Strangers Help Bisexual GA Teen After His Parents Kicked Him Out

    November 3, 2013
    Erika Watts
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After a Georgia man learned of parents disowning a teen in his area because they found out he is bisexual, the man started a campaign on GoFundMe.org to raise money for the teen. Since the campaign’s October 22 start date, total strangers have donated more than $18,000 to help the teen secure a place to live, purchase a car and buy food and other essentials.

Nick, an 18-year-old living in Marietta, Georgia was like most other teens his age–living at home with his parents while commuting to college. This all came to an end when someone told his parents that the freshman at Kennesaw State University is bisexual. Their response? To kick him out of the home and drain his bank account.

That’s right–not only did they dump his belongings on the front yard and tell him to find somewhere else to stay, they also emptied his bank account of all the money he had saved working as a bag boy at Publix over the past three years. Nick’s parents also took his car.

“This whole thing started when my stepmom caught wind of me being bisexual,” Nick said in a YouTube video. “I don’t know where she got her information from, but I know it wasn’t from me. She didn’t like that and neither did my dad. I got told some very vulgar and disgusting things…That’s why I didn’t tell them, because I wasn’t ready. And I didn’t tell them for the exact reaction I was scared about, and that’s exactly what happened.”

After the teenager was left homeless, Steve Bevers learned of the situation from his mother-in-law who works with Nick and took the young man in. While Bevers and his wife are willing to let Nick crash on his couch as long as he needs, they decided to turn to online donation website GoFundMe.org to try to raise money to help Nick get started out with another car and his own apartment.

“When I heard about what happened to Nick I was flabbergasted,” Bevers told The Huffington Post. “I couldn’t understand how a parent could do that. While I’m sure there are multiple sides to the story, I just was amazed. I was hurt. The first thing I asked was, ‘Does he need a place to stay? Does he need some money?'”

Since starting the GoFundMe.org campaign, Bevers has raised more than $18,000, and the donations are still rolling in. Bevers’ wife posted the following comments in an update on GoFundMe.org:

“I am so touched by the generosity and kindness you’ve shown this extraordinary young man. I have no doubt that he will do great things in life and make a difference one day. Lastly, I also want to mention that while we are all rallying around Nick, we shouldn’t forget love and tolerance for those who haven’t shown it to Nick. Responding to this with hatred or bad thoughts for Nick’s parents won’t help this situation. Thank you again for your offers to help. Either Nick, Steve or I will be in touch in response to these offers. Love y’all so much! #lovewillalwayswin”

Nick also posted a video update to Vimeo and thanked people for their support:

[Image via Wikimedia Commons]

  • It is True

    You know what is so funny about all this gay/straight nonsense? There is only 1 sentence in the bible that refers to being gay. It is in Leviticus, which is in the old testament. One freaking sentence has caused so much hatred and suffering. The really funny thing is that Christ came along because people who followed the Old Testament were brutal, uncaring, hypocrites that were getting it all wrong. Love, mercy, kindness, peace, forgiveness, and not contributing to the suffering of others. What is really so hard about this?

    Of course, we are talking about the State of Georgia in this article. There are lots of hypocrites in that state. A state that prides itself on its Christian roots is so unmerciful that it has the highest rate of incarceration of any place in any country in the history of the world. Yes, you heard that right. Do the research and you will find out that it is true. Just go to the Atlanta Journal website and look up their prison statistics. I guess all that stuff Christ said about mercy and forgiveness didn’t make it into the bibles down there. But they sure know how to keep their prisons full so they can run 23 prison industrial work plants! Hypocrites.

    You don’t disown your family ever. I don’t care what they do. The reality is that everyone on this earth has done something they regret or something wrong. No one is perfect. From the looks of this, this kid didn’t do anything to deserve his parents doing this to him. One day, they will look back on this and regret doing what they did.

    • Todd

      Well said. We Christians would do well to actually read and follow the words of Jesus Christ. Otherwise, who are we worshiping? Isn’t Jesus, that’s for sure.

      • @Todd

        I totally agree. I am not trying to bash Christianity. I will tell the world that Christ is right about everything. Absolutely everything. I just feel very strongly that most people don’t follow his examples. Many Christians have none of his compassion and mercy.

        People so quickly lose sight that his life was the example by which we should live.

        Gay or Straight. All people can go to Christ. We should all trust in his mercy. We should all try to be like him. We should do what he says. Love God and Love Each Other.

    • shawn main

      not true about just one comment… read Romans Chapter 1

  • Keith Pinster

    Christianity: destroying lives for nearly 2000 years for no valid reason and going strong!

  • Steve J.

    It is very heartening to hear of the outpouring of support for Nick, and also for the truly Christian actions of the Bevers in taking him in and also the plea that “…we shouldn’t forget love and tolerance for those who haven’t shown it to Nick. Responding to this with hatred or bad thoughts for Nick’s parents won’t help this situation.”. Although the actions of Nick’s parents to date are saddening, perhaps in time they will grow past their initial fears and learn to love and accept Nick for who he is. Certainly many parents have overcome long-ingrained homophobia. Even if they don’t, the Christian thing to do is to hold firm against intolerant acts but not to judge them as people. Good luck Nick!

  • anonymous

    Has anyone talked to the parents? Do you know for a fact he was kicked out? Well, he wasn’t. He chose to leave because he didn’t like their rules. They offered him the car, He threw the keys at them. His story is pathetic. He had it Good there. He obviously doesn’t have a conscious. Btw, his family knew he was gay long before now. He May have just figured it out. His stepmother is a very kind and loving person. She took in 4 children that weren’t her own and loved them all add if they were. Ask Nick, he wrote her a letter thanking her and apologizing for all of his mean behavior for the past 4 years. Have some respect for the parents and kudos to them for tolerating all of this hatred. Do you see them all over the media to his lies? No, they hold their heads high and sleep well at night because they know the truth.

    • anon

      Where is your proof of this?

  • anonymous

    Where’s your proof his story is true? Again, did anyone ask the parents their side? How about the fact he was suspended from work for a week for his lack of respect to his supervisor? Clearly his issues are more than just with his parents that did everything for him. Bottom line he has no conscious and his lies will catch up to him eventually. -A family friend

    • anonymous

      UPDATE: Nick’s father sent the following response to this story to The Huffington Post:
      Bottom line, Nick had posted his personal business ALL over social media (FB, Twitter, Instagram, Ask.fm). We asked him to come down stairs and verified that it was true. My wife and I have known for 3-4 years Nick was gay, that was NEVER our issue. Our issues stemmed from him admitting to drinking and driving, getting suspended at work for a week for insulting his supervisor, blasting his personal business all over social media for future employers/nursing school applications to read, and his down right disrespect to every member of our household, especially his sisters by giving them graphic details of his sexual encounter with a 26 year old man (not something 3 teenaged girls need to hear from their big brother). Nick has a chip on his shoulder and a temper as well.

      We gave him 4 rules:
      1)take down all Social Media for 30 days because it was consuming his life and he could be posting things that 5 years from now he will regret
      2)that he was not grounded BUT he was to drive to and from work and/or school with our car until he proved he was making better decisions and not drinking and driving
      3)he needed to change departments at work because he was currently reporting directly to the ex-girlfriend that got him suspended for a week (I even went & talked to his manager for him & that was his suggestion)
      4) that he needed to seek counseling to process all of this and deal with the anger he has towards his biological mother

      At no point in time did we kick him out. He chose to leave because he didn’t want to abide by our rules. Rules that were still pretty lenient considering. He showed up at the house after his first day back to work from his suspension, started yelling, cursing and threw his car keys at my wife, then assaulted her and grabbed her. She was offered to press charges by the police (that Nick called) but didn’t want to ruin his college career or chances of getting into nursing school. He said, “I don’t want shit from you people”. We told him, “Nick you only have 6 weeks left in this semester. Lets get you through it and we will find you an apartment and get you moved if you don’t want to stay here”. About the car, it is a leased vehicle that we leased for Nick with an agreement that he would make the car payments, pay for insurance and gas. He agreed to all of those terms and we told him he would be responsible for all 36 payments no matter what, again, he agreed. As for taking his money, Nick was well aware that the remaining payments for his car were transferred to our account. We told him repeatedly take the car you are going to need it, we will make sure the payments are made. He again refused to take it. His sisters were present with all of our conversations with him so for him to lie and say that we took his money, his car and kicked him out is a down right lie. We didn’t ask Nick to leave and we certainly wouldn’t put out one of our children because of their sexual orientation. We are way too laid back for that.

      Kind Regards,

      Nick’s Dad