Texas Bar Sign Jokes About Domestic Violence

    October 9, 2013
    Erika Watts
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October is Domestic Violence Month, a topic one person in Austin, Texas thought would be appropriate to joke about, as evidenced by a sign he put outside at his place of employment, Minibar. The issue came to light after a woman shared a picture of the offending sign, which said “I like my beer like I like my violence: Domestic.”

The woman who took the picture, Seetha Kulandaisamy, uploaded it to Facebook and Instagram on Friday, which hit reddit and took off. After receiving numerous calls and complaints on Facebook, the bar owner changed the sign and fired the employee responsible.

“I walked by the sign on Friday night, and my first response was just anger,” Kulandaisamy said. “I currently am a volunteer at the women’s shelter in Austin, so my sensitivity is extra high, but I think my reaction would have been the same regardless. Not only was it offensive, but it was also just bad humor.”

Quite a few people agree with Kulandaisamy and some threatened to never again visit Minibar because of the sign.

The owner of the Texas bar, Alex Elmiger, seems very embarrassed by the situation and had the sign changed as soon as it was brought to his attention. Elmiger said that the employee who made the offending sign didn’t have his permission to do so and that the man was fired immediately.

Elmiger posted a picture of a new sign (above right) to the Texas bar’s Facebook page with the promise that the bar would donate $1 from every domestic beer sold in October to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

“Minibar doesn’t condone that sign,” owner Alex Elmiger said. “I give my utmost apology and assure it won’t happen again. As soon as it was brought to my attention, I wanted to do something to rectify the situation.” Elmiger also said that the situation was an “isolated incident and was definitely not a reflection of Minibar what so ever.”

Do you find the Texas bar sign inappropriate or think people overreacted? Respond below.

Some Facebook users think that there is nothing wrong with the sign and blame people who take political correctness too far for costing a man his job.

[Images via WHAS11 and Facebook]
  • Candice Sellers

    As a victim/survivor or Domestic Violence, I was quickly offended by the sign. I am glad that the one individual responsible for the sign was reprimanded and that the owner of that bar has since tried to make efforts to make up for the inconvenience and offending sign. I, however, would like to know how an owner of an establishment couldn’t possibly know about a sign being put outside your door. I mean, I know things can happen without you being there but aren’t there managers/supervisors to prevent such idiocy?

    • Jase

      Agree Candice! There’s no way that he didn’t get a single.l complaint until someone posted it on Facebook, I call BS!

      And who is this employee? He just got a boatload of free advertising thanks to the sign and will probably see his sells go way up now, yet he only donates a buck per beer. Sounds fishy.

      • @Jase

        Yeah Jase, cause there are so many people who actually stop to take the time to talk to anyone these days. Look at fine upstanding citizen Seetha Kulandaisamy. Rather than walk inside and ask to speak to the manager to hear the business’s side of the story, she has to slam it on the internet. Whether it was a mischievous passer-by, stupid or disgruntled employee, or the effing owner himself it doesn’t rise to the level of getting called out on the internet. Should the manager or owner scoffed at her and her concern wasn’t addressed satisfactorily, then by all means bring it to the internet. While what was written might be ill conceived and reprehensible, it was not against the law. It doesn’t even advocate others to commit domestic violence; it was just one persons statement made in poor taste. Curious though, when’s the last time Miss Kulandaisamy has done something illegal? Speeding, j-walked, blown a red light, made a joke or comment that could have been construed as anything less than tasteful to anyone and everyone? So now, while going to a worthy cause, this business feels compelled to give up profits to squelch the vocal indignation of a bunch of armchair pundits who probably never have nor never would have stepped foot in this establishment irrespective of the sign a misguided (although probably thought of him/herself as witty) employee wrote.

    • duh

      uhmm, does anyone even have an idea how long the sign was there? was it the manager who wrote it? did anyone actually walk in and question the manager about it? if an employee takes it upon themselves to do something stupid and a manager or owner isn’t there to see it and nobody tell them, but someone posts it on the internet, did it really happen? you bet it did, but if no one brought it to their attention in the first place…oh forget it.

    • @Candice

      I love how you use the politically correct word “reprimand”. No Candice, he lost his job over a sign.

      I have noticed this a lot about victim/survivors. They are so mad at their attackers that they lash out at people who never harmed them at all. They can’t get back at the attacker so they get back at a totally unrelated person.

      The way you deal with this is you explain to the person why the sign is offensive. You educate the person on how it is wrong but you give compassion. You don’t take away their means of supporting themselves and possibly a family. That will not change anything and in fact, will ensure that someone doesn’t care about your cause.

      We learn this stuff as kids …. two wrongs don’t make a right … yes, the sign was wrong but so was firing the man.

  • There You Go

    Because someone got offended a person lost their job. Domestic violence is bad but so is taking a person’s livelihood over a sign. This doesn’t help change a situation. It creates resentment. It does nothing.

    America has got to toughen up. Every little thing sparks outrage. We have become a nation of constant complainers.

  • http://webpronews John Gibson

    Congratulations to Seetha.She has single-handedly destroyeed the validity of the domestic violence center she works at.She doesn’t recognize the fact that her ABUSE of a bar employee is premeditated anger towards an individual who made (in her opinion) a bad joke.She directed her seething (ironic name she has)anger at6 a bar employee and deliberately got them fired.If THAT is not the case se should get him rehired.Personally I believe her abuse,for this firing, is 10,000 times more horrid tha telling a bad joke.I don’t understand how she,AND HER BOSS,are not now taking sensitivity training, and requesting the hiring back of the employee.

  • Skip

    No one has a sense of humor or sublimity any more. Everything is political correctness at the expense of the lighter side of life. Lets call a spade (an implement for gardening) a spade and admit some things are funny even if not meant to be. If your perspective is so narrowly myopic that you can no longer laugh at yourself occasionally then perhaps it is time you retired from life and went to live in a cloistered monastery somewhere and resorted to self flagellation as a means of entertainment.

  • Victim Coach

    Some people in our society see abuse everywhere and in every little thing — even a bad joke on a small sign that most people wouldn’t think twice about.

    Seetha should go be a victim coach. You know who those people are don’t you? A person who doesn’t think they are a victim gets coached to the point that they think they are a victim. I have literally been in courtroom situations where “victims” said “I didn’t know I was a victim until someone told me I was”. To me, a victim is a victim. If you don’t know you are a victim or you are unsure, then you are not a victim.

    It is like the concept of repressed memories. Psychologists are now just realizing that many repressed memories are not valid at all. However, many men were thrown into prison because of them. Men literally went to prison over things that never happened. Those men can not get their lives back and really there lives are over. Life is simple. If you are a victim of a crime, you go and report it. You don’t wait weeks, months, years, or even decades.

    Many victims in our society can’t get back at the people who attacked them so in their anger, they find someone or something to rail against. If those victims, don’t learn how to forgive they will end up hurting a lot of people in their lives. I have seen this first hand.

    Forgive people …. educate people…. don’t take their jobs. Taking a person’s job won’t make things better.

  • Victim Coach

    By the way, for those of you who are interested in how researchers are finding that repressed memories are often fake memories there are several noteworthy books on this subject. I recommend looking up Elizabeth Loftus. She was a University of California psychologist and law professor who specialized in the area.

    Problem is that most people watch cop dramas like NCIS and TV portrays things like repressed memories even though there is no real clinical basis for them. In fact, there are several books written about this topic as well. Just search on the term NCIS Effect in Law. Essentially, people think what they see on TV is true and then when they serve on real juries they convict people because of it.

    I doubt anyone is really interested but I just wanted to pass on the knowledge.

  • Why?

    Why is it always women who complain about everything? Everyday it is something new. The funny thing is that they complain about so much that when an issue comes up that is really valid, no one listens because they are so sick of hearing them complain.

    I feel like we are all back in Kindergarten. When something went wrong there was always that kid that went crying to mommy. Now, when something goes wrong, people go crying to twitter. Look world! I got my feelings hurt!