Katy Perry Shares How She Learned to Love Herself After Painful Breakups

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Katy Perry has been proactive in dealing with the emotional aftermath following her divorce from Russell Brand in 2012 and her breakup with John Mayer in February.

Instead of pining away and lingering in the post-breakup blues, Perry got out of the doldrums by working on her inner-self through therapy sessions. She has walked away from those sessions with a renewed outlook about herself and future relationships.

"What I've learned is that if you don't have the foundation of self-love first, you really have nowhere to pull love from to give it away," the 29-year-old singer told Harper's Bazaar in an interview for its October issue.

"I had to learn about taking care of myself before I could take care of others. I want to mommy everyone. I want to take care of them. I want to save them, and I forget myself in the meantime. I learned that through therapy," she said.

Perry said she also learned that if she can't find someone who will love her for her strengths and business savvy, it's just not worth it. According to the magazine, the powerhouse entertainer has sold more than 13 million albums and 72 million digital singles.

"A lot of times I've ended up with people who have been intimidated by me, unfortunately. They say they're not, but it comes out in the long run. They're threatened, or there's resentment because they don't know how to handle it," she said. "I'm looking for someone who's inspired and could be inspiring with me."

While she possesses a positive outlook for a future love interest, Perry revealed that she's not really into the whole dating scene.

"Well I'm not really on the street," she says. "It's usually just friends of friends. We have a lot of dinner parties. I'm definitely not on Tinder, even though I joke about it."

Pam Wright