Tamera Mowry-Housley Cries As She Discusses Racism

    January 12, 2014
    Lindsay McCane
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During an interview on OWN Network’s Where Are They Now special, Tamera Mowry-Housley broke down into tears as she discussed her run-ins with racism.

Since marrying Fox News Channel correspondent Adam Housley in 2011, Mowry-Housley says that she has received intense criticism and hatred for marrying a man that is outside of her race.

“I’ve never experienced so much hate ever in my life. I get called, ‘White man’s whore,’ the new one, ‘Back in the day, you cost $300 but now you’re giving it to ‘em for free.’ Stuff that, me as a person, could never even fathom,” she reveals. “I can’t even think of these words.

Mowry-Housley says that she never even gave any thought to race when she chose who she would date or marry. She, and her twin sister Tia Mowry-Hardict, are bi-racial, and she says that she just wanted a relationship based on love. “It’s very hard for me to think of it because I’m a product of it,” she continues. “My mom is a beautiful black woman and my dad is an amazing white man. I grew up seeing a family. I didn’t grow up seeing, ‘ooh a blank with a white person!’ So it’s very shocking to go through this,” she said.

“This was the big one. They say, ‘Oh Tia’s a true black woman because she married a black man.’ Oh? I’m lesser of a black person because I married white? I love my husband so much. I love my family,” she explains. “I love our dynamic. I’m proud to be in the relationship I am in because it’s based on love. Pure love.”

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  • K. Howard

    Who you love or want to love is your business. The world is just foolish.

  • Jen

    Why is she letting people upset her? People’s problem with race is theirs not hers. She married the man she loves and who loves her. That is personal and has nothing to do with anyone. Can’t believe she is so weak as to let people’s views bother her to the point of crying. Woman up girlfriend…don’t give anyone power over you and your family by reducing you to tears. You grew up in a bi-racial family. You should understand strength and love beyond color and not allow anyone to view what you have through their eyes.

    • Jordyn

      Not everyone is built that way. It is okay to be emotional and sensitive. She doesn’t need to “woman up”. She’s free to express herself in a way that sees fit. You don’t live her life or go through the backlash, so you couldn’t even begin to understand. I’ve seen the horrible things people say about her, her husband and her baby… her BABY! As a black woman, I’m angered and hurt by some of the things I hear other black people say because its sad and ignorant.

      You may be built Ford tough, but not everyone is that fortunate. Words can and do hurt!

      • EH

        So beautifully said and I am SO grateful for your words because people NEED to hear there is NO standard in being human or simply expressing how one’s humanity feels to them. The world needs to wake up and get real about the tactics they use to create dismiss and discount another person’s humanity and it self expression. I too get feel sad by the words others use but this is no way diminishes my humanity or question my emotional strength. It simply speaks to the reality that feeling and responding is the crux of being alive and connected to one’s humanity…

    • June

      I don’t think anythings wrong with her crying and expressing her emotions. She gave an honest heartfelt answer that hits close to home for her. The fact that she was crying does not make her weak…we have feelings and I see no wrong in her crying..she’s human…

    • Ahav

      You “woman up” the fact that she was able to express her emotions and admit and display the hurt people’s hate causes her is a VERY woman like thing. Jerk

  • strongj2

    These are the people you love right! Remember your past comments you made not so log ago.

  • Liz

    Bottom line is people will always have something to say no matter what. You can’t live your life to please other people. Sometimes you have to have an I don’t give a crap attitude and just live your life.

  • diana

    Racist people can be so stupid, She did not marry outside her race since she’s technically half white lol, wow anyways, she needs to not let other people’s problems affect her, she needs to be strong and tell all of them f8ck you because or else it may cause problems in her marriage and she needs to be strong for her lil boy as well.

    Tia seriously we’re all facing some type of hatred, be it interracial couple, biracial child, gay etc, we are all facing it somehow, im not famous but you are so i could only imagine how much worse it is, look at the i.r. famous couples who have endured all the racism and still together, get your strength from them and focus on the positive not the negative people, who the hell are they anyway? just a bunch of nobody haters, brush them off baby girl.

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  • john baxley

    I hear everyone talking about how you can’t chose who you love! Does that go for same sex love? I’m black and my partner is irish/japanese and you want believe the hateful look and comments I get from black women when they find out we are a couple. It is not just the black population that does this bullying. White people do the same thing when I am out with my white niece and nephew.
    The would just needs to change.

  • Lloyd M.

    A man and a woman love each other, and choose to marry each other; color, ethnicity, etc., mean nothing.

    To the haters out there… GET OVER YOUR D–N SELVES!

  • Mary Boyle

    Tamera I am so sorry for you to go through this. People are so ignorant. We are all God’s children regardless of our color. I am white. but my son-in law is black and i tell people he is my son.He is a very wonderful man that i honestly believe God sent to my daughter. We have been out and have had slurs made toward them and he will walk away, but I don’t. I will let them know how truly ignorant they are. I was out with a co-worker who is my daughter’s age ( she’s black ) and she calls me mom. We were shopping and she called me mom and a woman looked down her nose at us. I couldn’t help myself, I said yeah she’s my daughter, she took all my color and all I have left are just a few freckles. The woman walked away with a shocked look on her face. I don’t know if it gave her a reality check, but I bet she pondered over what I said to her. God bless you and your family.

  • Valen

    How sad, most people wher are live are in interacial marraiges. Most of the kids are interacial. I just thought it was no big deal now I see it is to some people who want to run other peoples lives.

  • Shay

    Tia and Tamera we love you!!!!

    You are intelligent, gorgeous women. That’s who you are first and foremost. Ignorance has no color and it is obvious that there are some very ignorant people out there. There will always be that ignorance and hatred out there because people refuse to realize, that love is where you find it, not in the color of ones skin.

    The individuals making these comments apparently don’t have anything exciting happening in their lives, thus the interest in what’s happening in yours.

    Stay Strong!!!! Be proud of who you are and be proud of whom you have chosen to be your husband. You have to do that in order to raise that beautiful baby with the love that you were raised with.

    Once again, we love you!

  • Bee

    That really is a shame. I understand how sometimes some people may think that it makes more sense marrying someone of the same race because of the idea that they may have more in common but to really sit here and think of these cruel, disgusting and over the top racist comments is something completely different. Like it is so unnecessary. And it is crazy. People need to just stop and leave them alone. If they are happy then let them be happy. A marriage is hard enough without everyone else’s opinion. At the end of the day, it is their marriage no one else’s. So people need to leave them alone.

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  • Sam Nazzal

    She has the right to marry whoever she wants. People should do whatever they want and not give a care about what people think. The people causing Tamara Mowry a problem because of her marriage need to go f–k themselves. They are idiots who need to get lives and shut their mouths.

  • LD

    Being from the South, I would like to express my opinion concerning mixed marriages and bi-racial children. I am 60 years old, raised in the South all my life, raised to believe that races mixing is wrong. Through the grace of God, I can see the light now. We are all children of God, color means nothing, what,s in the heart means everything. Sweetie, I admire your strength to speak the truth about racism and racist remarks in America. You are a beautiful human being and I am so proud of you for decrying the awful racism we still have in this country. God Bless dear, I love you and your family.

  • beatrice armstead

    tamera you don’t have too explain your love for your husband to anyone. beautiful young lady. adam your wonderful spouse. your new son. GOD has you back. keep up the good work.

  • Venice

    Black men are very insecure when a black woman doesn’t just automatically chose them and acts like other men in the world exist. People thinking Tamera is overreacting or making this up have never been in a bw/wm relationship because there is a lot of black male prejudice out there. Just go to any black female star who’s married to a white guy’s message boards and see the nastiest on there.

    • Shay

      I agree!

      It’s okay for them (black men) to marry white women. They have been doing it forever. But when a black woman marries out of her race she is harassed and persecuted because of it. Told she is less than a woman. Just remember, just like they(black men) are allowed to choose whom they want to marry so is she. Love is COLOR BLIND!!!!

      • http://N/a Melissa

        I dont agree with your comment, it is not always ok for black men to marry white women. People say ignorant comments about mixing races and it doesn’t matter if the guy is black and the women is white or vice versa, people are always going to have negative things to say but as long as you are happy in ur marriage/ relationship that’s all that matters ! Don’t let haters get to you! Black and white is beautiful

  • Tea

    As unacceptable and sad as it is, all over the world there are people that do and say hateful things. They were here before us, and no doubt will be here after us. We can’t control that fact nor can we control those kind of people. You just can’t get caught up in it and give them any energy. Consider this: Predudice and hatred is like hearing the same joke over and over…..After a while it loses it’s “wow factor”. You’re going to be black and your husband will be white and hopefully you’ll be married “until death do you part”. Can u imagine crying about the stupid stuff people say for the rest of your life??? Tighten up the elastic on your big girl panties. People and in particular strangers should not get that kind of energy from you. They don’t pay your bills, determine the blessings in your life, or even what the weather will be tomorrow. Develop a thick skin because guess what….somebody else will probably say they hate you…..So okay, your husband, your siblings, your parents, in-laws,cousins, real friends and fans still love you!

  • Tea

    That should have been “prejudice” by the way. :-)

  • Reyven

    I am proud of her for going out and telling the world about this. It is sick and I will never understand why it is still like this. I am in an interracial relationship as well and we have got those looks from people, not only white and black but also from people of Hispanic and Asian decent. When I was going to meet his family, he had told me that his grandfather wasn’t one to really care for the black race. Well I wound up meeting him and he completely adores me. That just shows that if ones of the older generation can get over this then what is the excuse for this new sick generation? I grew up with family who never dated outside their race and the younger generation of my family would have no example to look up to. Just to know that it is okay to date outside of your race. I must say thru it all I take pride in being that example for them, and hope that one day that they will to experience being in one. At the end of the day it is only love that matters, and little do they know it will only make us and all the other interracial couples out there stronger.

  • Chestnut Place

    As long as we are on this earth, there will always be love and hate. My advise to Mrs Mowry-Housley is to focus on the blessings in your life, and pray for your haters. Maybe one day their eyes will open to see how really ignorant they are.

  • Cross Eyed

    I agree that it’s wrong, but I don’t think anyone should be surprised by it. I find it interesting that she if focusing on hate speech from other black people. I can’t imagine she hasn’t gotten any racist tweets from whites. The history of white men and black women in this country is very complicated, and there is a lot of resentment about that passed down from generation to generation. There is also a double standard when black men marry white. Black women get very angry about it and will reference the same thing, history, when justifying the hate. There are very real issues surrounding race in this country, and people in interracial relationships should not expect any more insulation from it than anyone else.

  • http://N/a Melissa

    Tamara you are sooooo awesome!!!!! Don’t let people’s hateful/ignorant comments get to you. You and your husband are beautiful together, and love is not defined by color!! People are always going to try to bring you down, don’t let them! You have a beautiful family and anybody who doesn’t like it , isnt worth your time!
    Keep your head up! Black and white =beautiful

  • http://facebook avril

    Tamera these people is not worth your tears ,u and your family are beautiful,these people don’t know GOD that is why they
    makes such nasty remarks.Love u Tamera

  • akelly1999

    It seems to me that the racist problem in this country is getting worse instead of better. why is it that a black man can marry a white woman and that is accespted but u let a black woman marry a white man and whooa that is a real no-no. stick to your guns, ppl can help who they fall in love with and besides it's nobodys business.