Anderson Cooper: Gay, Proud, and Loved

By: Amanda Crum - July 2, 2012

There’s been speculation for years on Anderson Cooper’s personal life, but he chose not to talk much about it until recently, when he responded to a Daily Beast writer’s email asking for opinions on the way people in the public eye choose to come out.

The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud.
I have always been very open and honest about this part of my life with my friends, my family, and my colleagues. In a perfect world, I don’t think it’s anyone else’s business, but I do think there is value in standing up and being counted. I’m not an activist, but I am a human being and I don’t give that up by being a journalist.

Cooper says that while the world is making greater strides every day towards giving the LGBT community more rights, the fact is that bullying, discrimination, and violence against people based on their sexual preferences is still a huge problem, and he wants to include his voice in the fight for fairness. He also wants to abolish the rumors that he is trying to hide a part of himself which he has never kept a secret from those closest to him; he simply didn’t think it necessary to speak publicly about his personal life as a journalist.

I’ve always believed that who a reporter votes for, what religion they are, who they love, should not be something they have to discuss publicly. As long as a journalist shows fairness and honesty in his or her work, their private life shouldn’t matter. I’ve stuck to those principles for my entire professional career, even when I’ve been directly asked “the gay question,” which happens occasionally. I did not address my sexual orientation in the memoir I wrote several years ago because it was a book focused on war, disasters, loss and survival. I didn’t set out to write about other aspects of my life.

Recently, however, I’ve begun to consider whether the unintended outcomes of maintaining my privacy outweigh personal and professional principle. It’s become clear to me that by remaining silent on certain aspects of my personal life for so long, I have given some the mistaken impression that I am trying to hide something – something that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid. This is distressing because it is simply not true.

Being a journalist, traveling to remote places, trying to understand people from all walks of life, telling their stories, has been the greatest joy of my professional career, and I hope to continue doing it for a long time to come. But while I feel very blessed to have had so many opportunities as a journalist, I am also blessed far beyond having a great career.

I love, and I am loved.

Cooper has been in headlines most recently for some hilarious giggle fits he had on air, the most popular being when he relayed a story about actor Gerard Depardieu.

While Cooper is receiving quite a bit of support from the LGBT community, some aren’t happy with the way he chose to come out. Gawker media chief Nick Denton tweeted about it today:

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  • only truth

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    Homosexuality Linked to Emotional Trauma Says Medical Studies – a SEVENFOLD Increase: W.C. Holmes, MD said: “Abused [male] adolescents, particularly those victimized by males, were up to 7 times more likely to self-identify as gay or bisexual…”

  • only truth

    Ex-Gay Says Homosexuality Caused By His Emotional Trauma Starting at Age 6:

    Author and AIDS victim Jerry Arterburn said: “I was involved in the homosexual world as a blatant attempt to obtain the affection from other men that I did not receive from my own father.” (from his autobiography “How Will I Tell My Mother?”)

    Due to his sensitive nature, he was more deeply affected than most boys when his own father rejected him early in life. Without a loving father figure, he yearned for affection from other boys by the age of six. His yearning became sexualized at puberty. He said being abused or severely neglected in childhood was “too common a thread to ignore” in the gay community and his female mannerisms were due to his mother, his only role model. He was NOT born gay.

  • only truth

    Gay Suicides INCREASE in Gay-Friendly Nations:

    Being supportive of the basic civil rights of gays and lesbians does not require a belief in the false notion that people are born gay. They are not. Homosexuality is caused by emotional trauma – from childhood neglect, abuse, or any number of traumatic causes.

    If we love someone, we want to see them healed (from the emotional trauma connected to the homosexual feelings), not see them get married. In the Netherlands where gay marriage has been accepted for quite awhile now, has seen no decrease in gay suicide – in fact, some studies show an increase.

    If you do not promote emotional healing and resolution and instead choose to ignore it for your own selfish reasons, their blood is on your hands.

    • Freudian

      All gays and lesbian are cognizant of a deep-seated frustration.
      But much of what drives them to act in the way they do is very complex and sophisticated to grasp. It’s very difficult to identify subconscious emotions and thoughts that are there since infancy let alone extricate them.

      This is a personal story of mine by the way. Years of therapy have helped me to begin the healing process. I don’t believe that anyone chooses to ignore the healing process like you’re saying.

      I think that the emotional intelligence and the steps to resolution are not very well understood. Many gays (including myself) see the need for love (a natural phase of life) superceding the need to resolve their misguided sexuality. If u can offer any further advice on resolution many gays (including myself) would love that.

    • Christine Margetson

      Anyone who is taken in by these studies and statistics, must be biased or intellectually stunted. Of course the number of gay suicides in gay-friendly nations is higher. This is the result of many more gays being open and honest about their homosexuality, when they are not afraid of bias and even persecution by their government and fellow citizens. In countries that are much less gay-friendly, many fears cause gays to be less open and would not likely counted as gays when suicide stats are collected. Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out so I’m thinking that bias and intellectual difficulties are the root of this analysis. Gays are born that way.

  • NOT Born Gay

    Ex-Gay Says Homosexuality Caused by Emotional Trauma at Age 8:
    “Like many who struggle with same-sex attractions, the early years of my life were filled with pain and confusion. When I was 8 years old my parents divorced. This single event was the turning point. For the next 12 years my life would be marked by rejection, estrangement, isolation, abuse, insecurity, and fear….What I did not realize for the first half of my life was that my struggle with same-sex attraction WAS BORN OUT OF A LEGITIMATE HUNGER FOR LOVE, AFFIRMATION, IDENTITY, AND SECURITY.” (D. Berryessa, ex-gay)

  • STOP the Abuse

    Study: Homosexuality Linked with Childhood Trauma DUNEDIN, New Zealand, July 26, 2010 — A recent Otago University study has found that homosexual or bisexual individuals are more likely to have undergone a variety of of traumas in childhood, including sexual assault, rape, violence, and witnessing violence in the home.

    “People who either identify themselves as homosexual or bisexual, or have had a same-sex encounter or relationship, tend to come from more disturbed backgrounds,” said Research Associate Professor Elisabeth Wells.

    Of people who reported certain traumatic childhood events, 15% were not heterosexual; of those without such experiences, only 5% were not heterosexual, suggesting that such experiences TRIPLED the chance of later professing homosexual or bisexual inclinations.

  • Healing and Wholeness

    Homosexuality NOT Fixed in All Individuals – 200 People DID Change!

    “Being supportive of the basic civil rights of self-identified gays and lesbians does not require a belief in the false notion that homosexuality is invariably fixed in all people. It is not….Like most psychiatrists I thought that homosexual behavior could be resisted, but sexual orientation could not be changed. I now believe that’s untrue – some people can and do change.”
    (Archives of Sexual Behavior 2003: 200 Participants Reporting a Change from Homosexual to Heterosexual Orientation)

    • cathy

      I’d love to see a follow-up to the “change”.

  • Ellen

    I think the word “preference” in paragraph 3 is loosely used. I am a
    SWF and I dearly love my gay friend. I’ve never thought that he “preferred” to be gay, rather that he “is”. He is handsome, fun, charming, and I prefer to have him as a friend. On the chance that you’re reading this, Cliff, Love you!!!

  • Guy Van Bloem

    I just do not care wether Anderson Cooper is gay, straight or what ever. I watch him for the news coverage that he does. What he is or does in his private live is not of importance to me.

  • Linda

    I love you and I am so proud of you.