

    Didn’t work for me and my kids, but friends did it (with twins no less) they both turned out great. Both beautiful, straight A students. one of them plans to go to the Naval Academy.

  • Jon

    If she doesn’t want people asking about her breasteeding, then why is she talking about breastfeeding and doing interviews about it?

    • Penny

      It’s not a matter of her not wanting people to ask her about her breast feeding.. she just doesn’t want to be attacked for her parenting choices. Everyone is different and chooses what works best for their families. People need to leave her alone and stop harassing her and being rude just because she is in the public eye.

      • goddess

        yes, and I know some stupid people who they think breasteeding its not attachment parenting.How dumb,right? 😉