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Kandi Burruss Defends Mama Joyce, Talks Todd Tucker Drama

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Last night’s episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta was definitely one for the record books. However, most of the controversy wasn’t derived from any of the housewives. The drama award for Sunday night goes to none other than Kandi Burruss’ mother, ‘Mama Joyce’.

It’s definitely quite blatant that the Grammy award-winning singer-songwriter’s mother feels some kind of way, and the crux of the problem is Burruss’ fiance’, Todd Tucker. Now, for those who are avid fans of the Atlanta Housewives, it’s no secret that Mama Joyce isn’t one to hold back her opinion.

She and Burruss’ have been at odds all season where the wedding plans are concerned as her mother is adamant about her disapproval of Tucker.

Like most mothers, Mama Joyce is very protective of her daughter, with no intention of hiding any disdain, which is why she flew off the handle last night. For those who missed it, Mama Joyce and Burruss’ close friend Carmen got into a rather heated verbal altercation when she went to try on wedding dresses.

Mama Joyce is under the distinct impression that Carmen has a high level of underlying jealousy where Burruss is concerned. She also hinted that rumors of Tucker’s alleged infidelity have been brought to their family by Burruss’ employees. But, here’s the kicker. It’s rumored that Tucker is secretly involved with Carmen.

So, Mama Joyce definitely had no interest in entertaining the likes of Carmen. She also had no qualms about sharing her disapproval of everything with Burruss, and fans were appalled with the brash delivery of her message.

So, when Burruss appeared on Watch What Happens Live, with R&B singer Fantasia, a burning question was asked. In so many words, a caller asked was Mama Joyce’s disapproval of her engagement about money? The caller wanted to know if her mother felt threatened by Tucker’s presence because she’d no longer have access to her money.

According to S2S Magazine, the question caused Burruss to erupt, and she tearfully took the liberty of facing the issue dead-on in her mother’s defense.

“I feel like as her daughter, it’s my job to make sure that she’s good. She made sure I was good growing up. I’m going to make sure that she’s good. I don’t care if she doesn’t like my relationship,” said Burruss tearfully.

“That’s my mom. I don’t care what y’all have to say. That’s my mom. I’mma make sure that my mama’s good. She don’t have to talk to me. She don’t have to say anything to me,” explained Burruss. “Y’all can tweet. Y’all can do whatever…You can tweet to y’all get blue in the face. She can have whatever she want.”

“I’m not agreeing with everything my mother says. Obviously, we disagree on a lot of things. It’s just the fact of I’m going to be respectful in the way that I tell her. No, she’s not respectful in the way she tell me how she feels,” she explained. “When I became the person who made more money, it did not make me her mama. She’s still my mama. I’m going to approach her in a certain way.”

Burruss also addressed the status of her relationship with Tucker. The two are still engaged with plans to marry.

Image via Facebook | Kandi Burruss

 

Kandi Burruss Defends Mama Joyce, Talks Todd Tucker Drama


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  • http://www.kyleep06.com Kinyarda Davis

    I know how it feels to not have someone in your corner. MJ is in Kandi corner, we all know how men are, some men. I am just saying, I love what Kandi said, now that she makes more money does not mean she is the mom. I love your respect for your mom, we came up in the seventies era where you are to be seen and not heard, etc… I understand your respect, all hail to Kandi and MJ!!!

    • CSBerry

      I LOVE Kandi ,really would marry her myself . Dealt with parents like her Mom BUT I dont know about the tweets mentioned ,its obvious of the suspitions and it natural . I’m totally convinced that it over blown by MJ , and it hurting Kandi is the only way I see it . It is time to stop . It obvious she is doing the only trying to wear Todd down and MAKE him runaway . If her sign the prenup and move on because all of the for the tv show and what is real will collide and destroy their relationship . Todd if you love her turn your back on MJ and ignore her . She will break you . Now Todd if it true you need to man up and move the hell out of the way and the same for MJ either prove it or stop now . You are hurting your daughter more than you are Todd . Remove the doubt Todd or yourself . MJ Kandi is strong you raised her right but you and your sisters sound pathetic . Kandi i appreciate the respect you give but you are due at least some from your mother !!!!

      • MuchRespect

        AMEN!

    • Carol Latchford

      I think MJ figures if Kandi marries Todd the money will dry up. Believe me it’s all about MJ being supported ny Kandi. MJ thinks Todd will be getting Kandi’s money. If Kandi “marries up” aka rich man..the money will keep coming in.

    • ROBBIN GUNTER

      YES WE DID COME UP IN THE SEVENTIES, HOWEVER MRS.JOYCE IS MARRYING TODD. KANDI SAID THERE WILL BE A PRENUP SO WHY DOES SHE HAVE TO ALLOW MRS.JOYCE TO TALK TO TODD LIKE SHE DID.. THAT WAS WRONG. WRONG. WRONG. MRS,JOYCE DIDN’T HAVE TO TALK TO HIM LIKE SHE DID.. THAT WAS NOT RESPECT TOWARD HIM..

  • Sharon

    I understand the respect that Kandi have for her mom but, she needs to take care her own business. Kandi is a grown ass woman and if she make a mistake by marrying Todd thats her business. Mama Joyce needs to go sit down somewhere and leave Kandi alone.

    • amanda

      I agree. Kandi is grown and her mother needs to be respectful. Her delivery is all wrong, but her heart is in the right place, I think. I sometimes get the impression MJ is only mad because someone else is in the picture and as MJ put it herself, she said if something happened to Kandi, how does Kandi know that Todd would take care of her (MJ). He doesnt have to! Hes not her son. LOL. As her daughter Kandi wants to take care of her mother, because shes her mother. Todd handles himself well in situations where MJ is acting childish and throwing her tantrums. But all in all MJ is making sure her baby gets the best of the best.

    • MuchRespect

      I agree. Kandi you can still be respectful to your mom, but your mom needs to also be respectful of you and the decisions you make. I think she should step back and allow you the happiness you deserve and if Todd is what makes you happy she should be happy for you and stand behind you. Let it go MJ, Kandi is a grown woman and very intelligent, let her be grown and move out of the way.

  • rubye

    this lady might want tobb for her self/get life or get you a date

  • marie

    I have been in the same situtaion with my Mom. Your Mom loves you but the fear of being alone is the problem. No mattter what you say, it’s the underlying fear of you having “your own” family (new husband) and she is no longer needed (she will be home alone). Continue to love her but move on with your plans. This is a problem (issue) your mother needs to work on. The more you try, the more she will resist.

    • http://YAHOO ALLEN EMMA

      KANDI YOURE MY GIRL

    • Gloria Odom

      MJ is trying to get her own show and don’t care who she hurts in the process. Mother or not Kandi need to put her in her place, she gives MJ to much control.

  • Brian Hall

    That’s RIGHT she is still to MOTHER, and the Bible, THE WORD OF GOD SAYS A DISOBEDIENT CHILD DAYS WILL BE SHORT’N, AND NOT ONLY THAT YOU ONLY HAVE ONE, AND WE AS PARENTS ARE NOT ALWAYS RITE, BUT REMEMBER SHE HAS YO BEST ENTRESS, LIKE YOU SAID MONEY SHE CAN HAVE IT ALL DUE TO THE FACT SHE MADE SURE YOU HAD THE BEST, AND REMEMBER THOSE THAT’S TELLN YOU TO CHECK YO MOTHER IS VERY DISRESPECTFUL, CUZ YO MOMA NOT CHECKABLE, YOU THE CHILD AND WE ALWAYS BE. PRAYER CHANGES THINGS, LUFE AND DEATH IS IN THE POWER OF YO TONGUE, SO KANDI I LOVE YOU, SO YOU START SPEAKING LIFE, NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST YOU SHALL PROSPER, THE devil IS A LIE, SO HOLD YO HEAD UP HIGH, AND LET THE LORD FIGHT YO BATTLE, THE SO G WRITER SAID THE BATTLES NOT YOURS IT’S THE LORD… AMEN. LOVE K.B.

    • Robert

      Reverend Brian
      Quit yelling

      • http://yahoo NUNU

        HOW IN THE HELL DO YOU NO A PERSON IS YELLING IF YOU CAN’T HEAR THEM. WRITING IN CAPS DON’T MEAN YOUR YELLING. MATTER OF FACT IT’S EASIER TO WRITE IN ALL CAPS FOR ME BECAUSE YOU TYPE STRAIGHT THREW WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT UPPER CASE LOWER CASE. IT’S ALL ONE CASE AND THAT’S CAPS.

        WHO EVER CAME UP WITH YOUR YELLING CAUSE YOU USE ALL CAPS IS AN IDIOT AND SO ARE THE IDIOT FOLLOWERS OF THAT WHITE MAN RULE!!

        • debbie

          “WHITE MAN RULE”, WHAT’S THAT ABOUT?????????

          • http://yahoo CARLA

            Damn, where did that come from? I’m with you on that one Debbie, and I’m black. LOL

        • Carol Latchford

          Hey NUNU…do you mean KNOW and THROUGH and YOU”RE as in you are. Oviously you weren’t in school the day they were teaching spelling and grammar. As for your last comment..well that’s just plain ignorant.

      • http://yahoo NUNU

        HOW IN THE HELL CAN YOU SAY SOMEONE IS YELLING CAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO WRITE IN ALL CAPS?? YOU CAN’T EVEN HEAR THEM!!SOME PEOPLE WRITE IN CAPS CAUSE IT’S EASIER YOU DON’T HAVE TO KEEP GOING FROM UPPER CASE TO LOWER CASE. YOU CAN TYPE STRAIGHT THREW. WHOEVER CAME UP WITH THIS RULE IS AN IDIOT AND ALL THOSE WHO ARE OBIVIOUSLY NOT LEADERS BUT FOLLWERS ARE IDIOT’S AS WELL.

        ONCE UPON A YOU COULD TYPE IN ALL CAPS AND NO ONE SAID YOU WERE YELLING!!! SO SOME WHITE PERSON CAME UP WITH THIS AND YOU FOLLOWERS FOLLOWING ANYTHING ANY TREND THAT COME ALONG!!! SOOOOOO SAD!!

        AN GUESS WHAT I WASN’T YELLING IN MIND WHEN I TYPED THIS OR YELLING OUT LOUD!!!

        STOP FOLLOWING TRENDS IT JUST MIGHT LEAD YOU SOMEWHERE YOU MY REGRET!!!

        • guest123321

          Ummmmm…. I am not sure how writing in all caps is a part of a trend or how it was invented by a white man. Do you actually write in all capital letters on paper? If you do, you are beyond strange. All capital letters indicates emphasis on the words you are using. This implies that you are yelling. This may not be your goal but it is what is implied. Your excuse that it is easier to write in all caps is invalid because it is just as easy to use lower case. If you don’t want to change, sure you don’t have to, just stop making some new issue that really doesn’t exist.

          • amanda

            What is up with that person? haha. “IM NOT YELLING” Im just really trying to emphasize that I dont know what Im talking about. GOSH. #getonthecapsbandwagonwhydontya

          • http://yahoo CARLA

            NUNU a little salty about something. This all caps thing is the straw that broke the camel’s back I’m guessing. Take a Xanax NUNU. LOL

        • KP

          Please understand that if you write in all caps it is considered yelling. No one person, White or Black came up with this idea. Also, the underlying problem is that you have a problem with grammar and spelling. Overall, I would say you need to work on your writing. Once you learn some rules about decorum, you will respect the language you were born into. BTW, I’m a Black woman who just so happens to know MLA.

          • http://yahoo nick

            THAT’S STUPID! AND I’M YELLING…….

    • kd

      @Brian Hall – this is dumb! I hate when people quote the Bible and take it out of the context it was intended for and put it in the context of their dumb opinions. This is how cults get started; take one verse and run away with it. Eat the whole loaf. It is time for her to put a way childish things (1 corinthians 13:11) and if she chooses to marry that dude, it is time for him (and her) to leave momma (and daddy) and to cleave to one another.

    • Beth Turner

      The Bible also states love thy neighbor also. Make sure when you quote about an incident address all parties and their mistakes…

      • kd

        PROVERBS 18:6 – A FOOLS LIPS ENTERETH INTO CONTENTION AND IS MOUTH CALLETH FOR…
        PROVERBS 26:17 – HE THAT PASSETH BY, AND MEDDLETH WITH STFIE BELONGING NOT TO HIM, IS LIKE ONE THAT TAKETH A DOG BY THE EARS.

    • KM

      Ohhhh LORDY, here we go with the bible verses.
      I would never say that Kandi should disrespect her mother or cut ties. But she DOES need to set boundaries.

      Yes, life and death IS in the power of the tongue. . .I think Mama Joyce needs to go back an reread that quote. Spreading rumors about Carmen cheating with Todd is not looked upon highly by Christian scripture either.

      She needs to give Kandi space to make her own mistakes.
      On another note, I find it ironic that Kandi’s mother is worried about the prospect of TODD being an opportunist, but in the same breath saying Kandi needs to marry “UP” LOL. My advice to Kandi: your Mama is not going anywhere, she loves you and will always be in your corner. But if you don’t set boundaries now, she is all you will have left. Todd might have enough and leave, Carmen is not going to stick around to get insulted, and some of her words even have the potential to drive a wedge between you and your daughter.

      • CSBerry

        Well said KM you sound wise and patient . Flip the qoute this way is how i heard it , The power of the tongue can give life or death . It seems the her mother already knows this . Yes it will be ok for letting a rich celeb to marry her and use and abuse her but not a common man . All she needs to do is give facts about an affair or let it go . anybody can make a negative story and she’ll believe it . If he’s the nicest person ever she won’t be happy with him . Once again I’m crazy about Kandi .Her mother appears to just be crazy .

    • louise

      RESPECT, goes BOTH ways!

      • guest2day

        Yes, the ladies need to respect each other. BOTH are very disrespectful to Todd. Allowing your mother to treat your future husband like this shows a lack of respect and love for him. Maybe Kandi’s not really in love with Todd.

  • Brian Hall

    That’s RIGHT she is still yo MOTHER, and the Bible, THE WORD OF GOD SAYS A DISOBEDIENT CHILD DAYS WILL BE SHORT’N, AND NOT ONLY THAT YOU ONLY HAVE ONE, AND WE AS PARENTS ARE NOT ALWAYS RITE, BUT REMEMBER SHE HAS YO BEST ENTRESS, LIKE YOU SAID MONEY SHE CAN HAVE IT ALL DUE TO THE FACT SHE MADE SURE YOU HAD THE BEST, AND REMEMBER THOSE THAT’S TELLN YOU TO CHECK YO MOTHER IS VERY DISRESPECTFUL, CUZ YO MOMA NOT CHECKABLE, YOU THE CHILD AND WE ALWAYS BE. PRAYER CHANGES THINGS, LUFE AND DEATH IS IN THE POWER OF YO TONGUE, SO KANDI I LOVE YOU, SO YOU START SPEAKING LIFE, NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST YOU SHALL PROSPER, THE devil IS A LIE, SO HOLD YO HEAD UP HIGH, AND LET THE LORD FIGHT YO BATTLE, THE SONG WRITER SAID THE BATTLES NOT YOURS IT’S THE LORD… AMEN. LOVE K.B.

  • Toni Everett

    Bottom line is Kandi is NOT going to ever marry anyone that her mother does not approve of, Todd is just wasting his time and so is Kandi. Time for them to just go their own way’s and stop all this Momma drama.

    • KM

      It would be so unfortunate for Kandi to miss out on a true love or live in strife all due to some stupid rumors that have no validity. The entire situation is sad.

      Maybe Kandi and her Mama just need to drive off into the sunset and retire together. No boys allowed!!! Kandi, her mom and aunts can give Riley the side eye, when she grows up and get engaged :(

      • CSBerry

        You know what I just thought . I bet MJ can have a mna but Kandi can’t . Well really it looks like MJ should get a man and calm down .

  • boots

    I THIMK MOMMA JOYCE NEED TO MIND TO HER OWN BUSINESS.I FEEL SHE IS DOING THINGS TO KEEP KANDI FROM BEING HAPPY CAUSE SHE AINT HAPPEN. WHAT MOMMA JOYCE NEEDS TO DO IS GET HER A MAN. ALL SHE NEED IS FOR SOMEONE TO SCREW HER GOOD. THEN SHE WILL BE HAPPY. SHE TO OLD FOR ALL THAT MESS. GET YOU A MAN AND YOUR LIFE WILL BETTER MOMMA JOYCE.KANDI YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY AND AS LONG AS YOUR MOM IS IN YOUR BUSINESS FORGET IT. SHE WANTS YOU TO BE JUST TO HER. OLD WITH NO MAN…….

    • T JORDAN

      boots u said it best. Mom sometime over do it, I had to put my foot down on my mother in law. now the understanding is understood

  • http://webpronews that’sridiculous

    I think Joyce is just afraid that she is going to miss out on a penny so she feels threatened by anyone who is a constant in Kandi’s life. She needs to let her daughter make her own decisions and just be there for her when and if she needs her. Joyce GROW UP!

  • sandra

    Kandi is never going to marry Todd. Respect goes two ways, Kandi has to repect her Mom and her Mom has to respect her. When we raise children we teach them what they need for the world and send them on their way so that they can practice what we taught. If Mommy Joyce keeps repeating the lesson when will Kandi get a chance to practice the skill. Move on Todd, find you a good women who can stand on her own. Money right now is the only thing holding Kandi up. Ask yourself if Kandi was a “regular” woman with regular money would you stand for this?

  • Stephanie

    Sadly, I think there is something wrong with Mama Joyce. Mama Joyce is out of control. Kandi needs to get her to a doctor.

    • mackeasters@ymail.com

      No matter who Kandi picks,her mother will still feel the same.He did not like the last guy ,who was murdered.My mother felt the same about,a young man I was dating.I took control of my on life,and have been married,to his same young man,for almost 41 years.She need to let Kandi make her own mistakes.If mama dies today,Kandi will live on.

  • stacey

    You have to remember that Kandi does not have a good track record when it comes to picking a good man. Her daughter’s father is not involved with Riley at all, he’s a deadbeat. Then she was engaged to AJ who had questionable character and was murdered. Kandi is worth millions and this guy Todd comes with nothing and doesn’t even have a steady job. Kandi’s mother has single handedly raised her, is ever present in her life, co-raises Riley and picks up the pieces every time Kandi’s life is shattered. I believe that Joyce wants nothing more than for Kandi to have a great man to share her life with and knows as a mother does, that Todd is bad news.

    • B.Gunk

      Kandi’s mom prolly hired a hit man on AJ an will do the same to Todd. Wait and see!

    • donna smith

      Yes Todd does have a steady job…obviously you don’t pay much attention to the show

    • amanda

      Where is Kandis father?

      • http://yahoo nick

        Where is most Black woman childrens Father? Not with the childs Mother. Why else would you have a show so popular called Real Housewives and no one is married!

        • Alysha

          Ummm…Nick your an idiot. Most of the women are married on the Atlanta version, as many as the other versions. Beverly Hills and some of the other white housewives have married members of the show. On Atlanta, Cynthia, Phaedra, Nene and until recently Porsha were all married. So gets your stats right before commenting. Oh and guess what, happily black married woman here…bloop!

        • Native New Yorker

          @nick…really??? I hope you are not a black man using grammar like this. You are an embarrassment and a menace to society. I can’t believe you type the way you speak. An then I can’t believe you used a singular verb in a plural question. “Where is most black woman…”??? WOW!!! Sweetie, please go back to a learning institution that will help you get your GED or get of sites where you feel compelled to leave a comment.

      • CSBerry

        mmmhm Issue number 1

    • I COMPLETELY AGREE WITJ YOU!!!!

      The best comment I’ve read so far!!!!!!!

    • CSBerry

      Yeah but thats part of the same pkg that MJ is trying to sell . Kandi csn have the worst tack record ever she still don’t deserve all of this . Elizabeth Taylor anyone ?

    • LD

      Todd was on the job when he met Kandi and even since then has passed up jobs to be with Kandi. He works on the set and some jobs are a conflict of interest, that’s how much he loves her. Kandi is being irrational. She got emotional on WWHL and said that she didn’t care about Andy and her fans tweet or what we thought about her and her mom’s public situation. And that’s not good for business. I bet Joyce start effecting Kandi’s money’s coming in she would stop her. Kandi needs to get her mom some help. And Todd should be having second thought about marrying her.

  • rubydice

    Yes we did grow up in the 70′s with upmost respect lol or your face would be showcased in the wall! Mamma Joyce knows her child better than anybody even if she’s grown. I know several succesful intelligent people that are weak or slower than others when it comes to relationships etc. The parents feels they have to helicopter over the adult child to protect their low level of intelligence. Kandi is well mannered but this could be her problem and MJ feels she needs to feel in for her short commings. I do feel her staff witnessed something and knowing MJ she got a PI on that tail. Kandi stay prayed up !!!

  • http://yahoo Nita B

    I agree with Sunday’s caller, I believe Mama Joyce to be jealous also , because of the money and what she feels it will take away from her. Mama Joyce dislikes Todd for her own selfish reasons. And Ms. Kandi needs to wake and smell the coffee honey, you don’t need to be disrespectful to your mom, but you do need to stand your ground!

  • Allison

    I rarely watch reality tv and when I saw the confrontation between Kandi’s mother, Joyce and her best friend, Carmen, I was very disappointed. Both women came off as being disrespectful to each other and especially to Kandi. I saw two women who both care about Kandi and want the best for her, but two women who couldn’t put their pettiness aside just for a few hours to show love and unity for Kandi. That was heartbreaking. Regardless of what you feel about Kandi and her fiance, it is THEIR business. Mommy Joyce…you are going to have to let Kandi be Kandi. Mistakes and regret happen and I know you would rather be her shoulder to cry on IF the chip fall than to be someone she doesn’t want to share her life with. She said she will always make sure you are “good” and have your back. It’s time to have hers too. Sometimes the best supporter is a quiet supporter. And to Carmen…you are a great and dear friend of Kandi’s. Stay that way, but know your role in her life. Know that she will love you forever, but if the choice has to be made between her mother and her best friend, she is ALWAYS going to choose her mother. Be her friend, but know when it is time to step back and respect the relationship Kandi has with her mother.
    Kandi… I wish you love, peace of heart and soul and all the happiness your heart can handle. Stay in God’s graces and remember it may rain today, but there will be rainbows tomorrow. Love ya.

    • http://yahoo nick

      That’s real!

  • Neicy

    I’m sorry but Mama Joyce is way out of line. She’s too concerned with Kandi’s coins not realizing that she raised a good child and she’s going to be happy. Mama needs a hobby and to stay out of her child’s life. Someone is going to scoop Todd right from under Kandi if this keeps going on.

  • Rob P

    This is total BS of MJ! She is very disrespectful to that man, and Carmen. When Kandi sits there and does not check her, and put her in her in her d#$n place, that means that Kandi condones her behavior! MJ is your mother, not theirs! Those two are trying to stay as respectful as they can to your mother! How would you respond to someone jumping up in your face? It could have went EXTREMELY BAD!!!

  • GoodGirlNPursuit

    If a lot of you mothers were like Momma Joyce then we wouldn’t have over 1/2 of our young daughters having multiple baby daddies out of wedlock. I believe MJ is looking out for her daughter and concerned about Kandi’s choice in men. While I understand why MJ is reacting this way I also believe its time for her to allow Kandi to make a few men mistakes like the rest of us women have made. It will only make her stronger and aware of scrubs like Todd and yes, he is a scrub – he might be a fine scrub but a scrub is a scrub – she just didn’t meet him riding in the passengers side of his homie’s car hollering at her… BLOOP!

    • http://Yahoo.com Ann

      HOw can you say Todd is a scrub, everyone keeps acting like he has nothing.. He is a TV Producer, works for Bravo.. Ok he may not make as much as Kandi doesn’t mean he a scrub or after her $$. I have respect for him because he could have went off most men(especially Black men) would not have allowed Mama Joyce to say the stuff she said to him and how she said it.. As for Carmen, I feel for her mama Joyce liked her at one time now she’s sleeping with him, interesting.. I dont think Kandi’s staff has told her anything I think as Carmen says she’s spreading it.. Which means she has no respect for Kandi!!!

      • GoodGirlNPursuit

        @Ann like this “Todd is a scrub”… Get your facts right, he USED to be a TV Producer and now he’s an “Entrepreneur”. Fine time to decide on starting your own business! This is where the “opportunist” comments from MJ are extending from. What a great time to quit your “TV Producer” job with stability and security. I am an Entrepreneur with a proven record of earning an ROI but it didn’t happen over night for me and it won’t happen over night for him. In the meantime, who’s footing the bill. That’s all I’m saying…BLOOP!

        • GoodGirlNPursuit

          and by the way Ann – Carmen is a scrub also.

        • LD

          Todd said that since being with Kandi he has passed up jobs to be with Kandi. He works on the set and some jobs are a conflict of interest, that’s how much he loves her. Like Kandi said, she wrote no scrubs. Kandi knows what she has and what she wants. Kandi is being irrational. She got emotional on WWHL and said that she didn’t care about Andy and her fans tweet or what we thought about her and her mom’s public situation. And that’s not good for business. I bet Joyce start affecting Kandi’s money’s coming in she would stop her. Kandi needs to get her mom some help. And Todd should be having second thought about marrying her.

          • SanMarie Kirk

            This was the only comment I said hell yeah to. Todd needs to think about what he is walking into. All women have made some type of mistake when it comes to the affairs of the heart. Also, most of the women that are calling Todd a scrub have no man at all and the ones that do man, they aren’t making them to happy or they wouldn’t be so bitter towards the next guy. I can’t stand the way her mother is behaving and she does need to be asked to act her age and not her shoe size. Also, Kandi father is in her life. He is a preacher and he divorced Kandi’s mother a long time ago. I can only imagine why. Maybe she was at one time a sweet women but something happened to make her bitter and evil minded. Kandi choosing not to take anyone’s advice about her mom is showing that she is very closed minded and don’t want change concerning her mothers relationship with her. Even if Kandi still marries Todd there will still a some mess going on with her mother. Is it really worth the headache and mistrust that will be thrown at Todd all the time. I think not.

    • LD

      No bone head, you stroke a nerve there. Todd is not a scrub. As I said above, Todd was on the job when he met Kandi and even since then has passed up jobs to be with Kandi. He works on the set and some jobs are a conflict of interest, that’s how much he loves her. Kandi’s mom has put her in a bad place. Kandi is being irrational. She got emotional on WWHL and said that she didn’t care about Andy and her fans tweet or what we thought about her and her mom’s public situation. And that’s not good for business. I bet Joyce start effecting Kandi’s money’s coming in she would stop her. Kandi needs to get her mom some help. And Todd should be having second thought about marrying her. I have lost respect for Kandi.

    • o rly

      Hush GoodGirlNPursuit, you scrub pigeon.

  • Melony Hutchinson

    I think Kandi is a wonderful Daughter to stand up for her Mom 100%. We all know that we only get one Mother and many Men. Not to say that Todd is not worthy but we all know there is no guessing when it comes to your Mom. Go Kandi.

    • LD

      Mama Joyce is out of control. I don’t want to see a TV show where a old lady is trying to fight for any reason. Kandi should get under control for everyone’s sake. Joyce have lived her life so now let Kandi live her life. I say run Todd cause it is not going to get any better. And since Kandi don’t care about her fans, then we don’t care about her. I say that it’s time for her to leave the show.

  • Robert

    what a freak!! Good grief, she sure is homely!!

  • Lex B

    I was in this same situation with my dad NO!! man was never good enough for him for me, I had relationships that where really great and the guys were very nice and treated me good, What happen in my case was he passed away not being able to walk me down the isles and it kind of made me angry my dad was gone and when I did get married it was years after he died and being his only daughter and going through that really hurt me, So I understand respecting him but losing him was an even worse situation and him not being there on my big day, he would tell me not to get married and then he would not like any of the guys that I would bring around. So Kandi and Momma Joyce think about being here today and also gone today as well, We are not promised that we would never leave this world and we don’t get to chose the way we go. So give her this one time to make sure she got it right Momma, A mothers love will always live in Kandi’s heart just think of yourself gaining a son even when you lost the one you had and having more grand kids to love. and keep riley out of your family issues she is too young. And Todd I commend you on being the better person in this because I know a lot of guys would be gone. But I also know this is television and rating are being boost with Marriage and Divorce on this show, Remember it was Cynthia and Peter in the beginning when they got married and then it was Kenya and Walter and Nene and Greg and Phaedra and Apollo and Porsche and Kordell that ended in divorce and now Kandi and Todd, it’s all about ratings…..

  • Squirlee

    ATTA GIRL KHANDI!!! Stand up for your Mom whether she is right or wrong, thats MOMMA & you only get one. She has been with you whether you were right or wrong. Men come & men go but Momma always has yo back.

    • LD

      Lady please. Wrong is Wrong. Moma Joyce will be trying to fight Todd next since she got away with showing out on national TV. Run Todd because it won’t get any better.

  • rubydice

    Momma Jocye get much luv from me she’s like my mom, who had to be both parents! I would never sit back and watch my child get taken advantage of .Even if they choose to stay with that person they would be exposed. Also we must remember that she has lost one child, so she’s going to be over protective at all cost. Luv me some MJ straight ” Old School”

  • rubydice

    Momma Jocye get much luv from me she’s like my mom, who had to be both parents! I would never sit back and watch my child get taken advantage of .Even if they choose to stay with that person they would be exposed. Also we must remember that she has lost one child, so she’s going to be over protective at all cost. Luv me some MJ straight ” Old School”

  • A Mother

    A mothers place is to stand by your adult child and be there if she falls. Not dictate. Just advise. Her actions were shameful.

  • rubydice

    Who want to watch sit back and watch your child fall!

  • victoria reynolds

    I believe Mama means well. She has your best interest at heart but, there is a way to go about handling it. I respect Kandi for the respect you have for your mom. I will say this don’t let love blind you. Pre-Nup you take what you come with. The answer Todd gave kind of threw me off. What is Fair!! Red Flag!! You may not marry someone that has more money than you but, you should cover yourself.

  • Patricia

    I totally understanding respecting her Mother, I was taught there is a right way and a wrong way to do everything especially when it comes to handling your parents, but also her mom has to respect the fact that she is a grown ass woman, you gotta give respect to get it. Kandi don’t let anybody else talk sideways to her, she be going in on those women. Kandi if you don’t get a handle on this situation your gonna end up old and alone, hell did somebody look into the last guys accident Momma Joyce didn’t like him either IJS, Todd you might wanna watch your back.

  • Angela

    I completly understand where Momma Joyce is coming from as a mom myself with a young daughter. We are overprotective and just want the best for our girls. Kandi, I love the fact that no matter no one says that is your mom and you will protect her and stand by her. Maybe as your mom continue to view the love that Todd has for you and Riley, she will slowly come around. We mothers have our own instints about these situations.

  • mlsj78

    I understand kandi’s idea of respecting her mother, but Momma Joyce also needs to realize that Kandi is a grown ass woman and needs to live her own life! Momma Joyce really needs to sit her old ass down and mind her business, for real. IF Kando wants to be a fool—-let her be one. In life, we all make good and bad choices. When it boils down to it, Kandi WILL NEVER be happy worrying about what her momma thinks. Momma Joyce WILL NEVER like anyone Kandi brings home. Therefore Kandi will grow old and lonely like her momma, belittleing her child at the same time…

  • Stella W.

    I was raised in Tennessee by a strong black woman who did not care for the man I married BUT she respected my decision and treated him with respect also. She did not talk to him like a dog nor did she clown like Kandi’s mom did with her best friend. I felt sorry for Kandi..as a mother there are some things you just don’t do and what Joyce did was so unlike a mother. At some point Kandi should be able to make her own mistakes if that is what Todd is. I hope she and Todd do marry and what comes after will be what is supposed to be.

  • Kimberly

    nothing but love and Respect for Kandi….classy lady and I love the black and red hair, true beauty inside and out! #teamKandi

  • I COMPLETELY AGREE WITJ YOU!!!!

    KANDI, ALL CAPS BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO HEAR ME!!! I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY, THAT IS STILL YOUR MOTHER. ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT GOES ON IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD. ONLY YOU KNOW HOW YOUR MOTHER WENT WITHOUT TO MAKE SURE YOU HAD. ONLY YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR MOTHER IS COMING FROM. YOUR MOTHER HAS A GOOD HEART, AND SHE’S ONLY WANTING TO PROTECT YOU. MY MOTHER WOULD DO THE SAME. KANDI CONTINUE TO PRAY AND ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU GUIDANCE AND DIRECTION DURING THESE TOUGH TIMES. WHO CARES ABOUT WHAT OTHERS ARE TWEETING, FB’ING, ABOUT YOUR MOTHER. AT THE END OF THE DAY….SHE’S STILL YOUR MOTHER!!!! I LOVE YOU, RILEY AND YOUR MOTHER….AND I’M PRAYING FOR YOU GIRL!

  • sara

    she is one BAD CHICK without a lot of fanfare, she let’s others shine from her creations and she has so much confidence in her self that she doesn’t even have to flash her $$$$. A REAL SISTA… With that said, she should tell her mom respectfully that she has chosen the one, not some rich man who will not love her like Todd, he is no scrub. People need to stop trying to destroy the black family, and let love into your life regardless of the money.

  • Bdizasster

    I think people are still forgetting that Kandi said she would ask Todd to sign a pre-nup and well she should she is worth about 35 million. If he doesn’t sign it then she should definitely take that into consideration…same issue Nene and Greg were having before they remarried. I think MJ just has control issues, Kandi is almost 40 and has allowed her mother to dictate her relationships thus far. Kandi would’ve never married Aj even if he hadn’t been murdered,because her mom would’ve continued to protest it simply because SHE thought he was questionable. Kandi has got to bump her head learn and as her mother she should be there when she does. MJ can’t protect her from everything in life what grown woman wants to be that sheltered? You teach people how to treat you and Kandi has definitely showed her mom that disrespecting her man and their relationship is perfectly fine. She could put MJ in her place without being disrespectful, but until she stops excusing her behavior and set some boundaries this will continue to happen. She doesn’t have any respect for Kandi acting a fool in a Bridal Shop on nationally sindicated T.V. how embarrassing.

  • http://yahoo Ivy Benson

    For the people who are talking crazy about mama joyce do not have respect for themself or anyone , this is her mom and your parent always see thing that you do see and yes you dont want to see your child get hurt , that be said all todd have to do is to treat Kandi good that she will start respecting him as a son in law and mama Joyce will be good it have nothing to do with money.

    • LD

      Todd has been nothing but respectful to Mama Joyce. It is mama Joyce that is provoking her man and her childhood friend. Not too many men would stick around for that kind of abuse. I say run Todd because it won’t get any better.

  • LaLa Williams

    Am I the only person that sees that Kandi has an unhealthy pattern with men/extremely naive? Momma Joyce’s approach is wrong, BUT I get that she’s tired of gullible Kandi with men AND “friends.” As her mom she needs to let her daughter learn on her own even if it will hurt/ruin her & be there when she needs her. Her approach makes people blind to her validity.

    The last fiance in his own words “just got out a marriage” (aka he messing with Kandi & left his wife) so PEOPLE where not happy about them getting married. They also “shared” the responsibility for 3 of his SIX kids he had custody of (how convenient).

    Todd was in a relationship when she got with him and the fact that the pre-nup was ever debatable is a red flag.
    These the only men we know about & her pattern is obvious. When Marlo called her a sugga momma, she didn’t deny it she simply stated she had the money so what. Her momma knows she buys love & it hurts her the girl doesn’t know her own worth.

    She thought Kim was her friend & got shisttted on, Carmen’s actions only confirm MJ’s assertions & no matter what my mom said, a real friend would walk away not agitate an already upset person. They been friends forever so Carmen knows MJ, she got pleasure outta irritating that lady. She doesn’t know her place as a “friend” & the issues between them run deep. Kandi made the statement that Carmen would never do blah blah blah. Big mistake honey, you never let anyone know you trust them to that extent because they will do whatever, knowing you’ll never suspect it.You can tell Carmen is an undercover hater.

    • LD

      That’s what Joyce wants, to have everyone out of Kandi’s life. She want’s her all to herself. Whatever happens to Kandi, she deserve. I say leave the show because it is out of control and I don’t want to see a old lady acting out like that. Bring on Nene’s new friend and lets see what king of drama comes from that. Bloop

  • Herbert

    I agree with Sunday’s caller, I believe Mama Joyce to be jealous also , because of the money and what she feels it will take away from her. Mama Joyce dislikes Todd for her own selfish reasons. And Ms. Kandi needs to wake and smell the coffee honey, you don’t need to be disrespectful to your mom, but you do need to stand your ground!
    Nita B

  • GeeBee

    I am all for being obedient and respectful to the parents, but respect goes both ways. If my parents raised me with dignity and morals then they should also trust that I can make a decision for myself. I have never had my mother interfere in my personal relationships whether they were with a boyfriend or a female friend. My mother served as a listening ear and let the final choice as to the relationship be mine. Yes she voiced her opinion, but she has never become belligerent, rude, or physically violent towards anyone because of what she heard or rumors on the street. Kandi needs to draw the line with her mother and Momma Joyce needs to allow a grown ass woman to make decisions for herself. If Kandi keeps this up, her mother will continue to tell her what to do from here until she leaves this earth and Kandi will continue to be a single mom to Riley and while pushing those sex toys. Momma Joyce needs to learn how to share her child with others. She didn’t get that lesson back in kindergarten.

  • PatriciaN.

    I do think Kandi’s mother has been over the top, but at the same time she makes a very valid point about Todd not wanting to sign a prenup. When you have as much money as Kandi, she really needs make a plan of how she’s going to protect the wealth she had BEFORE she ever even met the dude. And Kandi needs to wonder why he flat out refuses to sign a prenup, because that’s kinda shady.

    • LD

      Like Wendy Williams said, these reality show destroy relationships and marriages. That being said, Kandi should make it plain that mom and no one else will dictate what will happen with her marriage. It has been said that Todd has already signed a prenup. But, he said to Kandi that no because mom is not going to tell him what to do – that it’s not her business. Kandi needs to let moma Joyce light get turned off one time is all it’s going to take for Joyce to sit down somewhere and act like she want to be in Kandi and Riley’s life. But at this point, Kandi is too far gone. I now have no respect for her, she on her on. She will end up alone like her mom and aunts.

  • Eugeniaa

    Kandi:
    Question: Are you going to treat your daughter the same way your mother is treating you? You can still love and support your mother, just don’t let her ruin your life for happiness. Where is her better half? Find her a companion and she will leave you alone. LOL

  • ghetto D

    MJ and NENE needs to fight on the undercard of Floyd Mayweather Jr, & PACMAN!

  • Angie Johnson

    I think mama Joyce should mind her own business and have her daughter’s back.That’s who her daughter love and decided to marry.Getting married should be the happiest day in a girl’s life instead Kandi is miserable.If Kandi keep allowing her mother to do these things as she say her mother always do,when somebody gets close to her,then Kandi is going to be as lonely and bitter just like her mom.

    • Gloria Odom

      Amen Angie

    • LD

      You are right so Angie. Kandi had better break the patten.

  • Native New Yorker

    Kandi you need to help your mama find a man, again. Put her on a different dating site and let someone else marry and take care of her. Once she is occupied with her own life, she will butt out of yours. This reminds me of when Usher got married and Pat was all against Usher and Tamika. When he fired her as his manager, she moved on and got a life and met a man and eventually married him. Although Usher’s mother had a bad feeling about Tamika, Usher still married her and dealt with the end result (the divorce) in his own way. But that grew him up and made him much more mature. Maybe Kandi has to experience the Hard Knocks Life of marriage and whatever comes after that as well. She’s strong. She will survive.

  • Monica

    I truly hope this is all scripted. If not, in my opinion, is obvious and really sad, because this goes way deeper than “Todd and/or Carmen”. Among other issues, for MJ to say that “if something happened to Kandi, how does Kandi know that Todd would take care of her (MJ)”, proves that MJ is NOT going to like ANYONE that Kandi wants to marry. REALLY, how is Kandi going to “know” that about any man she falls in love with and decides to marry? Isn’t this about Kandi being HAPPY, or scarifying for her mother’s “happiness”. Again, I truly hope this is all scripted.

  • Chi-Sis

    I don’t think MJ’s concerns are baseless. However I do think her approach is all the way wrong. My Dad is very protective of me and sometimes oversteps. He has to be respectful reminded that I am grown and he raised me right. Unless you’ve been in this type of situation you can’t really say what a person should or should not do. I respect Kandi’s refusal to disrespect her mom. HOWEVER she needs to make it perfectly clear that her mom needs to respect her and her decisions. At the end of the day MJ has to be confident in the fact that she raised an intelligent woman. I have a dtr too and I think I’m more protective of her than my husband so I get where MJ is coming from. I don’t agree with MJ disrespect for Todd or Kandi. Your dtr is self made, bought her house flat out trust me I don’t think Kandi’s a fool!

  • Charlzetta Driver

    Kandi you are a grown woman, not a child. Your mother needs to respect you “Woman to woman” when you don’t require that, you allow her to be head of your household just like when you were a child.

    If any man marry’s you like that there is definitely something lacking in him. Because no self sufficient grown man is going to allow his mother nor his spouse’s mother to lead their household.

  • Charlzetta Driver

    Furthermore, until you stand up like a woman she will always treat you like a child. If you truly intend to marry this man, or any man, you need to be willing to go forward with it whether your mom and aunts support it or not and as long as they don’t support it, they should not be welcome to the events in the process of the wedding because it takes the joy away from it for you and for those that really support you and are happy for you.

  • Jasper

    Kandi needs to have a talk to MJ in Private. Kandi is a Grown Ass Woman that needs to start acting like one! MJ is acting very childish! She is not looking out for her daughter by lying on Todd and Carmen! Is it that serious to lie on these two individuals because you believe that they are after Kandi’s money! Get a life and a Man!

  • Suzy

    Kandi does not deserve to be married, or to have friends. She is allowing an evil mother to ruin her life.It is her choice, so she rightfully deserves all the consequences that accompany that.

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