Please friend me. Please?

These studies simultaneously entertain and depress me because while it confirms my belief that modern people are basically masochistic morons, it also makes me sad that our society breeds so many masochistic morons.

I just looked, I’ve got 163 “friends” currently. I know each and every one of them personally. It is a quick and easy way to share photos, to drop a quick note…to keep in touch. Some are people I worked with years ago, some are family, some are old HS classmates.

Interestingly, most of that 163, rarely posts. Of the ones that post frequently and don’t interest me, or that post religious or political crap, or are just totally monotonous with their posts, I simply hide them. I control what I see, what other people see, and who can comment.

Once in a while, there are hurt feelings or an emotional scuffle or misunderstanding, but I’m careful to friend people who are respectful…and if they are not, they go. A couple have been dropped and blocked, many hidden, and a few are blocked from commenting.

If you use it as a tool, rather than allowing it to use you or to mirror who you are back to you, it is no different than email. I prefer facebook to phone calls and even the majority of face to face visiting. I’m a hermit by nature. So it allows me to be somewhat social on my own terms, and then I can save my face time for those who really matter in my life.

But stressful? No. Maybe that depends on your age. I know I’m much older than the average user’s age. I’m 50

I have a Business page and when there is unexpected problems and errors that persist without any real explanation I do go in to stress overdrive.

Sorry, I must be living in a parallel universe, or as I prefer to call it, the real world. Stressed about virtual connections? Get a life, a REAL life! That might sort out the saddos who are feeling this way.

I have a hard time relating I guess. I wonder about the age level of the participants in the study. Sounds like trivial worries of middle schoolers and high schoolers.

Facebook is OK it is Farmville and the other games that I find causes the most stress. Farmville is one of the worst designed games that I have encountered on the net. I feel the designers have never played it before. This game crashes more than the Windows 3. Many of my friends have given up because of the anxiety they feel from trying to play. When it works (which is very rare) it is a fun game.

HM

The only thing that really stresses out corporations when it comes to FaceBook is the requirement to attach a corporate page to a user’s FB account. Time and time again, when a person separates employment the page gets deleted by the disgruntled employee. When will Facebook get a grip and let Corporations purchase a corporate account not tied to an employee’s email? This really stresses us out and we intentionally have not set up a corporate page because of this.

I love facebook. I am not stressed with it at all.
I check it in the morning the same time I check my email. If I get a message during the day, I usually answer it as soon as I can, just like I do my email. If I have friend requests, I do check their wall out before sending them a message, like “are u networking?” or something – if i don’t get an answer, i delete them. (no stress)
If people are not “my type” – negative, mouthy, etc. — i click “hide” this friends comments. i don’t delete the friend, i just don’t want to read the ugliness. (again, no stress)
Perhaps it is because I work on a computer all day long.. and my job involves tight deadlines or maybe it is just my personality. I have 300 or so “friends” but most of them are for networking.
I really enjoy being able to keep up with what old friends, new friends and family are up to. Even if you can’t be there – you can share their ups and downs.
Do know people that spend hours and hours on it. THAT would be stressful. They play all the games, and feel they have to check each friends wall on a daily/weekly basis. Is that OCD or what? I play a couple games when I feel like it – which might be every 2 weeks.
I have lots of game invites, etc. and they just pile up. Do i delete them? nah, what’s it really going to hurt? There are too many other things to do. Maybe these stressed out facebookers just aren’t busy enough?
I think the thing I love the most is the friends that always have something positive, witty or factual to share. Really enjoy seeing something bright to start the day with.

I had facebook for about 3 days. I had people from 30 years ago start popping up in there. I figured if they were people I would have wanted to continue contact with, I would have kept in touch. I just don’t get all the social media sites, if I want to contact someone, I pick up the phone, or email. Unlike many I have seen, not everyone I meet do I consider my friend, I place more value on the word “friend” and not just try to string a list of 300 peole and call them friends.

So far I’ve resisted joining Facebook and, I have to say, I’m not stressed at all!