Ethan Hawke Talks Sexual Fidelity

    December 1, 2013
    Kimberly Ripley
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Ethan Hawke dished about sexual fidelity in a recent interview, during which he called society’s views of both adultery and monogamy ‘outdated.’ Formerly married to Uma Thurman, the actor also talked about meeting his ex-wife on the set of 1997’s Gattaca.

“People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity,” Hawke said in the interview. “‘He’s cheated so he’s bad, she’s cheated so she’s bad’, as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous. To act all indignant, that your world has been rocked because your lover wasn’t faithful to you, is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went grey.”

When asked if he is monogamous, he replied, “I am, but in Before Midnight there is the threat of sexual attraction to others and maintaining your sexual identity with your partner over a long period of time. Human beings are sexual beings.”

How secure do you suppose Ethan Hawke’s present wife, Ryan Shawhughes, who incidentally was his and Uma Thurman’s nanny, feels about her husband’s bold statement? He maintains he is very happy with her.

“My relationship with my present wife is thrilling to me and I’m committed to it,” he says. “But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can’t be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to grow, but you don’t get to define how that happens. They do.”

Do you suppose Hawke and Shawhughes have a nanny?

With regard to ex-wife, Uma Thurman, Ethan Hawke sort of refers to her as an accoutrement that came along with his film role.

“We tried to be as optimistic as we could be: we all want to believe in love and the possibility of love. The older you get, the more you realise how powerful love is. You understand the right ways for emotion to lead your life and the dangerous ways. I don’t regret marrying early. Gattaca was a great moment in my life and a great moment in Uma Thurman’s life and we fell madly in love and wanted to do all that.”

One of Hawke’s daughter’s from his marriage to Thurman once balked at his candid nature, saying he really should think of his children before making some of the comments he is rather famous for making. It certainly sounds like she might need to get on his case again.

This Twitter follower sums things up rather accurately, it seems.

It will be fun to see how late night comedians like Jay Leno, Jimmy Fallon and David Letterman interpret Ethan Hawke’s recent comments. It also seems pretty likely he’ll be poked fun of on Saturday Night Live.

Hawke’s most recent film, Cymbeline, opened in theaters on Friday. It also stars Dakota Johnson and Milla Jojovich.

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  • Most People

    You shouldn’t cheat period. Once trust is gone in a relationship, the relationship is over. Yeah, it sounds modern to say that monogamy is outdated, but the reality is that being monogamous reinforces trust. Trust is important.

    Now, I do think we are not mature about sex. We have made it taboo in this country and we ignore the realities of life. Sex is very important to a relationship. It is not everything, but I assure you, if the sex stops in a relationship the relationship will fail. Very rarely does a couple stay together if the sex stops or it seldom occurs. America never deals with reality. That is one of its biggest problems. Americans wonder why things go wrong and why their solutions don’t work. It is because they never look at things realistically.

    For example, on the topic of sex, we know our teenagers are having sex like rabbits. We see young teenage girls, who look like they are in their 20s having sex, but cling to this idea that they are children and don’t know what they are doing. We cling to some picture in our minds that it is still the 1950s but it is actually 2013. Teenagers are killing people, using drugs, stealing, bullying, shooting up schools, using steroids, and a variety of other adult things, but we still cling to this notion that they are children and can’t consent to sex. We will send them to prison for life because we say they know what they are doing when they take a life but apparently, they still can’t consent to sex. It is moronic. Everything is telling us they aren’t children anymore, but we ignore it.

    Until we realistically look at sexuality and what is going on between men and women — things are going to decline in this nation. Things really are declining. Divorce is at a all time high and it only slows down when there is a spike in people choosing not to get married in the first place. Men and women fight way too much. Feminism has really destroyed how men and women interact. The family unit has been decimated. We really need to start looking at thing realistically.

  • @most

    I agree with what you wrote, but who are we kidding. America never deals with reality.

    On 9/11, building 7 fell at free fall speeds even though it wasn’t even hit. Fires have never brought down any building in the history of man and the fires that were in that building were small. In fact, the fire department was pulled out of the building hours before the demolition. The evidence is overwhelming that the American people were not told the truth about 9/11. Parking lots full of cars (1400 cars to be exact) that were 7 blocks away from the crash site were mysteriously melted. Buildings that collapse from fire do not melt cars. But to make matters worse, a passport and a copy of the Koran…. fluttered down out of the sky, and landed un-harmed, in pristine condition.. to be discovered by the FBI. Cars melt but apparently paper doesn’t burn. There are hundreds of things about 9/11 that simply don’t make sense.

    Americans don’t deal with reality and will believe anything. America is very much living a delusion. Mass delusion.

  • http://gmail Ebony

    He knows that what he is saying here is wrong,he has to. If he really believes for one split second that what he’s saying is right then something is seriously wrong with him.This is just his way of covering it up and justiyfing what he’s done, and what he likes to do. Trying to make it like it’s okay when in reality it’s anything but okay.