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WHOSE PATH ARE YOU ON?

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Have you ever followed a friend’s or parent’s suggestion for a career path or relationship only to find that you were going in a completely wrong direction for yourself? People can be very persuasive…or directive. And, we listen.

When I was twenty-four, I was madly in love, the kind of love that almost hurts it is so enthralling. I hope you’ve had that experience. For several good reasons, that wonderful love turned sour and I walked away. My parents and godparents did not, though. They held onto the idea that this was the man for me. No matter how much I tried to tell them that it was wrong, over, done with, finished, kaput, they carried my torch for me.

Eventually, I succumbed and married a man to whom I was now completely indifferent. One wonderful son later, I was on my own, having experienced many kinds of pain. Of course, by then, the marriage had been “all my idea” and I “should have known better”. At least, that’s what the parents said. Oh, and along with it, “We never really liked him in the first place!” Sound familiar?

But, now, I’m wiser. I make my own decisions and my own mistakes. The mistakes may sting, but, at least, they are mine! And, I learn from them. That’s what makes them worthwhile.

I understand that I have complete responsibility for the decision-making AND the consequences. This calls for both clarity and courage. I must know what it is that is important and significant to me and make sure that what I value is evident and respected in my decision. No one else can know that as well as I do.

How about you? Are you making your life-decisions based on what is important, significant and valuable to you? There is a huge industry with lots of money that is dedicated to influencing your choices. Advertising suggest what will make you feel better, look younger, get your more friends, more money, more prestige, success…and even cause Prince Charming to make house calls. But, is it right for you? Only you know the answer to that.

Once I read a Buddhist saying that suggested that we are happy when we know what with dignity we can live without. Thinking about that was a worthwhile exercise. We often have opened too many boxes in life and never spent enough time or gone to enough depth to savor the value. We’re like children with too many wonderful birthday gifts: very excited about the acquisition but never exploring the possibilities.

Have you read a personal improvement book but glossed over the exercises? Ever taken a life-transforming course and come home exhilarated? Many folks do and all too soon return to their old patterns. Maybe, you’ve taken a vacation and sworn to keep your commitment to health and balance when you returned refreshed. Did you do it?

Through practice, the truth is that I make better decisions now. How about you? Do you know what you prefer? It might be as simple as knowing what kind of food you want to eat right now, or which movie you want to see. More importantly, though, it may be that you’re feeling vaguely dissatisfied or bored, or even, downright miserable. Do you know what lights you up? What warms your heart? What feeds you? It’s your choice, your decision.

Now is the time to live your dreams. You’ve heard what Goethe said: “What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it.” Listen. Begin.

Whose path are you on? Hopefully, your own.

International speaker, coach, author & talk radio host,
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, is an expert motivator. She gives you
the strategies and motivation to shift your results from
acceptable to EXCEPTIONAL in life and business. Subscribe to
her three free ezines at http://www.optimizelifenow.com/.

WHOSE PATH ARE YOU ON?
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International speaker, coach, author & talk radio host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, is an expert motivator. She gives you the strategies and motivation to shift your results from acceptable to EXCEPTIONAL in life and business. Subscribe to her three free ezines at http://www.optimizelifenow.com/. WebProNews Writer
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