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Chick-Fil-A Gets Breastfeeding Moms Upset

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Chick-Fil-A is back in headlines this week after a group of breastfeeding moms staged a “nurse-in” at a Knoxville store following a confrontation with a store employee.

Jennifer Day says she was feeding her daughter when she was approached by the employee.

“Just as I was finishing up, an employee came up and told me other parents were afraid of letting their children play while I was feeding her, especially without a cover,” Day said.

In response, Day and a group of nursing moms staged the nurse-in at the restaurant in an effort to try to gain public acceptance and spread awareness about local laws, which say that breastfeeding in public is not illegal.

“We want everyone to feel safe. We want nursing mothers to feel safe because what is more family then a mother and her baby and this is a family restaurant,” said nurse-in organizer Anna Hurley. “We just want to normalize breastfeeding. We just want society to change their views.”

The restaurant owner released a statement about the incident, saying, “The manager has apologized and regrets any offense he may have caused.” They are also reportedly planning to work with the East Tennessee Breastfeeding Coalition on sensitivity training, which may surprise some after the company’s highly-publicized battle with the LGBT community last year.

For many, the issue of public breastfeeding is an uncomfortable one. But, as mom Melissa Davenport said, “If you’re uncomfortable with it you can look away. Moms are really just trying to feed their babies.”

Chick-Fil-A Gets Breastfeeding Moms Upset
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  • Leah

    Where are their husbands? What is their opinion on this? When you go into a store most signs used to read, no shirt, no shoes, no service..why do you think that is? What happened to common decency? What happened to shame? Breastfeeding is natural, I agree, but women in the past never flopped out a boob in chic fil a. Could she not wait to eat? I don’t get it.

    • Annie

      Leah,
      you sound like a real twat.

      • flash

        Leah, the term is twit . It is only your opinion and one that millions do not share. Open your poor little closed mind.

        • flash

          I am a twit just now. I meant to reference Annie not Leah. I agree with Leah and all respective people. This is a beautiful private moment. If people agree with this open breast feeding , why don’t we have women just parade topless in the mall?

    • Abby

      I don’t know a single woman who would “flop out a boob” in public. Breastfeeding is a very discreet thing. And women in the past didn’t leave the house much, and it was for a reason: a woman’s place was in the home. These are different times. My husband is very supportive of my breastfeeding in public and if you think that their husbands somehow must be appalled by their behavior, as if they owned their bodies, then you need to get yourself a time machine and travel back to whatever backwards world you came from. I’ve never had a problem with nursing and would venture to say no one even noticed. You discreetly pull just enough nipple out to let the baby latch on (baby’s head is in the way so no one can see), and that’s it.

  • Annie

    Leah,

    you sound like a real twat.

  • flash

    Our all the women involved overweight cows ?

    • Rose

      Are all American white men pigs?

  • 34 yr old female

    I don’t mind these women breastfeeding, but I don’t want to see their boob while eating my chicken. Just cover up. Why can’t they be civilized?

    • Rose

      Maybe they don’t want to see YOUR face while THEY’RE eating. It’s all a matter of opinion and yours is no more valuable than anyone else’s.

    • Abby

      Did you see boobs and nipples all over the place while watching the video?

    • VoiceOfReaseon

      I would PREFER not to see fat people’s stomachs hanging out of their shirts, or women’s camel toes in their spandex, or boys’ butt-cracks atop their saggy drawers, or people with facial deformities making me uncomfortable looking at them, but I AM NOT about to tell them that it’s illegal or to get out of the restaurant that I’m eating at! And guess what? There is a simple, easy solution, and I don’t even have to move…all I do is avert my eyes a few inches. Bam, problem solved!

      Have some maturity and grow up people. Honestly, there are men allowed out in public with bigger boobs/nipples showing than mine, and they don’t even have the excuse of feeding a baby with them. If you don’t like it, no one is forcing you to look. You definitely have the freedom to leave and eat elsewhere if you are that uncomfortable. PS – YOU HAVE NIPPLES!!! (It’s not like you’ve never seen one!)

  • Name

    Prudish America strikes again. I find it funny that because of our “puritanical” and “prudish” attitudes that society has fallen apart. Other countries are not as repressed as us and have so many fewer problems.

    • william

      Nope, it’s just one of the few areas we show restraint in anymore; and if other countries want to do that crap, more power to them; doesn’t mean that we have to.

      • Rose

        This is the last vestige of white men who are becoming increasingly pathetic and powerless. Grab on to whatever power you can. But, you’re on your way out.

        • Jennifer

          Interesting, Rose, that you assume “William” is a WHITE man. WHY? Aren’t we being a bit hypocritical here? Pot calling the kettle black. My brother-in-law feels the same way as many other men do on this issue and he’s black. Interesting, huh? It’s not about race – it’s about showing respect and courtesty to others in a society that teaches people to be narcissistic and think only of themselves. So sad how selfish sooo many people have become :-(

        • WriterGirl

          So your on your way in? Sad.

  • william

    Why can’t anybody understand the concept of”it’s their restaurant, and if they don’t want it done there, that’s their choice”? What’s the point of having your own restaurant, if whenever you tell somebody NO, they just protest? Nobody wants to see that crap anyway, go feed at home, or somewhere else, at least. Yes, your baby needs fed. Yes,it’s natural. But you can feed it somewhere else, and so are a lit of things I’d rather not see or have my children see while we’re eating.

    • Chris

      Well it’s my baby and I will feed her when she’s hungry and I don’t think that employee owns the restaurant. Breastfeeding is not illegal it’s breastfeeding, feeding a child is not wrong.

      • Jennifer

        Chris, do you have any idea how selfish and arrogant your comments are? Clearly it’s all about YOU YOU YOU and that is very disturbing considering that you are a parent. It is the self-absorbed, narcissistic people like yourself who give such a bad name to the CLASSY, respectful women who cover themselves up while breastfeeding in public.

        To say that the employee doesn’t “own” the restaurant is almost as RIDICULOUS as your other comments. The employee is a representative of the owner of the establishment and is given the authority, by nature of being an employee, to carry out the rules established by the owner (within the law).

        No one is saying that breastfeeding is wrong and your comments clearly indicate you are missing the point. I suspect you are likely a very hot-headed, stubborn person who cares not one iota about anything anyone else has to say and is unwilling to even CONSIDER putting yourself in the shoes of someone on the other side of this. But God forbid somebody do something that offends YOU in public! You would be the first person to find an attorney and file a lawsuit because you feel you are *entitled* by law to not be offended. You are “one of those” who tries so hard to get a point across – even if it means stomping on others in the process. What a great example to set for that child you are nursing!

        Personally, I am far more offended by your ATTITUDE than your ACTIONS. Would it really KILL YOU to be kind to someone and oblige their request to cover up if/when they asked you? I mean REALLY????? If you are that bothered by it, you have FAR MORE ISSUES TO ADDRESS than this one and I would be happy to provide the contact information for some REALLY awesome therapists I know who specialize in the kinds of issues you are likely struggling with. :-)

        • Rose

          Jennifer, you obviously hate yourself as you hate all women. Go get some psychological counseling to get to the root of your very deep-seated problem. Someday, you will be able to look in the mirror and not hate yourself. Good luck.

          • Jennifer

            Oh, that’s funny! That’s the best you can do with no evidence to support that comment? I have a very normal, healthy love for myself and others so no issues here :-) I’m actually VERY involved in my local community helping to EMPOWER women and they learn how to have dignity, self-respect, class, and manners WITHOUT demanding it. They become well-respected women because they have learned how to respect and love others. How ironic, isn’t it?

            If you will notice, I’m not the one that keeps saying “I, I, I, and ME, ME, ME” in my posts. Often the negative we point out to others is what we are angry within ourselves about and all signs point to that with the tone of your posts. CLASSIC!

            I would have absolutely no problem with considering the needs of others if I was a breastfeeding mom and someone asked me kindly to please cover myself while I was feeding in public. But, then again, they wouldn’t have to ask because I would have already been polite enough to be discreet and be covered anyway. You see, I have the class and character to know that but people like you who expect others to conform to YOUR way simply don’t possess those qualities. Sad.

        • Chris

          And for your info I don’t breast feed in public and it’s sad that your such a sick person I feel sorry for you and your children

    • Chris

      The chick fil a employees don’t cover their faces when they are robbing you blind so why should women cover their breasts while feeding their child?

    • Abby

      So now restaurants can kick people out if they just don’t like them? Would you say this if they kicked black people out?

      There isn’t always somewhere else to feed a baby. What if the breastfeeding mom had 3 other chilren who were still sitting and eating their meals, or one was in the bathroom, and she had to take care of them when the baby started screaming for food? What if finding another place meant wandering around for 20 minutes for someplace private and “acceptable,” while the baby is hungry and it’s hot outside? What if you’re on an airplane, and it’s a full flight, and you’re in the air for 6 hours flying across the country? Where do you go then? And what if the baby is like mine (and many others) whose hands and bodies flail about the second you put a cover on, making the cover pointless because it only stays on for 2 seconds? If you don’t support breastfeeding in public, then you don’t support it, at all.

      You generally don’t see anything inappropriate when a woman is breastfeeding. Women wear low-cut tops that reveal just as much cleavage all the time. No woman wants to show her entire breast to the world. It’s all much ado about nothing.

  • Jennifer

    Chick-Fil-A . . . do NOT back down on your right to ask ALL patrons to be respectful of each other!! As a paying customer, I have JUST AS MUCH A RIGHT to eat my meal in peace and without the disturbing visuals of your breasts staring at me and I don’t care WHAT you’re using it for! Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing to be enjoyed between mom and child – not mom, child, and hundreds of other people!!!! If you REALLY cared about your child and were breastfeeding for the right reasons, A) you wouldn’t be wolfing down fast food and B) you would be feeding your child in an environment that was quiet, relaxing, and less stressful than a fast food restaurant lobby!!!!

    These women care more about their own self-absorbed, narcissistic egos and agendas than they do about the natural, beautiful bonding experience they could be having and appreciating with their babies. The vast majority of people responding to this issue are NOT against breastfeeding (in public or otherwise) and I personally have no problem with it either. We are NOT telling the nursing mothers to NOT nurse their babies in public. What they are saying is PLEASE JUST USE A COVER so we can enjoy our meals without seeing your breast flopping around!!! Exercise some class!!!

    Ladies, it’s a matter of self-respect, dignity, and class and if you want people to respect you and the decisions you’re making for the benefit of your child/children, HOW ABOUT THINKING OF OTHERS AROUND YOU AND TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION THEIR THHOUGHTS, FEELINGS on the matter? YOU and your BABY are NOT the center of the universe and life doesn’t revolve around YOU only! You are simply on a mission to be heard and get your point across and it’s really NOT about your baby.

    This “nurse-in” is nothing more than spoiled, bratty, adult young mothers who are part of a generation that truly believes they are entitled to get whatever they want, when they want it and this is nothing more than a temper tantrum they’re used to throwing as a child when they didn’t get their way. They don’t understand modesty and respect for others because, of course, it’s ALL ABOUT THEM! Using your child to get attention and a point across is sickening and, quite frankly, such a low. GROW UP and show some maturity and class (although stupid is as stupid does, right?)

    • Rose

      You are on the wrong website, MAN. Get out.

    • WriterGirl

      I agree with your post, Jennifer. It’s all about the mothers, not breastfeeding. They are classless and use their children for everything they want to make their life easier, while disregarding everyone else. Most of these can’t manage their time or children and probably not their lives. Sorry, if this is harsh, but from what I’ve seen, this is what I think.

    • Shelly

      What I don’t understand about your post is the ‘Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing to be enjoyed between mom and child’. I nursed my daughter for a year and a half, we didn’t start very well as she wouldn’t latch on, so I pumped every 2 hours for 2 months while on leave. I fed her with a bottle when out because she wouldn’t latch on. Finally, after those two months of me crying trying to get her to latch and me feeling like a complete failure because there had to be something wrong with me, we found she had been annoyed with the quite place I was trying to feed her. She hardly took to a bottle in our home, my husband feed her with his music blaring and she loved it. She didn’t want quiet and peace and that bond with me. So, I didn’t have that tranquility and beautiful bond, instead of trying to cover her up and stamp out her light so she could have that loving bond with me, I opened up and went to a public park. Kids were playing and screaming, mothers were staring at me with such hatred, but, with tears of joy, that was the first time my daughter latched on and literally ate more than she ever did. So, I learned for her, no cover, no peace and quiet, no dark area for her to be pushed off into a corner to eat, but she liked to eat like a normal person, sitting at a table and eat with family and friends. She loved interaction, but still had one thing on her mind.

      I wonder, to this day, why the women at the park were so hate filled with me feeding my daughter there. The kids didn’t pay a bit of attention to me, except one little girl that came up to me to ask what I was doing. I told her I was feeding my daughter for the first time as nature intended! She was around seven, she asked her mom if she did that with me and she said yes, but had more decency to cover up. The girl asked why? The mother didn’t have a response. So, if you teach your child it is wrong to breastfeed without a cover, they will learn to feel that way. If you tell them it is not kind to stare and teach them respect in that matter, they will learn that breastfeeding is a normal habit among women. In reality, women like you, are teaching the younger generation it is not good to feed a child naturally, regardless of if you did or not because you should cover that up and push it out of site as it’s a ‘sacred bond’ between child and mother.

      I hated breastfeeding, but I sacrificed for her to give her the best I could. I will do it again if I ever get to be a new mother again (currently trying going on 3 years now). Based on your thoughts, it’s not right to feed in public like every other human being eating at the table, but to cover up or go to another selected holding place available. Why? When my husband fed my daughter with a bottle of my breast milk, everyone just ooh’d and ahhh’d over him. ‘Oh what a good daddy, feeding his daughter.’ I had such a deep hatred for that type of thinking. Who was the one that really fed her? Me, the woman who couldn’t keep her eyes open and had such a deep depression because the most natural of things, I couldn’t get right! I pumped what seemed like years in those two months. I pumped for her to eat and everyone felt it was the daddy who was so perfect to feed his daughter, but when I actually was able to feed her in public…naturally, I was looked upon with such venom and disgust! Using a cover with her was horrid as mentioned before, she wouldn’t take.

      Maybe I am in the slim minority, but why have any fear of seeing a breast when feeding a baby? Why do you state it is proper to cover up when on the other side of the globe women run around with no bra and feed their babies while hunting or being photographed by National Geographic? Why do you stigmatize women who don’t cover up in public as non-classy? When I think of non-classy, I think of a husband cheating on his wife, or a wife beating her children, or a father molesting children. I don’t think of a woman feeding her child in public as non-classy. I think of her as a mother! A woman feeding her child, just as a woman buying groceries for her others at home. Why put such labels on fellow women? How hurtful!

      This is getting longer than I wanted, and you probably won’t even read it since I’m a few days late in posting, but I felt obligated to share my story. It’s so hurtful to feel belittled because you are doing what is best for your child. I don’t understand the fear of woman breastfeeding without a cover. Parents will teach their children, as you have already done most likely, that breasts are to be covered and made only for the purpose of their father, but also to feed, but only in private or with a cover and only when no one is looking. Praise to the father that feeds his child with a bottle, but hate to the mother that does the same with her breast.

      Really, I’ve seen some people who disgust and revolt me in a restaurant when they eat. By your logic, I should carry a few sheets with me to ask them to use it to cover their faces when they eat so I might eat in peace. Maybe it might be you one day that I ask as I can’t handle some sort of aspect of your ‘natural’ eating habits. I hope you don’t get offended when I either ask you to cover your face, or leave the restaurant as you are disrupting MY eating experience.

      Seriously, grow up!

  • Chris

    Tennessee law states:

    A mother may breastfeed in any public or private place she is authorized to be
    Breastfeeding shall not be considered public indecency or nudity, obscene, or sexual conduct
    Local governments shall not prohibit breastfeeding in public by local ordinance
    Employers must accommodate breastfeeding mothers at work

    • Jennifer

      Keep in mind that the law does not state WHERE in a public place the mom can breastfeed! If a public place (restaurant, library, grocery store, etc.) offers a breastfeeding room and asks a breastfeeding mom to use it, the establishment does have the right to ask her to leave the premisis if they feel she is causing a disturbance. And employees of these establishments ARE allowed to ask a woman to please use a cover!! She doesn’t have to oblige but they are allowed to make the request without fear of being sued, fired, etc.

      Public places serve ALL of the public, not just the minority who wish to be disrespectful of the majority. Employees AND patrons of public places have just as much a right to feel comfortable in those surroundings and neither a nursing mom OR an uncomfortable patron should be forced to leave the establishment. You must learn to compromise so that EACH party can have an enjoyable experience and not feel discriminated against. The most *reasonable* compromise that allows BOTH parties to stay is for the breastfeeding mother to cover themselves while feeding. WHY WHY WHY is that such a difficult request????? She’s not being asked to leave, she’s not being asked to do ANYTHING that will cause harm to her or her baby. She is merely being asked to RESPECT the thoughts, feelings, and opinions of others around here – just as she wishes to be respected for her point of view.

      By creating such a stir about this, the breastfeeding mother has done more to harm the image of breastfeeding in public and the OVERWHELMING majority of comments I’ve seen and conversations I’ve heard about this is that the general public does NOT want to see a woman’s breast exposed and considers it rude, classless disrespectful, selfish, and obnoxious of the mothers who are trying to push their agenda for their own selfish reasons.

      In trying to get equality for yourselves ladies, you have done just the opposite and created an even MORE negative image of yourselves and what you’re trying to get the general people to accept and be more tolerant of. As a woman, I have fought HARD to be seen as an equal in a male-dominated society for a looong time and thanks to you and this frivolous point you’re trying to make at everyone else’s expense, you have just destroyed what so many of us have been working to eradicate for years!!! THANK YOU!!!

      • Abby

        Ah, yes, they are pushing an agenda for their own selfish reasons. Such as: they believe in breastfeeding, just like every medical organization on Earth, and they want their children to be allowed to eat peacefully without the stress of having to huddle in a stinky bathroom stall or wander around looking for an “appropriate” place to nurse, and they want to do what’s best for their children without chaining themselves to the house all day, and they want more children to breastfeed so they can grow up healthy, but this is only possible if our culture is supportive of the practice, and they believe that in the year 2013, we’ve come a little too far to treat women’s bodies are purely sexual to the extent that softcore pornography on daytime television is okay but a little piece of skin showing while feeding and nurturing a child is not. Yes, very selfish reasons, indeed.

    • Chris

      Do you have children? Do you know what it’s like to have your baby get hungry and scream for food? I think you might have deeper issues than just against breastfeeding. This is not a women’s lib board. In general if you don’t like it don’t look! Thank you

      • Jennifer

        I have raised FIVE well-mannered children and breastfed every one of them – often in public and while they were very fussy, thank you! I have never denied any of my children a meal when they were cranky and hungry and I was in public and I am not saying that a mother *should* do that for the sake of of not offending those around her. I’m also not saying a breastfeeding mom should have to go to another room even (unless they choose to so they can savor the experience in private and without distractions FOR THE SAKE OF THE BABY). I am simply saying that it does no harm to ANYONE for a breastfeeding mother to simply place a cover over her nursing child! You child doesn’t care and is not inconvenienced or upset. YOU are at the fact that someone actually asked you to do something to make THEIR lives easier.

        When a child is hungry, he/she doesn’t care about being covered – they want food and they should get it. But defiling such a wonderful bonding moment by making it visible to the entire world is UNclassy, RUDE, and thoughtless to others around you. If in a restaurant and others were there before you and you told them to leave if they didn’t like seeing you breastfeed openly and uncovered, that is PURE SELFISHNESS because they were there first! YOU need to leave and respect that they were there first!!! YOU and YOUR baby are not the center of the universe!

        ALL of my children have been taught to love and respect others – EVEN WHEN THEY DON’T AGREE with other opinions but they also should not be required to sacrifice the rights THEY have as productive members of society. They (or anyone else) should not be required to change THEIR behavior to accomodate that which the majority is opposed to or uncomfortable around. One person asking an entire public establishment to “put up or shut up” is the epitome of NARCISCISM and is RUDE and SELFISH!

        I am SOO thankful my children have such great values for human life and I’m blessed beyond measure and thankful for the legacy I am raising and will leave behind. They were not raised with the concept of entitlement and, as a result, are respected and have great character themselves.

      • WriterGirl

        People are always using their children for some excuse or other.

        • Abby

          Psh, I know. “My baby needs to eat,” blah blah blah. Excuses, right? Food. Hungry babies. What a joke.

    • Rose

      Chick-fil-A was breaking the law. They’re going back to the days of segregated restaurants. No loss to me. I never eat there. But, we cannot start allowing this type of backward thinking. Before you know it, they’ll be burning women at the stake.

  • WriterGirl

    I am sick of breastfeeding moms acting like them and kids are the only thing on earth. You want to breastfeed, do it before you go into public places.

    • Abby

      By that logic, a breastfeeding mother is not allowed to leave the house for more than 4 or 5 hours a time, because her baby might get hungry. Women are encouraged to breastfeed by doctors and organizations, and yet our culture effectively chains women to their homes because they choose to breastfeed. Most breastfeeding, even without a cover, is very discreet. Case in point, there were women in the video shown breastfeeding, and clearly the FCC permitted it to air on a local television network. What really bothers me is that no one would ever ask a woman in a bikini at the beach to “cover up,” and in our culture, we are surrounded by women in skimpy lingerie on billboards and television (children are exposed to it), but nursing a child is somehow offensive? Why, because it’s not fun for men to look at? It’s only acceptable if a woman’s body is displayed sexually?

    • Kat

      Writergirl huh? Seems as if you need to take a few English courses in order to learn simple grammar, diction, and syntax. Either that or maybe you should just change your “name” to wannabewritergurl……..

  • Kat

    Okay – so for all the prudes out there……do you protest Maxim, Cosmopolitan, Playboy, Penthouse, and all the other smut magazines? If not then kindly STFU. Women are objectified on a daily basis in magazines, in the workforce, and in the media – and you don’t hear HALF as much negativity towards that as you do towards women FEEDING THEIR CHILD! WHY is what nature intended breasts for so dirty, but little hussies flaunting their boobs anywhere and everywhere okay???????
    And Jennifer – good on you for breast feeding 5 babies who TOLERATED a cover – I have a 6 month old son and he’d SCREAM and pull away from my breast and rip the cover off if I ever tried to use one. (I have – hence the knowledge of the repercussion of that!) My son along with other children and babies do NOT like their faces covered while they’re eating because they can’t look around, it’s hot, and oxygen isn’t able to freely circulate beneath a cover. Have you ever tried eating under a blanket? If you haven’t then you should try it. It’s uncomfortable as crap, and I wouldn’t expect my son to deal with that while he’s eating. YES I nurse in public and NO I do NOT use a cover. My nipple is exposed for maybe 15 seconds while I’m getting my son to latch on, but then that’s it! No more nip-slip. I wear a shirt and a nursing tank, so my stomach is covered as is the top of my breast when I’m nursing – the only thing uncovered is my nipple and that’s only briefly. Half the time people don’t even notice, a quarter of the time I get nasty glares (usually women WITH children – kinda like Ms. Jennifer!!!!), and the other quarter of the time I get smiles and looks of true appreciate and admiration.
    Our country has a lot of problems and one of those is the oversexed way in which women are viewed. Nudity is so taboo here, and it’s a shame. We have the highest rate of anorexia – as well as obesity – and it’s not hard to believe considering there is so much body shaming going on! We need a healthy level of body awareness so people don’t have to feel uncomfortable seeing a mother breastfeeding her child – regardless of whether or not she is utilizing a nursing cover. It’s not as if we rip our clothes off trying to titillate those around us, we are simply feeding our child. If YOU are uncomfortable, look away. :D

    • Jennifer

      I’m not sure how any of these discussions became about the sexual nature of breastfeeding because I have never once mentioned that (nor my thoughts about it) as that is not what this is about.

      “Nurse-in’s” are nothing more than adults acting like children while attempting to RAISE children (that’s a scary but all-too-common occurrance in our society now) and throwing tantrums like a child flailing around on the grocery store floor desperately wanting attention.

      I feel so sorry for you ladies who are so emphatic about getting your point across that you trample over the feelings of good, kind people from whom you could learn how to be a classy, dignified, respected person. You are void of the ability to treat others with kindness and respect because you lack it within yourself and therefore choose to be mean and intolerant to everyone around you who dares to question you. Such negativity that – by the way – your nursing child can sense and, if the truth be told, is probably the REAL reason your baby is unconfortable being covered while nursing! They feel your toxic, negative energy! My children were lightly covered and never oxygen-deprived and based on my observances of them, they weren’t at all interested in looking around while nursing!

      Clearly you are of the generation who truly believes you have some God-given entitlement to force your opinions, beliefs, and thoughts on others and we all must conform to YOUR way or else! Case in point: “If WE don’t like seeing what YOU think is acceptable in public, then WE have to turn away. WE have to leave so that YOU can continue carrying out YOUR agenda for the sake of YOUR baby!” You seriously cannot be any more selfish, self-absorbed, narcissistic, rude, and arrogant than that!

      Forcing your agenda down others’ throats is all you know because it’s how you were allowed to grow up and you really do honestly believe this is an acceptable way to live. You were raised to believe you are the center of the universe and only YOU and YOUR opinions and feeling matter. You expect strangers to cater to you and your wants and needs just like your parents did in the boundary-less fantasy world in which you were raised (which obviously created a very warped, unrealistic, and overdeveloped egocentric sense of self worth in you). Heaven forbid someone should disagree with you!

      Ironically, you expect others to “tolerate” your belief system and what YOU think is acceptable yet you have ZERO tolerance for anyone else or any other way of thinking that in any way does not support or mirror yours. It’s all about YOU and what YOU want and your vocabulary is littered with “I” and “Me”.

      Boy, I am SO THANKFUL I was taught and made to extend the “golden rule” (do unto others as you would have them do unto you) from such a young age and am not easily offended. In turn, I have taught my children to practice tolerance and acceptance and they are kind, loving, thoughtful, respectful adults as a result :-)

      • Kat

        “I’m not sure how any of these discussions became about the sexual nature of breastfeeding because I have never once mentioned that (nor my thoughts about it) as that is not what this is about.” Okay then so what exactly does “not covering up while breast feeding in public” mean to you then? Are they saying it’s inappropriate because it can transmit HIV and other STDs or because us NIP women are going to shoot lasers out of our machine gun jubblies??? Is it a public SAFETY thing or is it about appropriate vs. inappropriate – because I’m pretty sure people thinks it’s INAPPROPRIATE because they sexualize breasts….in which case it IS about sexuality and it being sexual.
        Secondly – I think it’s pretty cute that you purport to know a damn thing about the type of person I am based on my opinion on nursing in public. I have lead a life of volunteerism and I ALWAYS give of myself for others – I would and have dropped everything to help a stranger, friends, family, and homeless people. I am extremely selfLESS, but I do believe that nursing in public has BECOME taboo in the past few decades because of the flooding of the media and society with formula and those companies pushing the agenda that “nursing is for poor people and is classless…”. However, I think we as a society need to realize that breast feeding is for ANYONE, is very CLASSY, and there’s nothing wrong with doing it anywhere regardless of using a cover. We wouldn’t even be having this discussion if we lived in Europe because the stigma of nudity doesn’t exist. Same thing with the drinking age…..because it’s taboo and “illegal” there is a lot of mystery surrounding it, and rules are made to be broken right? (not really, but surely you’re intelligent enough to get my point here right?)
        It’s not as if women are sitting around complete topless bringing attention to themselves while nursing in public! It’s kind of pointless to have this discussion because the law is on our side and I don’t see it changing, so as such anyone who shares you beliefs can kick rocks because there’s not a damn thing you can do about it. :-D
        And as for all your religious comments – those are really not necessary because this country has FREEDOM of religion, and your beliefs don’t govern our country. More over, plenty of folks don’t believe in religion so why should we be forced to live by your moral codes and standards? Oh right…..we don’t – moving on!
        Forcing my agenda down peoples’ throats? Really? Okay – next time I nurse in public if anyone gives me an odd look I am going to run over and shove my breast in their mouth and/or squirt them in the face with my milk and tell them THIS IS MY AGENDA…..TAKE IT! Yeah – you sound ridiculous…..no one is shoving ANYTHING down ANYONE’S throats other than the people who share your belief. Your kids are so sheltered that seeing a BREAST doing what it’s naturally intended to do is going to send them into an epileptic fit because boobies are made for daddies and men to suck on and get titillated over……right?
        You say you’re so gung ho about being equal to men, but it doesn’t seem that way because you, by your stance on this, seem to be okay with the objectification of women to titillate, but not okay with a woman nourishing her child. And let’s not forget folks…..breasts are just fat covered in skin. Same as a little thigh, or arm, or neck! If we really are THAT disgusted by flesh why don’t we head over to Afghanistan and all wear burkas and saris so as to not titillate ANYONE with our milky flesh.

        • Jennifer

          WOW – clearly you are a very angry person and your harsh, rude tone is evident of that. Not the reactions one would expect from someone who claims to be a “selfless” person who is *supposedly* kind to strangers yet would very likely rip someone to pieces if they dare ask you to cover yourself while nursing! You are likely nice to those you *want* to be nice to but refuse to allow anyone to tell you what you can and can’t do wherever you go. Sounds alot like the temper tantrum from the “entitled” generation.

          I think you’ve confused ‘selfish’ with ‘selfless’ because I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone be so objectionable to others viewpoints yet claim to be such a “kind, loving” person. If you truly were the *good* person you claim to be, I doubt you would have such an issue with strangers requesting you to cover up if they were unconfortable (for whatever reasons) with a woman breastfeeding in public without being covered. Being kind to others means sometimes having to do things for the greater good even when it requires one to do things out of their comfort zone. I really shudder to think how you react to someone who dares to ask you to cover up out of courtesy for the thoughts and feelings of others. Probably go off on your tirade in their face and belittle them for even thinking you might be compliant to their request.

          As I’ve said all along, this is simply about being courteous and respectful of the requests of others while sharing space with these people (human beings with FEELINGS) in public places. Who cares WHY someone isn’t comfortable with seeing a woman breastfeeing openly in public without a cover? Simply because you don’t think/believe/feel the same way as they do, it doesn’t mean you cannot even every once in a while think of others before yourself and “cover up” and show some class and respect if someone goes to the trouble to ask you polietly. But someone like you – who claims to be “selfless” would never even CONSIDER that because it’s all about YOU and all you care about is what YOU think.

          I feel very sorry for your child who may grow up as self-absorbed and narcissistic as you are. But there is hope that he/she may – against all odds – choose to be the kind, loving, considerate person you want to be based not on what he sees at home but what he observes by the good people in our society. :-)

          • Kat

            Lol. Your’e a self righteous twat. Just because I am passionate about the right to NIP doesn’t mean anything. My son will grow up being comfortable with his own body, and those of others. He will know that nursing is the best gift a mother can give her child, and he will accept women who NIP. You don’t have to feel sorry for my child….

          • Kat

            Also – why is it that the people doing the natural thing have to acquiesce to those who are uncomfortable? Why can’t the people who are uncomfortable look away, or go elsewhere? There is no compromise in this because either one side sacrifices, or the other does…..but this shouldn’t even be about compromise because it’s natural! It’s not sexual in any way – I haven’t met a guy who would be skeeved out by a woman breast feeding her child without a cover in public, but I have met many women who feel that way. I find that very strange.

        • Michelle Jones

          Kat – Breastfeeding is natural. Our society however, is not. We have fast-food, movies, magazines and television. We also have a great technology called a breast pump for those moments when you are not in a natural setting, such as your home, the jungle, a hut, etc., so that you can feed your child. Society has changed since natural breastfeeding was “designed”. You/we live in a society where breastfeeding without a cover is not accepted. And yes, staging a Nurse-in was, in fact, pushing their(and your) ideals on others. If it was not, there would be no point to the protest. Simple courtesy and consideration for fellow human beings eating in a non-nautural environment is all it would have taken. Instead, people go to the extremes to make noise and push agendas. It’s humorous to see all the talk about “natural” when there is nothing natural about eating processed food in a man-made structure with an indoor playground.

      • Shelly

        What I don’t understand about your post is the ‘Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing to be enjoyed between mom and child’. I nursed my daughter for a year and a half, we didn’t start very well as she wouldn’t latch on, so I pumped every 2 hours for 2 months while on leave. I fed her with a bottle when out because she wouldn’t latch on. Finally, after those two months of me crying trying to get her to latch and me feeling like a complete failure because there had to be something wrong with me, we found she had been annoyed with the quite place I was trying to feed her. She hardly took to a bottle in our home, my husband feed her with his music blaring and she loved it. She didn’t want quiet and peace and that bond with me. So, I didn’t have that tranquility and beautiful bond, instead of trying to cover her up and stamp out her light so she could have that loving bond with me, I opened up and went to a public park. Kids were playing and screaming, mothers were staring at me with such hatred, but, with tears of joy, that was the first time my daughter latched on and literally ate more than she ever did. So, I learned for her, no cover, no peace and quiet, no dark area for her to be pushed off into a corner to eat, but she liked to eat like a normal person, sitting at a table and eat with family and friends. She loved interaction, but still had one thing on her mind.

        I wonder, to this day, why the women at the park were so hate filled with me feeding my daughter there. The kids didn’t pay a bit of attention to me, except one little girl that came up to me to ask what I was doing. I told her I was feeding my daughter for the first time as nature intended! She was around seven, she asked her mom if she did that with me and she said yes, but had more decency to cover up. The girl asked why? The mother didn’t have a response. So, if you teach your child it is wrong to breastfeed without a cover, they will learn to feel that way. If you tell them it is not kind to stare and teach them respect in that matter, they will learn that breastfeeding is a normal habit among women. In reality, women like you, are teaching the younger generation it is not good to feed a child naturally, regardless of if you did or not because you should cover that up and push it out of site as it’s a ‘sacred bond’ between child and mother.

        I hated breastfeeding, but I sacrificed for her to give her the best I could. I will do it again if I ever get to be a new mother again (currently trying going on 3 years now). Based on your thoughts, it’s not right to feed in public like every other human being eating at the table, but to cover up or go to another selected holding place available. Why? When my husband fed my daughter with a bottle of my breast milk, everyone just ooh’d and ahhh’d over him. ‘Oh what a good daddy, feeding his daughter.’ I had such a deep hatred for that type of thinking. Who was the one that really fed her? Me, the woman who couldn’t keep her eyes open and had such a deep depression because the most natural of things, I couldn’t get right! I pumped what seemed like years in those two months. I pumped for her to eat and everyone felt it was the daddy who was so perfect to feed his daughter, but when I actually was able to feed her in public…naturally, I was looked upon with such venom and disgust! Using a cover with her was horrid as mentioned before, she wouldn’t take.

        Maybe I am in the slim minority, but why have any fear of seeing a breast when feeding a baby? Why do you state it is proper to cover up when on the other side of the globe women run around with no bra and feed their babies while hunting or being photographed by National Geographic? Why do you stigmatize women who don’t cover up in public as non-classy? When I think of non-classy, I think of a husband cheating on his wife, or a wife beating her children, or a father molesting children. I don’t think of a woman feeding her child in public as non-classy. I think of her as a mother! A woman feeding her child, just as a woman buying groceries for her others at home. Why put such labels on fellow women? How hurtful!

        This is getting longer than I wanted, and you probably won’t even read it since I’m a few days late in posting, but I felt obligated to share my story. It’s so hurtful to feel belittled because you are doing what is best for your child. I don’t understand the fear of woman breastfeeding without a cover. Parents will teach their children, as you have already done most likely, that breasts are to be covered and made only for the purpose of their father, but also to feed, but only in private or with a cover and only when no one is looking. Praise to the father that feeds his child with a bottle, but hate to the mother that does the same with her breast.

        Really, I’ve seen some people who disgust and revolt me in a restaurant when they eat. By your logic, I should carry a few sheets with me to ask them to use it to cover their faces when they eat so I might eat in peace. Maybe it might be you one day that I ask as I can’t handle some sort of aspect of your ‘natural’ eating habits. I hope you don’t get offended when I either ask you to cover your face, or leave the restaurant as you are disrupting MY eating experience.

        Seriously, grow up!

  • Jessy

    Urinating and defecating are natural human processes, but there is a reason it is done behind closed doors. No one wants to see your cow utters. Use a cover up. I think it is inappropriate and I am a 6 month pregnant woman with plans to breastfeed, but trust me I won’t be doing it in public. Somethings are meant to be done behind closed doors.

    • Unknown

      Human waste is unsanitary. Feeding an infant is not. And maybe you should eat behind closed doors. Your mouth is disgusting people. For someone who is pregnant and plans to breastfeed, have fun with that. You’ll either never leave the house, or find that you’re concentrating so hard on making sure your “cow utters”, or breasts, are covered that you won’t be concentrating on making sure you’re child is properly feeding. My child’s well-being is a greater concern to me than someone being uncomfortable. I don’t know about you.

      You should seriously consider changing your attitude if you want to successfully breastfeed. The ONLY thing that has EVER made me consider going to formula is that I can’t feed my child in public and feel comfortable doing it even with a cover. And it’s awesome when you remove the cover and you’re little infant is drenched in their own sweat. Good luck.

  • marcella merritt

    I absolutely support these dear women who have chosen to get out with their babies, enjoy a day out, and yes, breastfeed along the way – because that’s their ritual, because it’s healthy and because it is completely natural. I am grieved that our society is so out of touch we don’t respect a mother’s rights and freedoms. I think we’d have far, far less depressed, isolated moms if we encouraged their times out in public, rather than casting shame or questioning their choices. It is a perception issue, -if you went to Europe or anywhere else in the world, this would be a non-issue. I also recall my favorite saying….in regards and respect for moms…”the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world”. -M

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